Children Waiting for the Day…
Episode 4: On the Other Side of the Window.
To want. When we begin to want, do we lose ourselves? What does it mean to want? What do we want? What would a toddler want? What did 3 year old Heather want?
Heather was out for a walk at the mall with her mother. Her mother had gone to get her weekly manicure. They were on their way to the salon, when Heather saw something she liked. Candy. A candy store. So many treats sat at the other side of that window, so many gumdrops and chocolates, mints and cherry treats, marshmallows…
Marshmallows… In the future…
Heather wanted a candy. Or maybe two. Maybe three. Heather had quite the sweet tooth, really. But, mother said no. "No, Heather." "Why, mummy?"
Why? Why are we denied what we want? Why can't we get what we want?
Mother was in no mood to argue. She needed her coffee. She sat down to drink. Heather was rather uneasy. She still wanted candy. As soon as mother finished drinking coffee, they continued on their way to the salon. After three hours in the salon, it was time to go home.
Why? Why can't we always get what we want?
Mother saw a beautiful dress. She was enamored by it. She HAD to have it. Heather was bored. Mother saw a great bikini, and made that purchase. Heather saw an ice cream shop. Now she wanted ice cream. "No, Heather." 'Why, mummy?" It was time to go home.
They passed by the candy store again. Heather wanted candy. This time, she let go of mother's hand, and rushed headed towards the store. But mother stopped her. "No, Heather!" Heather tried to come up with a way to get rid of what had been stopping her. She considered violence. She then settled for a tantrum. But mother was in no mood. SMACK! "Heather Winslow! You better start behaving like a little lady right now! You can't always get what you want, and crying NEVER helps!"
It is good to be denied our wishes every now and again. Part of what makes us worthwhile is our need to struggle to get what we want. It improves us. Makes us people. To be DENIED ultimately helps us evolve. But, the lesson is lost when the teacher does not go through the same trials. So, Heather learned a very different lesson that day…
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