I was just reading this book called "The Triple Bind" by Tommy Stephen Hinshaw, Ph.D. It's a book about all the things teenage girls and young adults alike are expected to be an do, i.e.
1: Be good at all the girly things
2: Be good and guy things
3: All while being perfect
I barely got reading before I started crying. Someone actually wanted to try and make people understand how hard it is for girls in today's society. We're expected to be kind, loving, empathetic. Sexy, athletic, smart. We're expected to never fail, and always be happy. In reality, this isn't true. I don't think I'm alone when I say it's complete bullshit. We're supposed to be sexy and at the same time, we're supposed to be modest. This is absolute insanity
It causes depression, eating disorders, self-harm, and suicidal thoughts. I know this is a fan fiction website, so when I was reading it I was thinking about a lot of fanfics out there. You guys don't have to make your female characters perfect, nobody is perfect, and we shouldn't be expected to. A lot of girls are on this website to escape everyday life, creating worlds where you CAN be perfect, your own characters and ideas for your ideal self. So I've resolved to make my characters imperfect. Like me. And that's OKAY. Girls you don't need to be perfect, stop listening to society, don't create these false faces, you're unique and beautiful! No matter what models and pop stars are like! Don't worry about them! Be yourself!
I know this sounds hard and probably really cheesy, I don't mean to be though. Know that my heart is really in this with you guys, I hate the idea I need to get good grades and have a boyfriend and be beautiful. It fucking sucks. You reading this, you're beautiful and amazing and perfect just the way you are. You don't need to worry about what other people think. Don't get into the mindset that you're not good enough! You are! Look at your body right now, look how cute you are! You're so cute. You're so pretty, give yourself a fucking hug, you're perfect just as you are right now!
Y'all if we get enough girls to understand this, then there won't be anything stopping you from being yourself! And if you're a guy, don't expect all girls to have your ideal body. If you actually get to know the real us, we're funny and interesting and kind. If you let us be OURSELVES. If some random older doctor guy can get us, you can too guys.
FUCK YOU SOCIETY I DON'T NEED MAKEUP TO BE PRETTY, I'M FUCKING AMAZING!
Dress the way you feel comfortable! If you like that top, wear it! If you like that sweatshirt, wear it! Be comfortable in your own body!
YOU'RE FUCKING AMAZING!
EVERYBODY IS FUCKING AMAZING!
DUDES YOU ROCK!
If you are struggling with depression and anxiety, you do need to tell someone you trust. It's very serious. I know you can get through this, I believe in you.
I love you guys :)