24 out of 64 signs of the mental and emotional abuse Jared gave to Rhoda according to Healthline

I thought I might as well put it here. You might know people who are going through what Rhoda went through and they don't even know it. Is this an overkill? Probably.

I. Humiliation, negating, criticizing

✔ Character assassination: telling her she's "always" overreacting, imagining things, too needy or annoying, etc.

✔ Dismissiveness: dismisses her questions and worries as someone being silly or obsessive.

✔ Derogatory "pet" names: calling her "dummy bunny"

✔ Pushing her buttons. Once he knew what would affect her, he'd bring it up or do it every chance he gets.

II. Control and shame

✔ Using others to tell her that she is unacceptable. "They all say...", "Everyone thinks..."

III. Accusing, blaming, and denial

✔ Denying her about her efforts to openly communicate with him about the gossips.

✔ Trivializing. He dismisses her hurt feelings and her attempt to tell him so. Telling her she was being too sensitive, needy or overreacting.

✔ Accusing Rhoda of abuse by saying she's obsessed and that he puts a lot to maintain their relationship.

✔ Goading then blaming. Jared knows how to upset her. But once the trouble starts, it's Rhoda's fault for creating it.

IV. Emotional neglect and isolation

✔ Actively turns her friends and family against her by isolation and false information. Actively turns people against her by telling the media that she's possessive of him while insinuating that she's unfaithful because of being a rabbit.

✔ Dehumanizes Rhoda by refusing to communicate unless she defend, explain and justify herself to him.

✔ Calling her needy every time she reached out for support or reassurance.

✔ Disputing her feelings of worry and insecurity of their relationship as being obsessed.

✔ Withholds affection by dropping her when she tried to hug him just because he's mad at her.

V. Rhoda's signs of Codependence

A codependent relationship is when everything you do is in reaction to your abuser's behavior. And they need you just as much to boost their own self-esteem. You've forgotten how to be any other way. It's a vicious circle of unhealthy behavior.

✔ She's unhappy in the relationship but fears to be alone, especially at the death of her parents.

✔ Consistently neglect what makes her happy (her hobby that he calls farm-ish, spending time with her friends) for the sake of making him happy.

✔ She stopped spending time with her friends and not visiting her parents during the holidays to to please him.

✔ Criticizing herself through Jared's eyes and ignoring what she really think.

✔ Rhoda made a lot of sacrifices to please Jared, but they're not reciprocated.

✔ She feels responsible at the hurt Jared had given to the Fleischer Flock and blames herself for something that he did.

✔ She believes Jared into thinking she's lucky to be in a relationship and that no one else would want her.

✔ She thinks she deserves the treatment because of her flaws and her guilt over her parents.

✔ In one interaction, she thought she broke an unspoken rule of speaking out if she wanted to not rock the boat.

✔ She tries to rescue Jared from himself.

✔ When others point out the not-so-nice stuff Jared does to her, she defends him.

Effects of Gaslighting experienced by Rhoda according to Healthline

✔ Often blames herself when things go wrong.

✔ Low self-esteem and feeling like everything she do is wrong.

✔ Apologizing often

✔ Having a sense that something's wrong, but being unable to identify what it is.

Jared's Characterization

-Jared is a narcissistic puppet master upon wooing Rhoda and during their relationship. He lied, cheated, seduced and withheld affection to get what he wanted, exploiting her insecurities and vulnerabilities without remorse.

-As a toxic narcissist, he thrives in destroying Rhoda's career and imploding her emotionally and physically -bordering into antisocial personality.

-Just like "Who Censored Roger Rabbit" Jessica Rabbit, he is also an amorous narcissist whose self-worth is tied to how many women are attracted to him.

-The song that would describe Jared would be "You Suck At Love" by Simple Plan.