Okay, guys, normally I would just put AN's at the beginning or end of chapters but I feel like this one is too important to do so. Don't worry if you thought this was an update, I'm publishing the next chapter moments after I post this. This also isn't me saying anything like I'm done writing etc.
It has come to my attention that a relatively lot of people are reading my writing (for reasons still unknown to me) and it's great (don't get me wrong), but I also have to realize that a lot of you are young. I'm doing you a disservice and giving you a false sense of the world by the way I portray certain topics in my stories if I don't make sure that you understand the suspension of disbelief idea.
The Suspension of Disbelief is something that writers use a lot and is though to be understood once you get older when it comes to any works of fiction. One of the ways that I use it is to suspend your disbelief of how easily topics such as depression, abuse, and eating disorders (to name a few) are handled in order to keep my story flowing at a constant pace. I especially do this when trying to show relationship growth.
I don't want my readers to be like I was and think that if you love someone, everything will be okay because when you get the rude awaking it sucks. While love can really help a person, it takes more than that to make sure they are in a good place physically, mentally, spiritually, etc.
Also, don't think that you can take on someone's problems all by yourself, especially if you're not in the right state of mind to do so. It will only end up hurting you and them more. This is not to say that if you need help not to reach out, because you one hundred percent should, but also try not to put all of it onto one person.
Everyone has demons that they hide and while they can take on some to help, they can't take on all of them alone. It's not healthy or realistic for someone to be able to help 5, or even just one, people with all of their issues.
Despite what all these stories will tell you, issues aren't always solved by love and kisses and smiles. They take actually work from both sides and multiple people, and it will suck sometimes.
I warn you because I know how easy it is to fall into this trap of disbelief. I'm a hopeless romantic and have wanted to believe things like this. I would read things romanticizing serious issues and though that that was either how it was or that it would be easier to take care of then it is. It's not.
I know a lot of you (if any) have read this far, but if I can stop one person from ending up having to learn the hard way. From tearing themselves apart to help someone. From breaking down and trying to hide it because they have to care for everyone else. If I can stop even one person from doing that and seeing that the way stories are portrayed aren't relaity then I've done my job.
It worries me to bring this up to y'all, but due to recent events, I feel like I have to. I know some people won't like me for saying this or will disagree with me but I'm just speaking from personal experience. Please remember this when reading stories or when coming upon situations in real life.
I'll stop wasting your time now.