Without You
(part 2)
"Chandler has, as
we feared sustained a serious amount of brain damage," Dr Sullivan said. Phoebe
noticed that he had used 'Chandler' instead of 'Mr Bing', which she thought was
a bad sign. Monica buried her face in her hands. "In fact he is brain stem
dead."
"No!"
Monica screamed. He couldn't be. Not Chandler. He couldn't be brain damaged. He
couldn't. She needed him too much for him to be practically dead. Rachel hugged
her, but Monica shook herself free. "I want to see him," she demanded. The
doctor nodded calmly.
"Of
course. I'll take you through straight away," Dr Sullivan said. Monica nodded
and followed him into Chandler's room. Dr Sullivan nodded to the nurse who was
adjusting one of the machines, and she left the room. The doctor went out
behind her.
Monica
went and sat down next to Chandler, holding his hand in both of hers. She
leaned her head on his hand and waited for the tears to fall, but they didn't,
they stayed burning her eyes. The pain she felt was too much for tears, just as
it was too great for words.
"Chandler,
I know you probably can't hear me, or understand what I'm saying, but I'm sorry
that you're lying here like this. I would give anything in the world to be the
one that got hit in the accident. Except I would never want to put you through
what I'm going through right now. I wish you didn't have to be here. And I hate
that the only thing keeping you alive is a bunch of machines. I don't want you
to be dead in every way except that you're still breathing. Even though it's
so, so hard for me to let you go. You should be dead Chandler. And that doesn't
mean I want you to be dead, because you know that's not true, it's just that by
rights, you should be dead. You'd be better off dead, instead of in limbo like
this. And I don't know if you hung onto life so I wouldn't be alone, or if it
was just all a cruel twist of fate. But I refuse to let you cling on any
longer, Chandler," Monica said quietly.
She
lifted Chandler's hand and stroked it gently. She fingered the needle of the
drip and wondered exactly what would happen if she pulled it out.
"I'm
sorry Chandler. You may never forgive me for doing this, and I know I will
never forgive myself, but, I dunno, right now it just seems like the only thing
I can do. Keeping you like this isn't fair on either of us. But I just want you
to know that the only reason I'm doing this is because I love you so much, and
I can't stand seeing you like this, and knowing there's no future. I love you
Chandler, I'll miss you every day for the rest of my life. Goodbye honey," she
said, blinking to hold back the tears that threatened to fall at any minute.
She pulled out the drip.
Nothing
happened except a light went on on one of the machines. Monica wondered briefly
if dying hurt if you were brain stem dead already.
"Its
okay sweetie, I'm here," she whispered, "I love you." Monica wanted it to be
over quickly, for everyone's sake. And also she was a little afraid that the
light would somehow send a message to the nurses' station that something was
wrong. She kissed him softly on the lips, then reached over and turned of the
life support machine. Immediately, a number of alarms went off, but she ignored
them, and laid her head on his chest. He was still breathing, but only just,
and it seemed to be costing him a lot of effort. She finally gave in to the
tears and sobbed into his chest as it struggled to rise and fall.
Then he
breathed one final breath. Monica waited for him to breathe in again, but he
didn't. She lifted her head from his chest and studied his face closely.
Despite all the bruises and tubes that were still attached to him, Chandler
looked peaceful. She kissed his lips, then his forehead, then buried her face
in his chest again and cried.
A team
of doctors and nurses came in to see what was happening. When they saw Chandler
was dead, and Monica lying hysterical on his chest, and the life support
machine turned off, they guessed almost instantly what Monica had done. But
they didn't challenge her about it, then or later.
Monica
was allowed to stay with Chandler for a long while. She cried the whole time,
and occasionally whispered to Chandler that she was sorry, and that she loved
him.
A nurse
came and told the others that chandler was dead, but hadn't mentioned that it
looked like Monica had switched the life support machine off herself. The staff
didn't want the others to think it was Monica's fault, or that she had done
something unforgivable, when they supposed she must have had her reasons.
