Chapter
5: Confrontation
I shuttered as I walked on
onto the roof, the cold wind ripping again my arms, sending shivers
up my spine. I quickly rub my hands up and down my arms in a feeble
attempt to get some heat generated so that I didn't freeze up there.
The rain was still softly falling from the sky. Not nearly as hard as
it was when I had run into work, just more of a drizzle falling, I
walk over looking out over the city. The pavement down below was
glistening from the falling rain that had dampened it during the day.
The
lights of the city now twinkling, as I look at them some have that
halo appearance from the reflecting raindrops. The rain falling from
the sky ironically fit the darkened mood that I have found myself
falling in.
I now close my eyes, opening and closing them as I
try to blink away the tears that have accumulated under them. Closing
them once again, knowing that blinking them away is a futile attempt.
This was not how this was supposed to be, my private life, was
supposed to be just that private. Not something, that was shared with
those who just happened to be standing in the area when I got that
phone call. I don't know who I was more mad at right now, David for
calling me at work, or me, for being stupid enough not to just hang
up the minute that I heard his voice on the other end of the line.
I
open my eyes and start to pace, the anger and frustration eating at
me. I probably didn't handle that the way that I should have. If I
had just shut my mouth before I said anything, or if I had just hung
up the phone and pretended that it didn't bother me, then maybe in a
half hour this might have all been forgotten, but tearing out of the
ER like my ass was on fire, well that would have left an impression
on anyone.
I
take in as deep of breath as I can considering the fact that I have
now realized I am on the verge of hyperventilating. Why did I care
right now, what they thought of me? I was a medical student just here
on my rotations, I wouldn't be a permanent part of County any time
soon, I didn't even know yet if I was going to put County down as a
possible place to do my residency, that will still a long ways away
for me. I needed to take this one-step at a time, on day at a time,
and not let what happened get under my skin.
Standing still I
feel eyes upon me, who would have come up here now, someone feel that
I needed a little mocking, or perhaps I needed to be talked to about
getting personal phone calls in the work place, or they just wanted
to torment me in my time of mental anguish. Thinking about mental
anguish almost made me laugh. I wasn't in any kind of mental anguish.
Now that for me was being melodramatic, but hey I could play it off
it I needed to. I was after all a good actor amongst my many hidden
talents.
"Are you okay?" A voice calls from behind
me.
What is that concern in the voice that is now trying to
talk to me? Do I turn around and answer that, better yet how do I
answer that. I don't know if I am okay or if I am hurting a little,
or if I am just more embarrassed that this has happened. That someone
now knew about my dirty laundry that didn't need to be aired. Maybe
if I don't answer they will go away. I stop pacing and lean against
the small railing that is there as I look down over the edge of the
railing at the ground below me. It's the ambulance bay. Something
that I had never noticed before, not that I spent a lot of time up
here, I've come up once or twice with Abby when she would take her
break and we would talk. While she had her cigarette, her one vice,
she had told me and of course, she had made me promise that I
wouldn't tell anyone that she still did that up here. I stifle a
small laugh that was about to escape my lips, if I didn't answer
would he actually be worried that I would be thinking about jumping
from here?
"Erica, are you okay?" I hear it
again.
The voice asking me pulls me away from the thoughts of
jumping, not that I would do that, oh that would hurt and I had no
intentions of ending my life by jumping off the roof of a County
Hospital of all places where there were doctors and nurses who would
undoubtedly try to put the pieces of my shattered body back together
and then where would I be, nothing more than a broken comatose person
left at the mercy of those around me. No thank you that was not the
way I had intended on spending the rest of my life. There were much
less painful ways to do that, if that was what I had ever intended to
do. I had a bright future ahead of me; I was not going to let the man
that I was married to take away that chance from me. I was stronger
than what people tended to give me credit. After all, I had survived
more than my fair share of tragedy and heartache over the years. Well
then maybe, I should answer the voice that is trying to reach out to
me.
"I'm okay you don't have to worry." I say,
there's no emotion in my voice. My tone as flat as it could ever be.
"I'm not going to jump if you are worried about that."
