Philia (φιλία philía)
platonic love, fondness, affection; expressed variously as loyalty to friends, family, and community, and requires virtue, equality, and familiarity.
Uncle Vernon loved to dote about his family to anyone who was willing to listen for as long as possible. The Dursley family were upstanding citizens who contributed to the community. They attended church every Sunday to hear more about the Lord's word so that they could live life as better people and came to mass to receive the Lord's blessing and gain salvation. Uncle Vernon made small but periodic donations to local charities because he still had his family to think about but couldn't bear to leave those who were in need to suffer for any longer. Aunt Petunia attended charity bake sales and always brought the entire package deal of cakes, pies, cupcakes, brownies, and cookies because she also wanted to help the needy and let the community indulge in sugar every once in a while. Dudley loved to make new friends and was always trying to get the withdrawn children to open up and play with him and his friends.
Uncle Vernon was the respectable husband who went to work six days a week as the director of a company that made drills. He was respectful to everyone in the community, greeting them every morning before he drove off to work. Occasionally, Uncle Vernon would buy breakfast for his department as the director because Uncle Vernon enjoyed seeing their face light up with joy. He knew that his superiors were widows and hadn't few opportunities to savor home-cooked meals since the loss of their wives so whenever an opportunity arose, he always invited his superiors for dinner so that they could enjoy a home-cooked meal again.
Aunt Petunia was a doting mother and housewife who took it upon herself to make sure her loving husband came home from work each day to a clean house and warm meal prepared by hand. She grew her prized garden of tea plants herbs to share with other housewives and share homemade recipes. Aunt Petunia always volunteered to chaperone any school trips or overnight trips so that the children could explore more of what little they could at the age they were. She carried cookies and brownies with her at all times so that she could give one to every child she met on her way to pick up her son and nephew from school.
Dudley was the considerate son who made sure his cousin had someone to play with at school because he didn't want his cousin to be all alone. He was still too young to attend primary school, so he was often seen playing at the local playground. He hung around the same group of children, all of whom tried to get others to join them in their fun. It was endearing to see Dudley seek to encourage his cousin to play with him and slightly disheartening whenever said cousin chose to rebuff his attempts. He was jealous whenever he saw other children approach his cousin and made sure to chase them off because he wanted to be the first one to break his cousin out of his shell. On the bright side, his cousin didn't seem too interested in making any friends, but that made his job even harder. The neighborhood couldn't choose between rooting Dudley on to make friends with his cousin and discouraging him from trying to be friends with his cousin anymore since he didn't deserve Dudley's friendship.
Harry Potter was an orphan who lost both of his parents in a car accident when they were driving while under the influence. He received a nasty scar on his forehead from a flying shard of glass that narrowly missed his eye. Harry Potter was an unruly child who shied away from other children including his cousin. Even though his cousin was just as kind as his parents for taking him in by actively trying to get him to join the fun, he always rebuffed Dudley's attempts. Harry Potter never hung around any of the other children either and was ever seen alone. He didn't seem to have any friends since his cousin chased them off because Dudley wanted to be the first to break him out of his shell. He didn't seem too interested in making friends with anyone either.
Harry Potter was an orphan who did not deserve pity when he was taken in by his loving uncle, a caring aunt, and considerate cousin who only wanted the best for him. He was blessed to be looked after by such a delightful family and yet took everything for granted. Some neighbors would occasionally remind Harry that he should be thankful for what he has when he could've been left to mostly fend for himself at an orphanage; all they would receive were blank stares and the rude, "But what's wrong with living at an orphanage?" He was a delinquent in the making and was bound to get into lots of trouble in the future, the sorts that involved fights, drugs, and gangs. He gave the kind Dursley family so much grief when they were the family who deserved it the least.
Freak was an orphan who earned every bit of misfortune he experienced. He lost both of his parents in a car accident because they were foolish enough to drive while under the influence. Ma'am told him he got the ugly scar on his forehead from a stray shard of glass and that he was lucky it didn't take his eye out. It was a constant reminder of his parents' reckless actions though, and Sir made sure to remind him at every opportune moment. His father was a good-for-nothing alcoholic and a drug dealer who couldn't keep a job longer than a week because he was a lazy scrounger. His mother was a bad egg who ran off with his wastrel of a father, who also happened her drug dealer, without either of their parents'—his grandparents who were now long dead—and gave birth to him out of wedlock. His parents were united in a shotgun marriage and drowned away their miseries that his birth had caused them, which eventually led up to their deaths.
Freak wasn't part of the Dursley family because he already had his family—it was his fault that they were dead. Uncle Vernon and Aunt Petunia made it clear that they were a great deal better off without him, but they took him in out of the kindness of their hearts. They weren't getting anything out of allowing him to stay with them until he was old enough to repay them and move out. Aunt Petunia let him sleep in the cupboard under the stairs instead of the attic—filled with dusty albums, boxes of mementos, and the occasional rat so it would be a tight squeeze, even for him with his smaller than average stature—under the stipend that Freak completed a list of chores each day. Because he was an outsider, Uncle Vernon gave him a set of rules that he was to follow or face dire consequences.
When Aunt Petunia gave him a list of chores that she expected him to complete each day, Freak was more than willing to help out since it was the only way he could earn his keep in the Dursley household. More than anything, he wanted to repay them for taking him in when they could've easily dropped him off at an orphanage. He didn't mind that Dudley wasn't given a list of chores to do since he didn't need to earn his keep as Freak did. If his parents were alive, he was confident that they wouldn't take Dudley in out of the kindness of their hearts like the Dursley family had done for him if Dudley were in his situation. It was evident that Aunt Petunia wasn't all that close with his mother and given how his parents were alcoholics and drug addicts, Freak had probably used up all of his luck when the Dursley family decided to let him stay. Even if Freak had to sleep in the cupboard under the stairs, only got to wear Dudley's old clothes and never got a full meal, he still had a roof over his head and could take baths every so often. Beggars couldn't be choosers, and the least he could do was feel grateful towards the Dursley family.
Aunt Petunia gave him all of Dudley's old castoffs because they couldn't afford to buy him any clothes when Dudley was continually outgrowing his own. He was all right with that since he was more fortunate than others given that he still had a roof over his head and was given clothes of his own to wear, even if they were many sizes bigger than him and sometimes ripped or badly stained. It was his fault that he had such bad genes that he couldn't grow as fast as Dudley, or even normally like all the other boys his age; according to the physician in charge of his yearly check-up, his growth rate was abnormally sluggish. Freak didn't want to burden the Dursley family anymore by whining and complaining after everything they've already done for him.
Uncle Vernon and Dudley were messy eaters because Uncle Vernon worked himself to the bone to provide for the family while Dudley was still a growing boy, so he had to clean up the dining room floor as well. Neither were too concerned with wasting food by letting some fall to the ground than they were with eating as much as they could eat and then some for dessert. After each meal, Freak was typically given little leftovers and at times, scraps because Uncle Vernon and Dudley were feeling particularly hungry. He didn't mind that he was still left hungry after eating because he would much rather have something in his belly than nothing at all. It eased the nearly unbearable ache in his stomach when tap water could only do so much to sate the hunger in his belly.