Dear r/relationship_advice
Believe it or not, I'm not lookin' for a 3way thank u very much. And also my ex is ugh. And his wife is annoyingly kind & painfully smart.
Believe it or not, I'm not lookin' for a 3way thank u very much. And also my ex is ugh. And his wife is annoyingly kind & painfully smart.
By: DarkAndTwistyDoctor
Dear r/relationship_advice,
Thanks again for your kind remarks. I'm back again because my best friend's going through her own love problems so I, therefore, have less time to rant about my love problems to her. So here we are. For the last 24 hours, I have been doing my very best to avoid McDreamy & his McHot wife. Yes, this is what I call them, and what I will call them on here, too.
You see, McHot asked to speak with me today and my boss even encouraged her to. And McHot asked if McDreamy told me why he left her, and I said that he did, and she asked if I took him back, and when I said no she said "good girl". Seriously, "good girl." And not in a way that was possessive over him. In a way that insinuated she was proud of me. And then I couldn't handle it anymore and I asked her if we could only talk when it's professional.
Because hello, I am a professional here, and I can't go around with people telling me I'm a "good girl," around my workplace. I have patients to think about! Also she said there were two sides to every story. I haven't heard hers yet, but I'm kinda curious. Not curious enough to ask. Just curious enough to wonder. See where I measure up. But I'm not gonna do that. Because I am STILL AVOIDING HER.
Okay, and now I'm gonna reply to the people who made me suggestions. Keep 'em coming. At the very least they're soothing my nervous energy.
PotatoTomato147
girl dont lie you do got a crush on this chick, I mean the way you talk about her aka the pink scrubs, red hair and how it's so seductive. I say go for it, take a chance maybe she has a crush on you, if she does then you guys could have an excellent relationship.
I DO NOT HAVE A CRUSH ON HER. And it's a bit weird to call her a 'chick.' I have a roommate that does that. Anyway, if you met her you'd see what I meant by seductive. She's like, pure sex appeal. She's everyone's type. I'm not an exception here. And I feel too empty to hope that she would like me like that...
Nicoleg86
How does she treat you? Is she mean to you, or nice? Maybe she thinks that you are a good person even if you slept with her husband, you didn't know that. As for the husband, walk away unless it is work-related, and for the looks just ignore him
She treats me… Well, actually. Better than her husband does. You see, the husband does this hot-cold manipulative thing to get what she wants. And she doesn't… She just wants me to forgive her, or something. I'm doing my best to not talk to McDreamy. It's working most of the time.
Hime_no_Kowai_Shumi
Dear OP,
Start with friendship and go from there. The wife sounds really nice once you get to know her. I think you should try to be professional with your ex-boyfriend.
Good luck,
Hime
Okay, see that might be constructive. Friendship, I can do that. I'm good at making friends. I have lots of them. Well, five of them. Oops, I counted me. So, four of them. But anyway, every day I get to know her I get a new impression of her. It's like layers of an onion. Only nice-smelling. Like apricots.
writer_on_fire01
OP-
Wife hasn't done anything wrong and it sounds like you could learn a lot from her surgery-wise. Would keep to her good side if I were you
It's true. She even defended me and asked a patient to apologize to me. And you should see the way she stitches. She stitches like a pro. Maybe I'll keep her in my corner. At least as a teacher. I could learn a whole lot from her...
Dangerosa
Dear OP,
first of all, what kind of self-respecting neurosurgeon lives in a trailer? Doesn't he earn millions a year? That's fucking shady. The hell.
Second, so people are judgy. What about it? The wife's hot. You're already a dirty mistress. Embrace it. Do them both (preferably not in the trailer, simply because it probably can't fit three people?). After that they can call it even with each other. Best case scenario you end up with two partners, worst case scenario you save their marriage. Either way, you get to have hot sex.
