A/N: Thought we'd round it off with the first letter from our new agony aunt – please take this last opportunity to let me know what you think (and thereby make my day)!
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Dear Amy,
I've been best friends with this boy for years, and I think I'm in love with him. What's more, I have fair reason to believe he has feelings for me too. The problem is, I don't know if it's a good idea getting involved with him, because… well, what if we break up?
Based on my own and many other peoples' experiences, exes hardly talk to each other, and when they do, it's really awkward; what if that happens to us? Then I'd be losing a really good friend as well as a boyfriend.
What should I do?
Seriously Confused
Dear Confused,
My cautious answer to your question is: it depends. But as it's my job to infer and advise, let's look for the answer in your own letter.
Considering that you say you might be in love with him, I'd say your feelings are strong, and if as you say, he likes you back, there's every chance you'd be happy together. You guys have been friends for years, so clearly you're compatible in some ways already – you know you can talk to each other, have fun together, fight with each other and make up, and that's important. Also, considering how long you've been friends, you may find it easier than most to maintain a friendship even if your relationship fails. I say go for it.
But there's no reason to go in thinking that it will fail – think positive! You've been friends for so long, so clearly you already know how to maintain one type of relationship with him; there's no reason you two won't be able to handle another if you keep the lines of communication open and be honest with one another, something you as friends would already have practice doing.
One of my best friends is dating a boy she's been friends with since kindergarten, and they're practically the happiest couple I know. Really, most people have to work to find a friend in their significant other – and if you're lucky enough to find a significant other in your best friend, then I'd say you've found the key to perfect happiness.
Amy
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