Question 6:
Dear Ken and Eliza,
My boyfriend has a lot of attractive female friends and it makes me nervous. Is it normal for a guy to have so many lady friends?
Insecure in Iowa
Dear Insecure,
Define "normal". Also, you have to take into account that normal sort of varies depending upon your situation.
For example:
1. He's a fashion photographer – normal
2. He's actually a closet homosexual – normal
3. He's unusually sensitive and in touch with his feminine side – normal but again I would wonder if he's straight, as most of us straight guys tend to be somewhat out of touch with our inner woman
Check to see if his life is such that it's understandable that he has a lot of pretty lady friends, and he still comes up as not normal, well we'll cross that bridge when we get there.
-KM-
Dear Insecure,
What is it that ultimately has you worried? That he will be unfaithful or grow tired of you? Also, in what context does he know these women? Did he know them before he met you, were they old girlfriends, coworkers, or school chums? You also have to ask yourself, has he ever done anything that would give me cause for concern? If he's never given you reason to distrust him, don't. On the other hand if he's out partying with a different woman every night that he just met, you might want to reconsider your relationship choice.
-EM-
PS: I apologize in advance if Ken's lack of political correctness regarding the gay community offends anyone.
-EM-
PPS: Hey, I agreed to give advice. I never said it was good advice…
-KM-
Question 7:
Dear Ken and Eliza,
My boyfriend doesn't like that I won't give him head. I told him that I don't think any woman likes giving head. Is this true?
Orally Challenged In Oregon
Dear Orally,
I don't see how anyone could possibly like brussel sprouts but some people really do.
-KM-
Dear Orally,
That's sort of the problem with sweeping generalizations – there are always outliers. Even then, Ken does have a point. Just because you don't like something doesn't mean it's objectionable to everyone. I think the more important reality to address here isn't whether or not any women like giving head. The issue is that you don't enjoy it, and your boyfriend is aware of this. We can't always get everything we want out of life, and part of a healthy relationship is accepting your partner for the things they do as well as what they don't do. If not getting head constitutes a deal breaker for your boyfriend, it's probably better to know sooner rather than later.
-EM-
PS: You know, even though brussel sprouts are generally unpopular, they are considered to be good for you.
-KM-
PPS: I don't think you can make the same argument for oral sex.
-EM-
PPPS: Don't be such a Negative Nancy…
-KM-