Monica
was still there when Joey came in to see Chandler. He wanted to be alone with
him to say goodbye, but he didn't want to ask Monica to leave. He stood
awkwardly behind her for a few moments, then gently placed his hands on her
back. She slowly raised her head and looked up at him.
"Sorry
Joey, did you want to see Chandler?" she asked tearfully. He nodded gratefully.
"Thanks,"
he said.
"Goodbye
sweetie," she whispered, dropping a light kiss on his forehead.
"Ross
and the others are waiting for you," Joey told her. Monica nodded and left. "So
Chandler," he began. Earlier on he'd had so much that he wanted to say to him,
but now he couldn't remember any of it. He eventually just told Chandler that
he would miss him, and that he'd never had a better roommate or a better friend.
The others all went in one at a time to say goodbye as well, but none of them
really knew what to say. Phoebe sang him a song about a lost button, which she
claimed was a metaphor, because she hadn't had time to come up with a whole new
song.
Again,
once the others had said what they had to say to Chandler, Monica went back in.
she didn't say anything this time, she just hugged him, desperately clinging to
the hope that it was all a bad dream, that she would wake up, perhaps screaming
or in tears, but Chandler would be there and he would comfort her and when she
told him what she had been dreaming, he would laugh and tell her not to be so
silly; he would never leave her. But she knew it wasn't a dream. She knew this
was harsh reality where anyone, even her beloved Chandler, could die.
But
although it was hard to accept that he was dead, the hardest part was knowing
that it was her fault. She had believed at the time that she was acting for the
best, but now that is was over, she wasn't so sure, after all, who had the
right to decide who got to live and who had to die? Not the doctors and nurses
with all their years of training. Not his wife, who loved him more than
anything else in the world. She planned never to tell her friends what she had
done. They wouldn't understand why she'd felt she had to do it. They would
think she was being stupid and she shouldn't have just given up hope like that.
"But
you understand, right sweetie?" she asked him. "You don't hate me, do you?" She
realised she was talking to him as if she expected him to answer her, so she
stopped talking and just held him instead. She hated the way he felt, stiff and
lifeless, but she needed him so much that she couldn't not touch him.
She
lost track of how long she stayed there with Chandler, but right then, time
didn't seem to matter, just as it no longer mattered to Chandler, wherever he
was. Monica had never really known what she believed happened to you when you
died, but she now thought she liked the idea that Chandler was still around, as
a spirit, or a guardian angel, or whatever. But she couldn't bear the thought
of being without him forever.
Eventually,
Monica dragged herself away and went back to her surviving friends. Ross hugged
her and she leaned tiredly against his chest.
"I want
to go home," she said like a child.
"Of
course," Ross said soothingly. "But are you sure you want to go back to your
apartment, with so many memories of Chandler?" Ross asked gently.
"That's
why I want to go back there," was all Monica would say.
"Do you
want us to stay with you?" Rachel asked when they got to Chandler and Monica's
apartment.
"No
thanks, I'll be okay," she said, trying to put on a brave face. None of them
were fooled, but they could tell she didn't really want them around. Phoebe was
absent-mindedly humming a song, but she paused to hug Monica tightly. Joey was
the only one who didn't make a move to leave. He wanted to be with Monica, not
only because he thought she needed someone with her, but also because he needed
to be with someone himself.
"Call
me if you change your mind," Rachel offered. "Joey, you coming?" she asked,
turning to him. He shook his head slowly.
"No, I
think I'll stay here a while, if that's okay with you Mon," he said.
"Sure,"
Monica shrugged. She was torn between wanting to be alone, and wanting someone
to comfort her, as if she was a small child again.
Once
Monica and Joey were alone, he crossed the room and sat next to her on the
couch. They sat in silence for a few minutes, until Joey slid an arm around
her.
"You
gonna be okay?" he asked gently.
"No,"
Monica said shortly. She bit her lip and tried hard not to cry. She felt guilty
every time she cried; since it was all her fault he was dead.
