FAILURE
By Tiara Kinnison
Failure is not limited to the definition of not passing. You are capable of failing with a B- if your expectations were a B. I always feel like I am failing. Is that because I set my standards to high or do I not try hard enough? It is unfortunate that dreamers are the ones most likely to fail. Hard work and dedication may not be enough to fulfill your dreams of being a singing sensation if you don't have the talent. Although failure may have different meanings to different people, the international definition is not reaching your goal point. It is possible to fail others also; in fact it may be easier.
My mother always wanted the best for me. She always expected me to be one of the smartest people at the school, and she always wanted me to be one of the most popular people at the school. I am neither of these people and I always feel as if I had failed my mother as a daughter. I've always tried to be popular and tried to make the grades but with a cousin going to UC Davis and another voted prom queen, it is hard for my dreams not to be squashed. I can work hard and dream about being someone that I am not but that is just asking for failure. Setting your standards to high is like asking for disappointment.
I am a big girl, everyone knows it, but sometimes it gets old. I wanted to loose weight it was something I needed to do for myself but setting my goals a super model would be ridiculous. It is impossible for my body to ever look like theirs, naturally anyways. I did not set my goals that high but did make a ridiculous amount of pounds that I wanted to loose. Going to the gym everyday and cutting down on my food did help me loose some weight but not how much I wanted to. I was unhappy and tried to eat less and go to the gym more. I was unhappy with myself, I failed myself but everyone else thought I was looking better. I was unable to please myself because I set my goals to high.
Sometimes you can fail someone so much where they don't ever want to talk to you again. People have an opinion of you all the time, it may or may not be strong but it is there. When you do something outside of what they would expect you failed their test. People always expect me to be happy and excited but sometimes I can't be that. When I get angry and upset people get confused because I am not what they expected. I failed them, by doing something so small, as to rolling my eyes. Sometimes it is good to fail someone's expectations like when they think you are a bad evil person and you do something nice. No matter good or bad there is always failure.
It is impossible to please everyone. No matter how hard you try you can't be what everyone wants you to be. It took some time for me to realize that if I try to be perfect I am going to fail myself. I do appreciate failing because I learned from it and grew from it, and I know now that it is just a part of life that we have to expect and deal with.