The secret of love.
I haven't quite gotten my things together. I am sitting at home right now listening to the radio and the Mary Jane Girls, All Night Long came on. And I think I have come across one of the secrets of the universe.I know why it hurts so much when we break up with someone.The Mary Jane Girls tell us,
Oh, something's got me so delighted, baby
I see your face in everything I do
You got me shook up, shook down, shout out on your lovin'
and boy, there is just no way I'll ever get over you
That's the magic line--And boy, there is just no way I'll ever get over you. Whenever we are in love--and I mean deeply in love--we tell ourselves that if something went ary (a break-up, a death, etc) we would never get over someone; that somehow, we would never regroup from the tragic events.But we can look at nature and history and see recovery from drastic devastation. Sure it takes time, but humans have survived floods, fires, avalanches, earthquakes, volcanoes--you name it. And nature (plants and animals) itself bounces back pretty well from all sorts of meteorological and geological disasters.But somehow we tell ourselves that the loss of one person will utterly destroy us. Do we believe ourselves when we say, And boy, there is just no way I'll ever get over you ? I don't think so. I think we know deep down, that not only can we get over lost love, but that we will get over it.If that's the case, why do we hurt so much? Why do we insist on telling ourselves this untruth? Some say its because we don't want to face the prospect, work, and energy of moving on. I partially agree. But I think it has more to do with ego.Human beings seek perfection and immortality. We want to be superhuman--or at least have parts of us that transcend humanity. We want to believe that love is eternal, that the emotions that we feel for that special someone, somehow extend beyond mortal flesh.Why don't we want to get over relationships? Because to move on is to admit that love is finite, that maybe our love isn't as powerful as we fantasized.We don't want to accept that