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What Can I Do About My Child's Behavior?
By
Shellia Kirkendoll-Cooper
Counseling
Children can start behaving really bad, weird and disrespectful and that can be really frustrating as a parent. Many parents ask themselves what I can do about my child's behavior. In such situations, many of the parents, including myself, don't know how to act properly, so they improvise and do untested actions that may have even worse effect. In this article I will give you 6 things you can do about your child's behavior.
1. You can't read their minds
We all know that feeling. When your child is acting out and you're feeling judged by others, I think you have to stop and say to yourself, \I can't read other people's minds.\ Don't try to imagine what other people are thinking and frustrate yourself. Don't be ashamed, just stay calm. If you try and imagine, in 95 percent of the time, you are going to predict and read something negative in their minds. So, when your child behaves bad or awkward in public, or fails at school, stay calm and try to solve that situation, instead of frustrate yourself what others may think or say.
2. It's Not All about You
There is a popular saying that goes, \It's not all about you,\ you have to stay focused on what he needs from you in any particular situation. It doesn't matter that you're embarrassed, afraid, irritated or angry at something your child has done. Remember it is not what somebody else thinks, like we stated previously. So ask yourself, \What does my child need from me right now?\ I think this is the most important question a parent can ask when their child is having a hard time. Keep the focus on your child and try not to get distracted. When kids act out in any way, one of the things they're telling you is that they need some help. As a parent, you know your child best, so don't be afraid to give them what they need. At the end of the day, you are the elderly person, so be focused and calm and try to resolve the situation.
3. Don't make excuses and don't judge yourself
One of the mistakes that parents make is that they justify themselves. Don't do that, it is not always your fault your child acts out or behaves inappropriately. Instead, make directive statements and be confident. Let's say you're at a birthday party, and your child gets angry and starts yelling when you ask him to go sit down. Don't invite people to offer their opinions or criticism or don't think giving others to solve the situation for you. I think you can cut them off at the pass by saying something like, \I'm sorry; my son needs me right now” When you say it that way, you're not defending yourself against anything; you're really just making clear, positive statements. Also, you are taking care of the situation and not judging yourself or any other.
4. Have a plan and take control
Instead of freezing out and acting improperly have a plan for facing such situations? Talk with your kid before going out or to a certain event. Practice this before every going out and you will not only have better communication, but you will also be more connected. If an awkward situation occurs even though you have told him to not behave that, have a plan instead of panic attack. Use every situation as an experience and be calmer and confident.
5. Improve your bond with your kid.
The consistency and severity of awful actions could be significantly decreased as you create and enhance an excellent and caring bond with your youngster. If your kid believes that she or he is cherished, he/she is going to be eager to listen to and also gain knowledge from you. The relationship is not built overnight, so make certain that a child comes in contact with the mandatory love and attention every single day. That is a great way to control and improve their behavior. They will listen to you and what you have to say, and they won't behave unreasonably.
6. Find out and know what your kids are capable of
It's important to have a good idea of what your child is capable of doing. Maybe he daydreams when he's supposed to be working. Maybe he has different dreams and goals. Every child is different, and it's important for you to modify your expectations accordingly. Talk with your kids. It's also important for your child to know what his strengths and weaknesses are so he can recognize when he's getting off track and learn how to get back on. After determining what your child's strengths and weaknesses are, understand that he will make improvements from that starting point.
I've seen kids who are defiant or oppositional completely throw in the towel because they're not capable of doing what you're asking, particularly in relation to school work. That's why it's extremely important to find out what your child's abilities are and begin right there. That's one of the most important steps in making sure your expectations are reasonable.