Analyzing is the first thing to being with. You must analyze and observe your subject, and see what you like and what you dislike about their actions and reactions to certain things. For example, think of the person you want to be with.

Do you really like her, or do you just like her because of her looks? Take her looks out of the equation and see, do you really have feelings for her? Or is she just a stuck up annoyance who only cares about her appearance.

Is she worth going through the trouble? Or isn't she?