A Special Reply To Reviewer PRAGYAAAYU. (Not A New Chapter)

A review from pragyaaayu on chapter 13 An Expanding Family – Part II

"Is gaeul and yijung are animals or what what kind of shit and disgusting men like to have 6 or 7 children and what kind of no self respect women like gaeul of your story ready to give birth to soo much pathetic children that too what kind of shitty women got pregnant along with her own daughter in law it's total yuk pathetic and disgusting at the same time"

My reply to you:

Dear pragyaaayu,

Thank you for your review/opinion. I'm guessing in your community, culture or country it's not a common practice for a family to have a lot of children? What is uncommon for you may not be uncommon for others. There is nothing wrong to have more than what you think is the normal number of children to have. So there is no need to be unnecessarily upset for the uncommon.

I also hope you realize that fanfiction readers are a vast variety of people with different cultures and backgrounds. Your comments insinuate and generalize that people (including readers of this wonderful website) with many children are shit, disgusting and have no self-respect and that their many children are pathetic. Wow. I'm stupefied with your choice of words. You don't know these people and their children yet you wrote all these disrespectful and hurtful words. Totally not nice, unfair and very judgmental of you to think so. Children are God's gift. You and your siblings (if you have any) are God's gift. Your parents are God's gifts. I am God's gift. My siblings are God's gift. The readers are God's gifts. The readers' children and families are God's gifts.

I, myself come from a very large family and I can assure you that my father is and my late mother (may her soul rest in peace) was not an animal, shit and disgusting and my late mother was a wonderful and well-respected woman. I'm saying this not only because they are my parents and as a daughter, I need to defend them for the offensive comments but also because it's true that my parents is/was not like what you think they are, and you can ask anyone who knows them about this. But I'm guessing you don't know those people to ask about.

I do know some countries practice one-child or two-child policies and that is because of the economic condition or the countries' political, social and environmental situations that led to the policy. If you, dear pragyaaayu, come from one of these countries, it still gives you no right to judge people from other countries which do not practice this policy.

Now, having a healthy and active sex life even until we are of old age, I believe is good. It shows that the love and bond between us and our partner/spouse are strong. Sex is one of the many ways to show love, don't you agree? Moreover, having sex at old ages does not mean we are animals. It means we are normal human beings.

I'm also guessing that you also know that men produce millions of sperm daily? Yes, until the day they die. Even vasectomy does not kill all the sperm. A man has that urge and needs as long as he can.

You would also be surprised to know that there are many women who gave birth in their fifties and also coincidently got pregnant at the same time as their daughters-in-law or daughters. Are they really shitty, a total yuk (yuck), pathetic and disgusting at the same time? I honestly am offended by your judgment. You don't know them and their stories yet you spout those disrespectful and hurtful words.

You see, from some of the real-life stories that I've read about pregnancies at an older age, most of these pregnancies were not planned. They happened even when the couples had taken the best precautions that they could but once they conceived, there was no way that they were going to abort the baby/fetus unless there is a dire medical reason to. What would you do if this happens to you or your partner (Sorry, I don't know if you are a female or a male)?

Dear pragyaaayu,

You are entitled to your honest review and opinion but it saddens me with the way you write it. To be honest I was very surprised to read it and feel the need to write this reply.

I don't know whether you are upset because:

1) of the facts that there are couples with lots of children and that they still get pregnant at an old age at the same time as their daughter-in-law or daughter, and this is not something that you are familiar and comfortable with,

2) Yi Jeong and Ga Eul are your favorite couple and OTP but this story plot about them just doesn't sit well with you, or

3) something similar happened to you or someone dear to you or in your family but the experiences were not pleasant.

But I would greatly appreciate if you could tone down, a lot, your language in writing the comments. Hey, I'm all up to constructive criticisms, I do, but your comments just struck me in the heart. It's not about my story that you're commenting that upsets me. It's about the real people out there and here (readers) that you're judging. Hence, my needing to reply.

You see, in all my stories, other than for entertainment purposes (and the fact that I CRAZILY LOVE SoEul), there is at least one message that I'd love to share with readers. Some are straightforward and some are hidden. Some were based on real experiences. Reality incorporated into fanfictions.

I will consider it a success if readers get these messages and if not, I will try harder to improve my story-telling. Just to share with you, fanfiction writing is new (if you consider two years new, that is) to me. So I really have a lot to learn. Do share your knowledge, ideas, and opinions in manners that BOTH of us are comfortable with.

I apologize if this particular story plot is not to your liking but thank you for taking the time to read and review.

Until then, thank you again.

Take care.

jayjayzek