This is for anyone who believes I think it's not okay for Hermione to have sex with someone and that it is okay for Draco to. This is really not important at all to the plot of the story lol.

I know you're not really supposed to respond to someone who doesn't like what you've done, but I was more concerned with letting them know that what they said was not my intention at all. I have attached a message below, which I also sent to them directly, in order to hopefully clear things up for them as well as any other people that feel this way.

If anyone else after reading this message also feels that way, let me know and I will alter or take down this story. That double standard is disgusting to me and is something that has irritated me my whole life. I did not wait for love, I waited for trust, and that is what I was hoping to convey with this story. People should be allowed to explore their sexuality with whoever they please and for whatever reasons as long as it is consensual.

Beginning of message: Please be warned there may be some spoilers in this message I guess?

Well, I'm sorry you feel that way. However, what I was trying to convey by this story was that trust is what's most important for me. As I tried to make clear, Hermione does not love Draco. She is attracted to him and considers having sex with him, but she does not love him. In fact, she explicitly says she's not looking for love. I am also trying to show how unfair double standards were to Hermione because many people seemed to view her as a slut or as weird for being a virgin, when in reality it does not matter how many people she sleeps with or he does for that matter. Personally, I think you're making this mentality worse by saying Hermione can't have sex with Draco because he had sex with a lot of people. And an actual line from this story is where Draco says he doesn't care that Hermione's a virgin and he wouldn't care if she wasn't. He wants to be with her regardless, but since someone's first time is kind of a big deal for some people, he wants her to be sure. The reason he slept with 19 people, and she slept with no one, is because that's what actually happened. This story was based off of my own experiences, and I didn't love him when I slept with him for the first time. I did trust him though, and that was all I needed. At this point in the story, I cared about him and enjoyed spending time with him. Also, as I mentioned in the story, it's been three years since they've talked to each other. Time really takes away a lot of things and makes it easier to forgive people, at least for me.

I am sorry you don't like this story and I hope you find one you do like! I was not expecting such an extreme misinterpretation, and if other people have this view then that is definitely on me as a writer and I will try to find someway to make it clear that it is not because she is "waiting around for Draco." The funny thing is that I didn't even consider that possibility, since I never even thought I would ever see this guy again, much less end up having sex with him. I can see why you feel that way, though I'm surprised at the assumption, since many fanfics seem to have that theme. The reason she's still a virgin, is because she didn't trust the guy she was with for three years. That is the reasoning I was trying to convey. Not because of anything to do with Draco.

I hope this clears up some confusion and you understand that I wasn't trying to convey the double standards message that you think I'm conveying. As someone who has experienced these double standards herself, I would never want to do that. Draco has slept with many people, but that doesn't make him a bad person or uncaring, which is what I'm trying to show. Hermione hasn't slept with anyone, but that shouldn't keep her from exploring her sexuality with anyone, whether it's with Blaise, Cedric, Harry or Draco, another thing I'm trying to show.

I will be deleting your comment unfortunately, because I think it's strongly worded and some parts are not really constructive, and I also don't appreciate being viewed as pathetic, shocker I know, but rest assured I have taken your criticism to heart and will do my best to make sure no one else has the same misconceptions.

Best,
Dewmoon

After I sent this message I realized I can't remove reviews that are associated with actual profiles. I'm new to fanfiction, so I didn't realize. Regardless, if anyone else has this view, please let me know. I know Hermione may seem weak right now, but that's because I felt weak during that time. And sometimes, it's okay to feel like that. This story is mainly about her finding herself again and loving who she is with the help of people who love her. All of the people, not just a man, which will become more clear in later chapters if it isn't already.

I would also like to emphasize that this story does not represent how I believe other people should behave. It is about what happened to me, for the most part, though we will branch from that a bit in the future since it is still fiction. I do not view anyone I know as being less for not being a virgin or for being one regardless of gender. That's just such a ridiculous idea to me and I encourage everyone to take into account that we don't know the people whose stories we are reading at all, so it's not fair to make snap judgments based off of their views. Hermione is a virgin and Draco slept with a lot of people because that is what happened. It is not because that's how I believe others should behave. As a matter of fact, the friend of mine who represents Ginny was very much not a virgin and slept with many people, and I believe she is one of the best people I will ever know.

Lastly, I know I keep responding to hate, but I don't really do well with not being able to address things and give my side lol. I'm also very new to this whole experience, seeing as I've never had social media and this is probably the closest I've ever gotten to letting anyone judge me on something that is opinion related. The last one I responded to because there were threats to take down my story, and this one I responded to because I would never want to spread this message and I encourage you to let me know as the readers if you believe I am. Any other criticism, unless it is offensive, I will not respond to.

Thank you for all the support otherwise! I really appreciate it!