Bandy – to pass from one to another or back and forth; give and take
Cassiopeia

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Cassiopeia Black was the only member of the Black family who ever tried to speak out against them and wasn't disowned.

She tried to tell people what her parents, her aunts and uncles and grandparents, had done to her.

People didn't listen, because they thought she was a simple girl. They only laughed and tried to get rid of her. Her family bandied about marriage and such, tossing ideas back and forth, but in the end it was deemed that such a ruined girl was unmarriageable.

And so Cassiopeia never did get married, and she died alone, in the attic of Black Manor, old and miserable.