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Anonymous asked:

Sorry I don't have a fashion question
I just saw one of your tags and I wanted to know
what you meant about not being able to reach out?
BC big mood tbh

forthright_foresight

So, okay, have you ever done something that you were so ashamed of that you couldn't even figure out how to apologize? Or just struggled with saying sorry? That's what I mean.

The long and short of it is that I blew up at my friend, probably the best friend I'll ever have, when she didn't deserve it and I said some mean things that really didn't have anything to do with her at all because they're my issues, not hers, and now I don't know how to make it right. I mean, we haven't even seen each other in like three weeks and every time she sends a message I can't find the courage to reach back, so I just don't respond or I put off responding, and then that's worse because replying so long after the fact is just awkward, so I keep not responding and so on. You know?

And like, I know that I CAN just text her and say I'm sorry and she would meet me halfway because she's that type of person, but like I said - the shame of how I spoke to her has me frozen. And I feel like I need to get over my own issues, too, and I'm struggling with that as well. It's a whole thing. Can anyone else relate?

#realtalk #whysayingsorrygivesmeanxiety #anxiousbean #anonquestions #randomrant

Toodle-Lou

Have you tried the Elsa Solution?

(Gift Attachment: Elsa from Frozen singing "Let It Go")

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A/N: Update 5 of 5. See how Alice is handling it? All planned out, I promise! On another note, if you struggle with apologizing (most of us do) then you might try reading Why Won't You Apologize by Harriet Lerner! Lerner also has written several books geared toward people - particularly women - understanding the cause of anger and fear (The Dance of Anger and The Dance of Fear). Her book The Dance of Deception might also be useful, which addresses why women hide their authentic selves, even from themselves. All important reads, in my humble opinion. The Dance of Anger in particular gave me a lot of understanding.

Anyway! As always, be brutally honest. I can take it. Stay safe, stay inside, stay healthy, and stay kind - keeping an open mind and a willingness to learn can make a world of difference. Always question your initial assumptions and try to figure out the source of your original judgment. That's how you learn and change and grow for the better.

~Rae