A little notice
I received a review with no name and read as such:
honestly, as a birth mother (aka someone who placed a child for adoption) and someone who plans to work at an agency, this chapter is kind of offensive. children should always know, from birth that they are adopted or else it causes a lot of resentment and anger in later life. it seems like you have it very black and white, and now that savannah fulfilled her convenient plot device to give spencer and catherine a baby, it's easy to write her and saul off as not being a part of their birth son's life. i haven't kept up with reading this because the adoption plot was not that great, but i had to stop reading after i read their 'family conversation' about the adoption.
It was not my intention to be offensive to anyone who had given their child up for adoption or had adopted children. I plan on bring Savannah and Saul back for the last chapter since it's going to be another time jump to explain where they had been and how the families are doing. I based my conversation on how to try to keep things age relative since they were talking to five and six year old per some adoption sites (One site did say pre-school was when most children start asking where they came from) and how my own parents tried to explain that my father wasn't my 'father' at seven. As they pointed out it wasn't going to be the last time they talked about this with their children and lots of sites expressed not dumping everything on them at once, but to space it out based on their age. I do love Catherine and Spencer, but they are far from perfect parents and this was a way of trying to show that they are just parents and as my favorite comic Patton Oswalt said.
"My parents loved me and they fucked up. I'm sure I'm fucking up right now and I won't know it till she's 40! But I'm reading all the books and they're most likely wrong too!"
I hope this clears somethings up...or else I've just add gas to the fire.