Life hack: Be friends with Erestor.
When you're having a bad day, or just when he feels like it, he'll steal two of the cupcakes his coworker brings to meetings and share them with you, and as long as you don't let him add the cream you'll always have coffee in the morning.
He'll tell you to drop toxic people from your life with no reservations: his will be the voice that is ruthless when it says "Don't you dare settle" and kind when it says "You deserve better, Lin, you deserve to be happy." He'll be the one to remind you to breathe, take a break, get some lunch, call in sick, the moment he sees you prioritising your job over your mental health.
Be be friends with Erestor. Your life will be better for it.