Title: She Walks
Summary: "Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice." Ephesians 4:31-32
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How easily do you forgive those who cause you pain?
Easily, but with a grain of salt. For me, being angry and holding onto hurt and pain expend so much negative energy, that those emotions aren't worth holding onto.
So, I do my best to let them go.
I forgive easily because it feels better to forgive and move on than to dwell on negativity. Dwelling on the pain keeps the power in the hands of the person who hurt you. Letting go is freeing and empowering.
However, I am definitely guilty of giving people too many chances. I tend to turn a blind eye to the hurt they cause me, choosing to ignore the endless, brutal cycle we are on together. But, I believe that when I do that—when I allow that to happen—it's because I haven't learned what I needed to learn from that relationship yet.
For me, part of that learning process if leaning to distance myself from those that hurt me until I've healed enough to look back objectively. It's something I am working on.
I also believe that people change and grow and that someone who may have hurt you in the past might not be the same person in the future, so, I always leave some small window cracked for those people to reach out should things change.
I forgive all of those who hurt me, but I don't forget the hurt or what I learned about those people because of it. Sometimes it takes years for me to reconcile the pain with my desire to move on. Sometimes it takes minutes.
Regardless, I don't believe that dwelling on the pain someone caused me accomplishes anything beneficial for me.
I won't forget the hurt you caused, but I will forgive because that's what is best for me.