Oh,
I love sarcasm it has always been a good friend to me. I could hear
it dripping from my voice as I finished that last thought. But then
that was how I had learned to deal with people trying to be
sympathetic towards me. I didn't need it, to be felt sorry for
because of what he had done. No, I was stronger than that. I can no
feel him standing next to me. I couldn't bring myself to turn my head
to look at him.
"Well, no I really wasn't worried about
you doing that. You don't appear to be ready to take that step."
The voice behind me says. I can tell that it is Doug, even though I
haven't turned to look.
I want to tell him to leave me alone.
To give me time to get this out of my system and that I would be back
down in the ER in 15 minutes. I didn't need him to tell me that it
would be okay, that things would get better. But I couldn't force
those words out of my mouth right now. Brutal honesty didn't seem to
be the route that I wanted to take. It might have been much better
than what was about to come flying out of my mouth. As I now turn to
look at him, to see the doctor that was standing next to me, the man
who was the father of my husband, absent father at that.
"No
jumping off the roof of County would be a very dumb idea. There are
much better ways to end one's life than landing in an Emergency room
ambulance bay." There is thick sarcasm again dripping from the
tone of my voice.
Did that come out the way that I think it
did. Was he now going to think that he had some kind of suicidal
medical student on his hands, cause really I might have been upset
about the fact that my husband and I were fighting and I was trying
to get a divorce that he didn't want us to get but really I didn't
see any of this as a reason to end my life.
"There's no
reason for someone as talented as you are to be even thinking of
something that extreme." He says to me.
Now I almost am
thankful that I really am not suicidal cause that might have made me
actually want to leap to my death, to escape the conversation since
he was between me and the door there was no getting away from him. He
has known me for what 15 minutes maybe a half hour and he thinks I'm
talented, oh I know that I am, but he must be pretty conceited to
think that I would believe hearing that from a total stranger.
"No
offense there Dr. Ross, but none of this really concerns you, there's
no reason why you should care what I am thinking." There is no
emotion in my voice as I say that.
"I might not have been
a father to David like I should have been, but that doesn't mean that
part of me doesn't care about him, or what happens to him, or to
those who obviously care about him."
I can hear the
concern in his voice as he talks to me; his voice was calm and level.
It appears to me that he really thought that I was serious about
that. Great this was not going to look good on my evaluation. She
doesn't handle the pressures of stress very well. Maybe attending
physicians didn't do med student evaluations just the residents. With
the way that my luck had been, going lately that wouldn't be the
case. I found myself almost wanted to spill the truth to him, the
truth as what I saw, how my life had changed because of this, that it
wasn't my fault, but more or less his and Dana's for the way that
David's life was screwed up. But I blamed David for this, not his
parents, as twisted as I found, well at least Dana to be.
Here
now I found myself trying to form intellectual thoughts, thinking
about what of this mess I should tell him. This was not easy for me;
I hadn't talked to anyone other than the lawyer who was handling
the divorce.
"He was a good man when I married him,
full of life, compassion, so loving and understanding. He told me to
follow my dreams that he would be right there by me the entire way.
He said that he would be proud to be the husband of a doctor. He
never failed to always tell me how bright and talented I was, and
that I should never stop." I find myself starting to say. "But
when Dana broke down after we had been married for over two years and
told him about you, about his father, he changed. It was almost as if
he was a different man. Become the man that she said you were. He
started drinking and not giving a damn anymore about those who he had
once wanted to give the world for. He withdrew from me, didn't talk
to Dana or to me. But what hurt the most of this was that he stopped
talking to me, his wife, I promised him that I would stand beside him
not matter what we encountered but yet he decided to shut me out.
When I found out about the women, I snapped. I didn't' want to
believe that David would do that to me. He knew that was the one
thing, the one thing that I wouldn't be able to forgive him. The
first time, I swallowed my pride, didn't believe that he had really
stepped over that line, but then there were two and three. I had to
walk away from him and he knew it. I don't know why he felt the need
to do that. Maybe he felt that cliché like father like son was
too true and that he couldn't help himself."
