Dear Sally,
In a relationship each person should support the other one they lift each other up.
Are you being unreasonable? Only you know the true answer to that deep In your heart.
The way it seems is that you have 3 choices in life
1) Go through with making him change his job. His life and all he knows. It may work for a while and he would be at home with his daughter. But do you want him to wake up one morning and look at you or even his daughter and resent you both for making him choose between you and his career. Do you want him to blame you for not being able to do something he loves.
2) You could leave him. If you are truly lonely and unhappy as you say then leave him. Move on and find a better choice. If he doesn't want to leave his job then you leave. Why prolong the pain and agony of trying to make the relationship work.
3) Or the final option is accept him. Learn to live with the fact that his job sometimes means he wont be around. We all have to make sacrifices for love . talk to him tell him how you are feeling. Don't run away and hide. Tell him why you feel this way may be he will be more understanding than you think. Don't argue over it as he is in the forces don't leave things on a argument live has proven you never know what day will be your last.
You are after all suppose to be friends, and a friend is some one who knows and loves you for who you are. They understand where you have been and accept you for who you are and what you have become, yet they still allow you to grow.
Remember life and love isn't always easy. Marriage takes time and work from both sides to make things work together. You have to work with each other and some times make acceptances for who each of you are. Sometimes in life it can be the trials that we are sent that make the relationship and prove that we are stronger together
Love Juliet
once again I don't really know what advice would be given in this case. again I have found some quotes on the internet and built the advice around them. sallys letter was set in series 2 when we saw that there were problems in the relationsip when she ran away to Sydney to her parents
