No girl can ever forget her first crush. No matter how many years ago that first crush occurred, that one person stays imprinted in her mind. He's ether that first brick that starts the wall of caution surrounding her, or he's that first blanket that she wraps herself in to begin the warmth and feeling of love, blissful love. And, even if things don't work out between that first crush –whether he pushed you in the playground because he thought you'd like it, or he was too embarrassed to even admit he liked you– that first crush builds up your most trusted advisers around you. This way, you understand who your true friends are and who just wants to wait for you to trip so they can make fun of you.
But, most of the time, those you trust plant ideas in your head. And, most of the time, they're stupid ones like, "Oh my God, that gorgeous boy eating at the table is so checking you out!" when he's really looking at the clock above your head, or "He's so going to ask you to homecoming!" when he ends up asking the cheerleader who loathes your guts…Or, the absolute worst: "He only did those things because he likes you!"
God, what woman doesn't hate that one?
Of course, at first we relish in that thought, that squirm of hope that hey, maybe that guy spilled his boiling coffee on me not because he secretly wants my job and wants me to roll over and die, but because he likes me! But, that very thought stays in our mind, so even when that boy comes up to us, calls us a dumbass, and walks away without a second thought, we think, "Hah, he's only doing that because he likes me!"
Yeah. Right.
"He broke up with you because he thinks you deserve better."
Uh huh. Sure.
"He hasn't called in over two weeks, even though you've been going out for four months, because hey, maybe his cell phone broke or he lost your number! You know how unorganized that boy of yours is!"
Do you really believe this crap?
"He likes you, but won't ask you out because he's shy and wants to find the One before he goes asking her out."
The lamest excuse in the book!
"He just finished his five year relationship with his long-term fiancé. Give him some time, and he'll come running after you!"
Oh, come on! Why, oh why, do we feel the need to build each other up when we know, deep inside, the answer to why Mark didn't call you or why Justin has been admiring you for two years and still hasn't asked you out? Let's be honest here, who doesn't like an honest friend? At least, with that person, they'll tell you straight to the face the words that ring so true, yet sting so much:
He's. Just. Not. That. Into. You.