"Well I
feel awful, I know it must be like a hundred times worse for you. But it will
get better. Over time the pain will ease," he promised. Monica smiled; it
sounded like Joey had been watching a little too much daytime TV.
"How
did you get so sympathetic all of a sudden?" Monica asked. He shrugged.
"Still
a little of doctor Drake Ramoray I guess," he admitted, "You know you can talk
to me any time, don't you?" Monica nodded, but didn't offer any of her feelings
up. They sat quietly for a little while longer. Joey felt a lump forming in his
throat, and he didn't want Monica to see him cry, in case she felt like she
should be crying, since she was Chandler's wife, widow now, and if he (Joey)
started crying, she might feel bad.
"Look
Joey, I'm sorry. I appreciate you being here, really I do, but I just want to
go to bed and try and forget about all this," Monica told him eventually.
"Sure,
sure, I'll go back across the hall," he said. Monica smiled apologetically.
"Thanks.
We can talk in the morning if you want," she offered hesitantly.
"Great.
'Night Mon," Joey said as he backed casually out of the door.
"'Night
Joey," she responded dully. She had just realised that she would have to go to
bed, in the room she had shared with Chandler every night for a year and a half
and most night for a year before that. And even for the eight years or so
before Chandler moved in, she'd always had Phoebe or Rachel in the next room.
Now she was truly on her own. She walked into the bedroom and crumpled onto the
bed, still wearing her clothes. But she hated being alone. She couldn't believe
that just twenty-four hours earlier, Chandler had been in bed with her. And
then he'd got up to make her breakfast in bed, and now he was dead. She closed
her eyes and immediately saw Chandler's pale face as she killed him. Because no
matter how good her intentions had been, that's what she had done. She had
killed him. She had murdered her husband. She screamed and ran out of the
bedroom. Monica flung herself on the couch and buried her face in a cushion and
sobbed once more.
She
didn't sleep at all that night. She just sat on the window seat for most of the
night and stared blankly out at the New York City nighttime skyline. Her tears
dried on her cheeks and she made no attempt sort out her make-up, which had
been ruined, after she spent most of the day and night crying. Monica felt
exhausted, mentally and physically. She wanted nothing more than to curl up in
bed, even though Chandler wasn't there to hold her safe in his arms. But she
didn't dare close her eyes.
In the
morning Ross, Rachel and Phoebe stayed away at first, afraid that Monica might
be too upset to want to see them. Joey stayed away as well, but for slightly
more complex reasons. He knew Monica wouldn't turn them away, but she wouldn't
want them all there right away. But he also hated being in the apartment
without Chandler there. It just wasn't the same.
Monica
moped around the apartment all day. She wanted to go see Chandler again, but
she wasn't sure if she'd be allowed. And besides, there was nothing she could
do or say that would make everything okay again. She started to tidy up the
apartment, then realised that to do so would be moving on, changing things,
acepting Chandler's death, and she couldn't face doing that just yet. She went
into the bedroom, where she sat for over and hour, not doing anything, or even
thinking anything. She just stared into space.
The
room reminded her so much of Chandler, and what it was like to hold him and
kiss him, and just to be with him. She had never really understood just how big
a part of her life he was. They had been a couple for two and a half years,
friends for eight years, and had known each other long before that. But ever
since London he had taken up such a big part of her heart that he had sort of
become a part of her. She felt incomplete without him, and kept hearing sounds
that made her look up expectantly, waiting for him to walk in. but he never
did.
Two
days after Chandler's death, Joey ventured over to make sure Monica was all
right. No one had seen or heard from her in two days, which was understandable
considering that she had just lost her husband. But what Joey couldn't
understand was why she was shutting them out. He supposed she just needed time
to be alone, but he wished there was something more he could do to help her.
"Hey
Joey," Monica greeted him when he cautiously opened the front door.
