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Ch. 4 The Plan

"So what do you suggest we do hmm?" Gaara asked as he laid back into the grass.

"We need to meet everyday after school; we have to do everything possible to make your family believe that we're married and to do that we gotta know our shit." Terra pointed to her palm. "That means if we so happen to get separated from the other our stories will match…Gaara? Gaara are you even paying attention!" She barked hitting his chest, seeing that he was trying to nod off.

"All this is pointless," He groans glaring at her as he rubbed his chest. "All you gotta do, is go in there smiles, nod and sit looking pretty. That's it!"

Crossing her arms, she tried not to groan and loose her shit. Did he really think it was going to be that easy! "Gaara…you know that you just lied to your family saying that you were married, just so you didn't have to marry some other chick…Your sister nearly blew her top when she found out. They are going to grill us to the bone, asking us the hard questions." She stood up and began to pace.

"What is my favorite color?" She continued.

"What? The hell that has to do with anything you just said?" Gaara glared, this shit was getting pointless, and damn confusing.

"Answer the fucking question."

"Wha…Fuck….I don't..Pink?" He growled.

"Wrong its teal." She hissed. "What's my favorite type food?"

Sighing Gaara sat up. "…Chinese"

"Wrong! It's Italian."

"Favorite fruit?"

"Apple."

"Wrong! It's Pineapples!"

"Damn, Ok I get it!" He snapped while grabbing the back of her shirt and pulling her down to the ground.

"Argh. Stop manhandling me!" She grumbles fixing her shirt and pantie like gym shorts. "Their going to ask us, Where did we meet, How did we meet, where did he propose, how did he do it." She sighs. "You gotta know me like you know your own dick….sorry for the analogy…"

Gaara wiped his face trying to hide the smirk. This chick was weird and really fuckin annoying, but he gotta say he did pick the right girl.


Phase One: Getting to Know You.

Step One: Be patient with yourself and the other person. Getting to know someone takes time.

"Ok...let's see ah, here's a good one!" Terra smiles pointing chewed up pen at the redhead. "Who is the person you admire the most?"

"No body, next question."

Twitch.

"Fine, what is your favorite type of exercise?"

"I hate exercising."

Just breathe.

"What did you want to be when you were still a kid?"She asked through clenched teeth.

"Why would I have wanted to be something, when I knew I had money that would never run out?"

Don't Kill HIM!

"What kind of activity do you love doing?"

"This is fucking stupid..."

"ANSWER THE DAMN FUCKING QUESTION!"

"I thought we were suppose to be patient with each other…If you keep hitting yourself like that, I'm not paying any hospital bill if you get a concussion."

Step Two: Demonstrate a genuine interest in the person. Determine what is significant to that person and have conversations about that topic and spend time engaged in that activity. This will help the person open up to you more so that you can get to know them better.

"Oh, really? Wow so why do you like it?"

"What you mean why I like it?"

"I mean, what I mean, why do you like? How did you get to liking it?"

"Oh wait, so there now has to be a reason why I like things, I like it because I like it!"

"Aw damn Gaara don't start this!"

"No, I want to know!"

"Fuck Gaara why you gotta make this hard!"

"I'm not making shit hard, its you!"

"Ok, you know what I'm leaving, until you can figure out how to talk to me!"

"Wait this isn't done get back here!"

Step Three: Spend time with the person. This way you will be able to observe the person in various situations.

"Gaara, why the shit, are you calling me at three in the morning?!"

"A date? At three in the fuckin morning! Take your ass to bed you damn creepy insomniac."

Click.

Step Four: Observe the person. What a person does is more accurate than what they say. Study them and their lifestyle. Pay close attention to how they respond in a variety of circumstances. Are they active or sedentary? Notice what they eat, drink, wear and drive. Notice how and with whom they spend time. Who are their friends and associates? How do they interact with you and others? Notice their likes and dislikes.

"Ew, you eat like a pig…"

"So now I have to work on my table manner?"

"Aw fuck…"

"Lets go."

"NO, I don't wanna go I'm tired I'm staying here!"

"Get your ass up now"

"Fuck you fire crotch!"

"Why are you always at home? Get out of the damn house sometime!"

….

"Hold the shit…what are you wearing?

"What you mean what I'm wearing."

"Go take that shit off."

"What? Gaara I think I look nice! I don't have money like you do!"

"Take it off NOW!"

"FINE!"

"Your going to kill us slow down!"

"I'm only going 180!"

"Gaara! Watch out for the lady!"

"Why the fuck was she jaywalking!"

"Damnit Gaara the light was red!"

"No, no, we're not having this conversation again Gaara!"

"The Hell we are, why are you always, hanging out with him!"

"Kabuto is my FRIEND! F-R-I-E-N-D! Something I'm sure you don't have!"

Step Five: Listen closely to what they say. How do they communicate and what do they talk about? Do they talk a lot about God, their children, their job, or social life? Do they speak well of others or are they a gossiper or criticizer? Do they complain or speak positively for "Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks."(Luke 6:45)

"Blah, Blah, Blah, Blah, Blah, Hahah and, and then Kabuto…he… Blah, Blah, Blah."

"Fuck you Gaara, your so Blah, Blah, Blah, Blah, Blah, Blah."

Blah? Blah? Blah?"

Blah, Blah, GARRA! Are you evening listening?"

"…No,.."

Last Step: Accept your findings in reality. Getting to know someone means getting to know who they actually are not who you want them to be or how you want them to act.

"Tsh Amen to that shit…"

"Terra, Hurry the fuck up!"

"I will get there when I get there!"


Phase Two: How to make a Marriage work.

