Ashley gets shocking news!
I could not believe that at the age of 16 I had sex, I always wanted it to be a little bit later in life, but I love Thomas and our sex was the most passionate thing ever! I was sad that I could not tell Amy about it, if I had told her then she would have gotten mad at me big time.
I can not believe that four weeks has passed since that wonderful night. Thomas and I are so in love and we plan to marry in a few years. The only problem is, I have been nauseated, bloated and my period did not come on time. I just pushed it away to my body adjusting to me having sex, so I thought nothing of it. A few days later something told me to go to the store and buy a pregnancy test. I could not believe what I was thinking, could I be in the same situation my sister Amy Nichole Jeurgens Boykavich had been in just 3 years earlier.
When I got home I was pleased to know my mom was not home so I snuck upstairs to take the test. When I peed on the test and sat it down I could not believe what flashed up on it two minutes later, PREGNANT, no way could I, Ashley Jeurgens at 16 years old be having a baby. My parents had been through enough already with my sisters pregnancy, what would they think if they found out that I was now pregnant at 16. I knew they would never be able to get over it if I became a mother around the same age as Amy was. My mom had been so upset when
I decided that I should tell Thomas before any of my friends. When I got to school that day he could see something was wrong, my face was droopy with sadness written all over it! I asked him if I could see him alone and he said sure, then when he sat down I broke the news to him. At first he thought I was joking, but I quickly made him understand it was no joke, it was real! The next thing that popped out of his mouth was what about an abortion? I quickly told him I would never consider killing my unborn child. We came up to the conclusion that we would have the baby adopted and when we tell our parents we will make sure they know we want to have the baby adopted. I saw how hard it has been on my sister to be a teenage mom and with my mom already a mother again to my sister, Amanda Louise.
I decided that before we told our parents we would go to an adoption agency and look over adoption. It was the scariest thing to walk in there with all those pregnant girls scared and nervous about having their babies adopted. The adoption counselor was very sweet to me and Thomas. She helped us understand adoption, closed adoption, and an open adoption. I decided right then and there that I could not give my baby up. I liked the open adoption, but I could not give my child to some stranger for them to someday say no to me ever seeing my child again. I was going to form another plan and it was not adoption and it certainly was not abortion. I decided to go see my family doctor the same one Amy saw for her pregnancy test, Dr. Hightower. I had just seen her a few weeks ago at my sisters wedding, but now me and Thomas were in her office to make sure I was really pregnant!
Dr. Hightower greeted me with a smile like always. She could not believe that I was now asking for a pregnancy test. It had only been 4 years since Amy had walked into her office at the age of fifteen asking for a pregnancy test and praying to god it was negative. Just like my sister mine was positive. Dr. Hightower decided to do an exam of me to make sure everything was going ok and she said I would need to see an obgyn to better know if my pregnancy was going along ok.
That evening when I got home I started looking for a place for mothers who are young and pregnant to go and live at until the baby is born. I quickly decided my mom would never let me be shipped off somewhere where she could not see me. Next I looked into states that would allow teen marriage without a parental consent. I found no such state that would allow that, so we decided to see if we could maybe talk my dad into letting us get married. We then thought how we tell him we want to get married and him not make him suspicious.
The last thing we decided would change our lives forever. We would keep the baby and raise it together. I just had no idea how I was going to tell my mom and dad. Amy would be the maddest one of all, and Ben he would be even madder, he loves me so much and him and Amy always talk to me about having sex before you are married or ready. Now I was having a baby and there was nothing they could do about it.