"Hey,
um, are you okay?" he asked, taking in a view of the apartment. Most people
wouldn't have called it messy, perhaps 'lived in', but not messy. But Joey knew
that by Monica's usual standards, it was a tip. He cursed himself for even
thinking that Monica would care. Sure, she was a neat freak, but even she would
put Chandler's death before cleaning her apartment.
"Define
okay," she challenged him wearily.
"Right
now, I'd say 'okay' is anything better than suicidal," Joey joked weakly.
Monica didn't even crack a smile.
"Then
I'm okay, but by normal standards, I'm definitely not," Monica said. Joey
hugged her.
"I
know," he said.
"I just
miss him so much Joey. I can't sleep because I know he won't be there when I
wake up. I can't clean up because I don't want to change anything. I can't even
cry, because its all my fault!" she said angrily.
"Don't
be silly Mon. it's not your fault," he comforted her.
"You
don't understand Joey. Its all my fault!" Monica insisted. She wanted to cry,
but managed to stop herself.
"How
the hell is it your fault?" he demanded, impatient, even though he knew he
should be more sympathetic. Monica froze. She couldn't tell Joey what she had
done, she couldn't. Chandler was Joey's best friend. He would never forgive
her. Quickly she came up with a different reason of why it was her fault.
"He
wouldn't have even been out if it wasn't for me. He was going to buy some
things to make me breakfast in be," Monica said. That was true, but she
knew the accident could have happened anytime.
"Mon,
that is the stupidest thing I've ever heard in my life! How does that mean it's
your fault? Monica, it was an accident, a horrible, unfair thing to happen, but
it was just an accident," Joey exploded.
"Joey,
I'm sorry okay. But please could you just leave me alone?" Moncia asked, biting
her lip to stop herself saying something she'd regret.
"Yeah,
maybe I should," Joey agreed coldly. He didn't want to get mad at her, but he
couldn't help it when she was being stupid and irrational like this. Joey knew
Monica was upset, but that didn't give her a right to be completely self
absorbed. He was grieving too. He stormed out of the door, furious with himself
and with Monica.
"Joey,
I'm sorry," Monica shouted after himn, but he ignored her and just slammed the
door behind her.
Joey
must have told the others about Monica's behavior, because none of them came
round that day, or the next, or the next. It was three days later, when chandler
had been dead for five days, before Phoebe made up her mind to visit Monica. It
was chandler's funeral tomorrow, and Phoebe thought Monica could use some
support from her friends.
Monica
was a mess when Phoebe arrived. Her hair was pulled back into a messy ponytail,
she wore no make-up, and her clothes were crumpled. There were dark shadows
under her eyes, which had a dead look in them. The apartment had progressed to
the universal definition of messy. But there were no plates in the sink, or any
sign of food. Phoebe supposed that even at her messiest, Monica didn't want to
attract cockroaches.
"Oh
Mon," Phoebe said softly and hugged her friend tightly. Monica's skinny body
was limp in her arms, and Phoebe was sure she'd lost weight. She led her to the
couch, where they both sat down. "Wow, this is worse than when you broke up
with Richard," Phoebe observed.
"Yeah,
well, I chose to break up with Richard. I would never have chosen for this to
happen," Monica said, but felt a twinge of guilt, because although the accident
itself hadn't been her fault, she had made the end a lot quicker, so in a way,
it was her fault.
"Yeah,
I guess its stupid to compare the two. Its just I haven't seen you unhappy
since you broke up with Richard. I suppose because Chandler made you so happy,"
Phoebe said, then immediately regretted it, because Monica suddenly looked even
more depressed. "Sorry," Phoebe said quickly.
"Its
okay, you're right," Monica said, but didn't offer any of how she was feeling.
Over the last few days, she had felt like she was alienated, in a way, from the
rest of her friends. Keeping such a huge thing a secret from them didn't help
matters much, because she knew they would never forgive her if they knew, but
that didn't stop her constantly longing to tell them, to tell anyone. She was
already sick of keeping it locked away inside her, and she couldn't imagine how
she was going to be able to keep it a secret for the rest of her life.
