Since Callie had turned 3 I took the bars off her crib and made it into a bed she decided she wanted Elmo and Disney character sheets because they didn't have panda bear design. I gotten her fully potty trained. At night she would wear overnights so she wouldn't have an accident in her sleep. She been starting to ask me more questions now that she is getting older now. We were sitting in the living room watching TV and the subject came up that I thought I would never have to explain to my 3 year old.
"Mommy."
"Yes baby."
"Do I have a daddy."
"Come here sit up on my lap so we can talk."
"Okay."
"Yes you do have a daddy. Everyone has a daddy."
"How come I never saw him."
"That is because he never came here."
"How come."
"Because he moved to another state before you were born."
"He lived here before."
"No sweetie. The thing is I never been married before."
"So you were never married to my daddy."
"No never was."
"Are you gonna marry him."
"No baby because I'm not in love with him. When I get married I wanna be married to someone that I love."
"Will I ever get to meet my daddy."
"Baby your daddy is a fire fighter and he was fighting a fire a few years ago and the fire got out of control so it killed your daddy."
"So It's just gonna be the 2 of us forever and no one will come between us then."
"No one will ever come in between us baby. It will be just us forever."
"I like that."
"How about we go and get you a bath then I can read you a story."
"A bubble bath."
"Yes we can do that."
I go and bring Callie to the bathroom to give her a bath.
"You know Callie since your old enough to understand things I want you to know something."
"Okay."
"I think you should know that No One is ever aloud to give you baths or help you get dressed except for me and grandparents."
"How come."
"Because it's not a good idea for people that are not related to you to see you naked."
"I understand."
After I gave Callie a bath I tucked her into bed and I red her a story then I kissed her goodnight. Then I went to bed myself. In the middle of night Callie comes into my room.
"Mommy."
"Baby what wrong."
"I can't sleep."
"Come on lay with mommy."
I pick Callie up and tuck her into my bed next to me.
"Love you mommy."
"Love you to."
We go back to sleep. The next day my mom comes over while I'm still getting ready for work and Callie is still sleeping in my bed.
"Hey Stephanie."
"Hey mom."
"Where is Callie."
"She's still sleeping in my bed."
"How come your bed."
"She couldn't sleep so I thought it would help her if she slept with me."
"I understand."
"We had a talk yesterday because she asked me about if she had a daddy."
"What you tell her."
"That she had a daddy and he's a fire fighter and that he died fighting a fire."
"Okay."
"Then I explained to her that Me and grandparents are the only ones aloud to give her a baths because no one else is aloud to see her naked."
"She understood."
"Yeah she been understanding things more when I sit her down and explain things when I need to explain them."
After I talked to my mom I kissed Callie before I left for work. Then when I went to work I wrote up a few speeding tickets. Then I was talking to my partner. while we were patrolling the streets.
"So Stef how old is Callie now."
"She's 3 she's gonna be 4 this summer."
"Are you gonna have her do Pre-school or are you just gonna start her Kindergarten when she's 5."
"I'm gonna have her just start Kindergarten when she's 5."
"I know it's early to talk about schools but if you want Callie to go to the best school I recommend Anchor Beach Charter school."
"Isn't that like a middle and high school."
"No It's from Kindergarten til 12th grade."
"I'll check into it."
"I'm telling you that is the best school here in San Diego."
After I get off work I spend time with my baby girl and we walk long the beach for a few hours then we go home and have dinner and just watch movies while she snuggles into me.