True, I know right? McDreamy makes millions. Several million a year, but he just loves the woods. I heard he even fishes for his breakfast. He doesn't buy it at the store, he actually catches it himself. And yes, people can be gossipy pricks.
Saying the wife is hot is an understatement. Oh my goodness she has a chest. Like, a really round well formed chest and a trim waist. And her hips. And her- no I won't say that it's too inappropriate. Anyway, I'll give you that one. But that doesn't mean I gotta embrace it.
Their trailer is too small for a menage a trois, but that doesn't mean I'm inviting them over for one. It wouldn't be even for them, he'll have had me… I can't remember how many times and she'll have had me once. That's not fair. And why would I help them with their marriage!? What would I get out of that.
Oh, the sex though. It would be hot. I mean, I know one half was hot but I don't get how he would want to give up her. I mean she has long, long fingers. And she wears ruby lipstick. And what am I saying? WE ARE NOT TALKING ABOUT THIS. Next-
MerAddStan
Dear OP,
Please let me know if this is not the right way to do it (first time responding, because I feel you can use all the help you can get)
From your first post, excuse me if I'm wrong, but the dude sounds like an extreme douchebag with some serious issues. If you do decide to get into a relationship with him, I think it might become very toxic and him thinking only about himself, and thinking he is more important than you are! Don't ever date a guy that cannot handle you R! ? ﾟﾏﾼ
Second of all, the wife sounds kinda lovely, you said she is leggy, beautiful, honest, fair and has been a great teacher. In my opinion, someone who saves babies cannot be bad right?
If I were in this position I would try to get on her service a bit more, and maybe less on the neuro rotation. I mean don't get me wrong brains are all cool and interesting, but that means you'd have to work with HIM, that would give me an aneurism ?
Maybe a beautiful friendship (or even more) could blossom from your mentoring.
And if you still like the guy (but don't want a relationship) casual sex is an opportunity as well, maybe the wife would like to join in, to see what he saw in you, if that happens, do your absolute best to impress her and satisfy her, who knows what can come from that ️
Wishing you all the best! Keep us updated !
Okay, congratulations to the longest responder here, you know how to cheer a girl up. I do need all the help I can get. And thank you, for the advice about th R. I think I will tell that to my future children someday if I ever get it together enough to have them.
Also yeah, she's beautiful. Did I mention that? I could work with her every day and feel fine. She never makes me feel unfairly treated, even though she has every reason to. She puts effort into everything. And babies make for interesting patients.
Actually, sometimes my friend and I sneak into the NICU to watch babies, and sometimes I watch her watch them too. She sometimes sits in the rocking chair and wiggles their fingers and toes. It's nice.
She's just so human…
YES, a friendship. Maybe that's the right call here. We can be friends, and talk about the perils of… Idk something. We have stuff in common right? And idk if I could do casual sex with her. If I were to have sex with her it would be not casual. She deserves candles and a fireplace and romantic music and soft sheets.
And I would satisfy her for a very long time, and when she was finally finished I would not need to impress her, because she would be letting me know that part. BUT WE'RE JUST GONNA BE FRIENDS. And those kinds of friends do not have sex. And yes, unless things miraculously work out I will keep u posted. Ty.
SOOOOO,
Thank you all, for your lovely suggestions. I might try to be friends with McHot. And colleagues with the husband. And now I gotta stop thinking about sex I'm never gonna have. Thanks for that. Why do you do this to a single person!? You're great though. I did ask!
Okay new question: How do I be friends with the McHot wife while I've been avoiding her. And also her husband. Oh and if u have love advice, I could use more of that too.
***** END OF CHAPTER 3
Author's Note:
This work is inspired by r/relationshipadvice
by villhag
and on that fic, the commenters would act as Redditors and try to give the OP some advice.
Feel free to participate if you like as personas in the comments, and I'll keep them in mind to respond to in future chapters. Thank you so much to those who have contributed so far. As you can see, they have inspired this chapter.
Cheers!
bobbiejelly