There is an
awkward silence up on the roof now. I tried not to think about it,
not to feel it but it was there. Sometimes the truth was too brutal
and hurt more than one could ever think that it could, but here I
found myself telling him just that. I could almost sense that he did
not know what to say to my little outburst or confession of sorts.
This was going to create quite the working challenge between the two
of us. Why did I have to share this connection with him? Why had I
decided to do my medical schooling in Chicago? Because that's where I
got accepted, this is where all my hard work had led me too.
Northwestern was one of the best schools and I had gotten into it
because I had worked hard. Him being here was just fate, that was all
there was to it, if I over analyzed it I would drive myself nuts. I
didn't to do that. I just wanted to finish my education and move
on.
"I don't know what to tell you Erica, other than to
give you the chance to get to know me, the real me, not the one that
Dana painted." He tells me, his voice still held the concern in
it that was there before.
What? I am half tempted now to turn
and hit him, but I am not a violent person. I take in the words that
he is saying to me. Thinking long and hard before I say anything else
to him, not wanted to sound like a bitch. Yet knowing inside that
this was going to come off like that. Some things no matter how you
tried to sugar coat them never quite could come out right and this
was one of those things.
"Look it's not me who needs to
get to know you." I can feel my voice turning icy with him. Not
that at any point during this conversation I had been warm or
friendly with him. "You are nothing to me. You just happen to be
the attending physician that I have to work with tonight. The
biological father of the man I married, you have played no role in my
life and have not affected my decisions in any way. It's David you
should be telling that to not to me."
"You're right,
but it wasn't just my decision, I respected Dana's wishes. Granted it
wasn't right for me to walk away as I did. But that is something that
I can't go back and change." I hear him start to explain.
He
was telling me that he couldn't' change it. My anger and frustration
with the situation is starting to come to a head and I know that if I
don't find a way to pull it all back under control that I would end
up saying something that I would deeply regret. I start counting to
myself. It's not working, it's not helping, bah I am now about to
scream. Why am I letting this get to me?
"Dr. Ross, you
don't have to explain this to me." I snap, "I could care
less right now why you did what you did. It really doesn't matter to
me. What is going on between David and me is between David and me not
anyone else. I regret the fact that he called me at work, that
everyone down there now knows that I am not talking to my husband
that he has women on the side. But I can guarantee you that this is
not going to affect my work that it will not happen again."
I
feel his hand on my shoulder almost as if to keep me from jumping. He
hasn't said anything yet, and I don't know if he is going to. Not
that I want him to say anything, I would rather just have him let me
be for a little while work this out with out an audience. Hashing
this out with David's father was not at the top of my list of things
to do.
"I am just trying to be a friend." His voice
now soft and was taking on a different tone.
I push his hand
off my shoulder; it's uncomfortable for me to have him touching me as
if I was a member of his family. I wasn't. I was making a clean break
from David and I didn't plan on becoming best friends with his
Dad.
"I appreciate that, really I do, Dr. Ross, but look
I have enough friends and I really don't think that's going to happen
with us. I'm not sure why you and I were brought together, that you
just happen to be returning to Chicago as I am arriving, but this
isn't right. I am not going to befriend someone who has, indirectly
whether intentional or not played a part in ruining my life."
Oh,
man I just yelled at him. I have no idea where that pent up anger
came from. I roll my eyes at myself; yeah I know where it came from.
David had hurt me, he wasn't here for me to lash out at, and Doug
made a perfectly good substitute right now. He was an easy target for
me. I knew that it probably wasn't fair of me to take the anger out
on him. After all, he hadn't ever seen David, that might have been
partially his fault, Dana's too, but I shouldn't have been yelling at
him.
"We can all use more friends." I can hear him
talking and just as I turn to look at him, he turns to walk away from
me. "I expect to see you down in the ER in 15 minutes. You have
work that needs to be done." There was no more warmth in his
voice, and the concern and compassion that was there seemed to have
evaporated.
"I'll be right there." I say to the
retreating backside. Did he expect me to tell him that I was sorry
for saying what I did? If what I had said hurt, yeah I was sorry for
that but I couldn't change the truth. I wasn't going to go and
apologize to him. I didn't ask him to get involved in this.
