Seriously? Seriously? How hard is this for you people to understand? I asked, quite politely, for you to join the conversation in a way where I could respond to you personally, either on this website or on Tumblr, and you just didn't. That's incredibly inconsiderate. Also, clearly those of you who responding anonymously didn't read what I wrote, because you're making points I already refuted. But here I go anyway.
Anon: Wow that explanation just blamed Kurt for Blaine physically cheating on him and ending their relationship. Nothing Kurt did justified Blaine sleeping with another man. Sometimes cheating is cheating with no need to rationalize such a flagrant betrayal of trus
How many times do I have to fucking say it? I AM NOT BLAMING KURT."It takes two people to make a (monogamous) relationship work, and therefore it takes two people to make such a relationship fall apart." Do you not understand what this means? That means I am ascribing the blame for the dissolution of their relationship on BOTH OF THEM. Kurt made mistakes. Blaine made mistakes. Did I focus a bit more on Kurt's faults than Blaine's in my essay? Yes, but that was because no one questions Blaine's contribution. He slept with Eli; that was his mistake. But Kurt-stans find it so easy just to forget about the fact that Kurt contributed to the break-up as well. And I have never, ever tried to excuse what Blaine did. There's a post on Tumblr that says something to the effect of, "Past trauma explains bad behavior but does not excuse it." This applies to this situation. Kurt and Blaine's poor communication before the break-up does not excuse Blaine's actions, but it is certainly relevant and needs to be noted. Kurt is not faultless here.
And you're right. Cheating is cheating. Which is why it's important to recognize Kurt's infidelity with Chandler. Ignoring that isn't going to make the break-up or what Blaine did go away, but it will help put the entirety of their relationship in a reasonable context. Both of them are flawed people who have hurt each other. Embrace it, friend.
Also, clearly it can be rationalized, because Kurt took him back. And isn't that the crux of the matter? Kurt took him back. Kurt was the one who was, ultimately, hurt, as you've pointed out, but he made the decision to look at the situation rationally and say, "Okay, I know what I did, I know what Blaine did, and I know who we both are as people. I think we've grown from this experience and I don't think Blaine will hurt me again. I trust him not to do that." And clearly he does, because he's going to fucking marry him.
Anon: How do you know Kurt was flirting with Chandler? Show one text message where he was leading him on? I don't know if you know how journalism works but I do, and it is time consuming. I worked at a weekly magazine and I had to miss my parents birthday, my friends birthday, even my own birthday. I has a friend who was late to her husband brithday and had to miss the premiere of his first movie. Should he cheat on her? But he understand hat is her work and her passion. And it was a weekly magazine, I can't imagine how much worse a webpage that have to be updated constantly must be.
Of course I can't show you that text message. But we know Kurt was responding positively, because he was, you know, responding positively, laughing out loud and smiling and such. And even if he didn't flirt back, he didn't discourage Chandler from flirting with him, because he kept doing it.
"I don't know if you know how journalism works"? Really? Really? I'm not eight fucking years old, I understand how journalism works. And like I said in my second response, you have to make the time. I am a busy person, and I have four best friends. Sometimes, I just do not have time to talk to them. But I make sure that I don't let my connection with them wane, even though we all live many, many miles apart. This is something I make the conscious choice to do, because I love them and I love the relationship I have with them. And, as I also said, even when Kurt did make time for Blaine, such as when they had a Skype date, he blew Blaine off and focused solely on himself instead of sharing the conversation and talking about Blaine's life.
Because I think this has been lost in all of this, I'm going to say something quite plainly: I love Kurt. I love Kurt. I hate that he was hurt by Blaine. I hate what Blaine did. I hate that their relationship was temporarily severed by something that could have been prevented by better communication. Kurt is not 100% responsible for the break-up. Blaine is not 100% responsible for the break-up. Those of you insisting that I'm trying to shift the blame from Blaine to Kurt are wrong. Wrong wrong wrong wrong wrong. There are no ifs, ands, or buts about it. You're wrong. You're also wrong if you think that one act by one person can topple a relationship that fundamentally requires two. This "once a cheater, always a cheater" argument that many people in the fandom are trying to use to discredit Blaine and to dismiss Klaine is nothing short of stupid and simplistic. Relationships are really, really fucking complex, in case you didn't know, and people are too. No one is once an anything always an anything. People change. Sorry if you don't like that. I was once an avid Twilight fan. Then I fucking grew up and recognized, oh yeah, Twilight is shit. Blaine and Kurt have grown up and realized that a relationship, particularly a long-distance one, requires a lot more commitment and effort than they were originally putting into it, and they've made the necessary changes within themselves to make that happen. Relationships go through periods of trial and error. I guarantee you, one of them will hurt the other again the future. Many times. Because that's what humans do. And that's okay. That's more than okay; it's fucking wonderful. Because it means we get to pick ourselves (and each other) up and try again.
Now please, please, I will once again ask politely: If you'd like to make a counterargument, I would love for you to do so, but do not do so in an anonymous review of this fic. There are ways for you to contact me (as stated above) and still remain relatively anonymous without making it impossible for me to respond without creating yet another extraneous chapter of this fic. It's time-consuming for me and I imagine it's annoying for the people who genuinely want to enjoy this fic.
Thank you and have a good day.