Step One: Mutual respect

As unromantic as it sounds, this means never taking each other for granted or simply expecting certain things of each other without asking or having a discussion around roles. For example, how would you feel if your husband automatically expected you to know where his clean shirts were or assumed that all of the household chores were your domain and your domain only? A good relationship relies on teamwork and sharing responsibilities equally – not leaving one person in charge of everything. Having mutual respect means appreciating each other and showing that appreciation by saying thank you when your partner does something nice for you.

"Here…" Gaara shoved a small white box with a teal ribbon in Terra's face.

"Wh-what's this?" She chuckles nervously.

"Just…just take it…"He mutters looking away from her, one hand shoved in his pocket while the other held the gift.

Taking the tiny box, she noted it was warm and cold at the same time, frowning she opens it and smiles, it was her favorite dessert. Hot Fudge Brownie with Vanilla ice crème. Since coming to Japan Terra notice it was hard trying this treat for some odd reason. So, he was listening...

"What's this for?"

"So I have to have a reason for getting you thing?" He mutters.

She didn't answer not wanting to fight, but she couldn't help but smile. Getting up she grabbed his large shoulder pulling him down to her and kissed his cheek. "Thank you…and there some cookies on the table…if you want some..."

As she walked away she hears a soft 'thanks' and couldn't help but do a little dance. Score!

Step Two: Common Courtesy

It may seem overly simplistic but remembering to extend small common courtesies to your spouse such as calling or texting when you're going to be late, offering to make dinner when the other person is super-stressed, etc. will go a long way in making your marriage work. No one likes to feel underappreciated (or worse, not appreciated at all), so if you both make a point to show appreciation towards each other, it will be much easier to keep your relationship healthy and minimize potential resentment. Resentment often starts when one person feels they pull more weight than the other or that what they do goes unnoticed. Be nicer to each other to avoid this trap.

Tap, Tap, Tap, Tap, Tap, Tap, Tap, Tap, Tap, Tap. "He's not going to come…I know he's not….no…I shouldn't have done this…" She mutters angrily to herself as she looked over the candle lit dinner she made. It was suppose to be their 'anniversary night' since they met on July 30th. So every 30th they have 'anniversary night' it's been nearly three months already.

"Beep, beep." Looking her at her phone she saw the words Gaara light up followed by. "I'm almost there..."

Maybe there's hope for him yet…Terra blushes lightly as she felt her heart jump when a car door slam shut. Why am I so nerves? Its just Gaara!

When the door open Gaara, was dripping wet with rain his hair sticking to his face as he held a white cake box. He glared at her before looking away a small pink hue going cross his face. "You didn't have cake last time…"

Yes, we might just fool his family…"Thank you…now go dry off the food already cold, and hurry I don't have long until Aunite and Uncle come back from date night!"

Step Three: Compromise

This is probably the most important healthy marriage must-do on our list and something that should be taken very seriously. We all want to be right (it just feels good sometimes), but always needing to have the last word and turn every argument into a full-blown fight can really wear on the relationship. Compromise means coming to a mutually agreeable solution – something you can both live with. You may still think you're right and he's wrong, but it can often be better to try and merge your ideas until you hit on something that satisfies both of you, rather than one of you feeling slighted or angry.

"Gaara I really don't want to start this fight!"

"But you all went out last Thursday!"

"Are you mad because it Kabuto? I went out with the girls for three weeks straight and you don't even bat a lash Oh but one day with Kabuto you blow a fuse, Gaara he's my friend I been ignoring him to much, He's really sweet and I think you two will get along great if you stop glaring at him!"

"But you hang out with him more then the girls why?"

"I hang out more with Aya and Cho and it's been 5 weeks, yes that means five Thursdays ago, since I last seen Kabuto and no Gaara school don't count! My friends are missing me…"

"…"

"Argh…I'm going to be late for the movies…bye!" She snapped storming off.

"Only on the weekends."

"What?" she mutters, confused but understanding. "Fine, but that includes Friday night's too."

"Whatever…but Aya and Cho must be with you, Always!"

"Deal!"

"Fine, now get out my face….."

"Thanks Gaara!'

"Whatever!"

Step Four: Acceptance

There are no two ways about it; you must accept the man you have married. There is slim to no chance that once you have him settled into a home with a garden and white picket fence that he will transform magically into the prince you've always wanted. A frog is a frog no matter how you dress him up, so if you want your marriage to work, acceptance is key. If you married him, you need to love him for whom he is now – not who you hope he will become.

Terra tossed the magazine down groaning. She been trying for three months to turn Gaara into that loving man they had seen at the park, but for the love of shit she couldn't get that man to show affection! He did everything else, she can safely say that they know each other to the 'T' but getting him to open up and show emotion, to fucking cuddle, was like pulling teeth!

She looked over at the boy who looked dangerously like a man, thinking over the words again and again. 'A frog is a frog no matter how you dress him up' that part of Gaara wasn't going to change, he wasn't going to show open affection like that man at the park. The only thing she can get him to do is hold her hand or place a hand on her knee when they sit….maybe that's all they needed to pull this off…to make this look real maybe the key was to keep him the same!

Smiling she grabbed the magazine again walking over to him and popping him on the head. "Oi, stop dosing off, now let me hear it again, when did we met?"

"Argh, woman! We went over this!"

"I don't care! Now when did we met damn it!"


Here are the articles I found the steps from. I take no credit!

www...sheknows...com.../love-and-sex/ articles/ 847065/ top-4-things-that-will-make-your-marriage-work

www...wikihow... Get-to-Know-Someone-Better

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