Chandler's
funeral had all been organised by his Mom. Nora had seen as soon as she flew in
from London, where she had been promoting her latest book, that Monica was in
no way up to doing anything, so she had completely taken over. Ross was
especially surprised that Monica had allowed this, but he didn't dare bring it up
with her. But right now, none of that mattered. It was Chandler's funeral, the
only purpose of the day was to say goodbye to their friend.
Rachel
had an arm around Monica in the car on the way to the church. Ross sat on
Monica's other side in silent support. Phoebe and Joey were up front. Phoebe
was driving. Joey had his eyes closed all the way. He didn't want to cry in
front of the others. He wanted to be strong. But it was so hard.
The
service Nora had arranged was a quiet and simple one for family and close
friends only. Chandler's dad had refrained from bringing any of his gay
friends, at Nora's request. She herself had left her current toy boy back in
England. A few of Chandler's friends were invited, but most of them weren't,
because Chandler hadn't known the, very well, but they had all sent their
condolences and best wishes to Chandler's family.
"Mon,
you okay?" ross asked her in a whisper as they went into the church. Monica
just gave him a look that said 'how can I be okay?', and Ross nodded and gave
her arm a quick squeeze.
"Come
on Monica, we have to speak to the minister before the ceremony," Nora said,
taking her arm. Monica blindly followed Nora away. She felt her friend's eyes
on her, watching her every move carefully, as if they were afraid she might
break, but couldn't be bothered to turn around and give them a quick smile of
reassurance. she too a deep breath. She didn't feel up to this. She wasn't
ready to say goodbye for the last time. Monica hated to admit it, but for
almost the first time in her life, she felt completely out of control, and she
hated it, especially being the control freak she normally was.
They
filed into the church in silence and sat down. Phoebe was at the end, then
joey, then Monica, then ross, then rachel. The minister began to speak about
how sad it is when someone as young as Chandler was called back to be at God's
side, but Monica hardly heard him. There were tears streaming down her face,
and her whole body shook as she sobbed as quietly as she could. Joey tried to
hug her, but for some reason, that pushed her over the edge. She shook off
Joey's comforting touch and stood up. She pushed past ross and rachel and ran
out of the church. The minister looked up as she left, and shot a questioning
glance at nora, who nodded that he should continue. No-one followed Monica
outside. They figured she wanted to be alone, but they also wanted to say
goodbye to Chandler properly.
Moncia
tripped on the steps leading out of the church and fell in a heap at the
bottom. She wasn't hurt, but she just sat there, unable to move, crying
hysterically, until she head people starting to come back out. She didn't want
to have to face everyone yet, so she got up and ran off again. She went round
to the side of the church. Everyone else must have gone round the other side on
the footpath to the graveyard, because she didn't see any of them.
When
she was sure they were all watching the burial, Monica crept around to the
corner, so she could watch them bury her husband. Her tears were silent now,
and she made a weak attempt to wipe them away. Most of the people at the
funeral were crying, but she believed none of them felt as bad as she did. She
actually felt a physical pain every time she remembered that she would never
have Chandler to hold in her arms ever again. And that pain turned into torture
whenever she reminded herself that it was all her fault. She could have chosen
to let him live on as a 'vegetable' for years, but she knew deep down, as she
had known then, that this was best for Chandler. He would have wanted this,
even though he would never have told her, he would have made sure she kept
hoping, but she knew that what he would really have wanted but not said, was to
make it quick. He had often said she could read his mind, and in a way he was
right. She had known what he would have wanted, and she had made sure he got
what he wanted, however much suffering it had caused her. Chandler wouldn't
hate her. that's what she kept telling herself over and over again, that he
wouldn't hate her, he would forgive her. it was the only thing that kept her
going at night, when she couldn't sleep and in the daytime, when her friends
ignored her. she was lonely now, but she had no way to know how much they'd
hate her and how much worse she would feel if they ever found out what she had
done.
To
be continued…
