r/AmItheAsshole

u/SwanSong350

AITA for refusing to speak to my sister after she fucked my boyfriend? My parents are telling me to forgive her.

A couple of weeks ago, I caught my sister and my boyfriend fucking in his living room. I would never have known they were doing this behind my back if it weren't for the fact that my best friend lives three doors down from him and she texted me, giving me shit for not letting her know I would be in the area.

After I caught them, I took my car back and drove 300 miles to fuck her "one true love" (don't worry, they never even dated, she just really liked him). You can read my post history to see how that went (spoiler: it was fanFUCKINGtastic).

Ever since I fucked him and posted the afterglow pic on all my social media, she complained to our parents. My mom and dad are now saying that I should forgive her. That we are "even" now. I asked them how they could possibly think we were "even" when I fucked some guy she'd never even went on a date with when she was fucking my whole ass boyfriend OF TWO YEARS. They couldn't give me an explanation, just that we were sisters and sisters should respect each other more. When I asked if they gave her the same speech, they wouldn't look me in the eye.

Apparently she posted in the LegalAdvice subreddit too.. .Dying. Thank you to u/MssL for alerting me to that fact.

They are all upset with me now, calling me an asshole for just not forgiving her and calling it square, and for the fact that I went behind her back to fuck the only guy she ever loved. I refuse to budge in my stance, though. AITA?

Comments:

u/AnakinSmom - No! You are not the a**hole. Your sister is and your parents are a close second. Until your sister apologizes to you please feel no remorse for your actions. Now, spill the tea...has he contacted you yet? Please let us know how the next date goes!

u/Rebadams - OMG. You and your sister are not children. You are not fighting over a toy. There are people, and hearts and other families here. No you are not yet in any place to forgive much less forget. Forgiveness may be Devine but it also takes time. You are not a doormat and your family shouldn't expect you to become one'

u/GorGirl - u/Swansong350 - You are not the asshole! I hope you find out who instigated the hookup - was it Tanya or Jacob? Either way, hooking up with your sister's boyfriend is a lot worse than hooking up with your sister's crush. Shame on your parents for picking sides. Don't forgive the skank!

u/exclusiverob - You are not an asshole but, I don't think you should hold a grudge forever. Family is family, boyfriends are not always forever, and sometimes they come and go. Besides you fucked a really hot guy. lol Thanks

u/TwimomJen - No, you're not the ass. Your sister and parents are. They obviously picked sides, now the only thing left is to hook up with the hottie. Best revenge a happy relationship with her crush.

u/Flippysten - No Bella your not that asshole, she is for fucking your boyfriend. She never even dated Edward. Nope definitely not even.

u/Fyrebyrd - I know I'm gonna be in the minority, but at some point, I def think you should forgive her. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but in the future, yeah. Boyfriends come and go but family is for life. Besides, how much fun is it gonna be to get married and have babies with that fuckhot guy who barely knew she existed? That's lifelong torture doused in family love. #worthit.

u/traceybuie - You are definitely not the asshole Swansong. But your sister? your parents even? Why are they even getting involved?

u/LilCullen454 - Don't back down, girl! Also, go get that boy! You know you want to!

u/edwards-debussy - You are SO NTA! WTF is wrong with your parental units?! What she did is not something that should just be forgiven and moved on from. Be strong! Be true to yourself! (And maybe think about giving the guy you spent a delightful weekend with a call—he sounds worth it ;)

u/ScottishRose1028 - You are definitely NOT the asshole. What your sister did is inexcusable. You retaliating by sleeping with her crush is not even close to being the same.

u/biblepam - Girl, you are SO not the asshole in this whole scenario

u/mdsngrc - Definitely NTA! F**k her, F**k your parents, and most definitely go f**k that boy again, marry him and rub your happy marriage with YOUR one true love and your adorable children in her face because I'm petty and hold a grudge like that LOL

u/Powered by 23 Kicks - You are not the asshole, but you're not entirely guilt-free, either, since you then did something to hurt your sister. Maybe it's time you two sat down and talked things out. Maybe you still need some time apart. But whatever happens, you're both always going to be sisters. I hope, for your sake, that you can learn to forgive her. Your boyfriend of two years isn't worth the skin it takes to contain his bones.

u/astonmartin823 - No, no, and no.. Stand your ground girl. You can't cover a bullet hole with a band aid because the parental units say so.

u/katinki - I mean, honestly, ESH. (except for your best friend, of course, and maybe Mr Hot Dick)

Your sister, obviously.

You, because you were petty and vindictive, but like anyone could blame you

Your parents, because they need to mind their business and stay in their lane. Also, it sounds like they side with your sister a lot. Golden child, much?!

u/Paliia - Not the asshole, but your parents and sister are so the assholes

u/That'sMzPeachesTYVM - You CANNOT be serious? No, u/Swansong350, YOU are NOT TA. I have been following this stream of posts, and I say you need to move 300 miles away, and get away from a family of assholes into which you were obviously adopted. J/S

u/EriCastelo - But what's wrong with your parents? What kind of favoritism is that? Nothing girl, go on with your life, pretend she doesn't exist.

u/princeselisa - u/SawnSong350: You are not an asshole. Shame on your parents for getting involved and taking your sisters side. She is the asshole. So is your ex. You may come to forgive her with time, but this is still fresh, and you are allowed to feel how you're feeling!

u/kristysmom - Dear girl you in no way shape or form are the asshole your parents need to really think about what your sister did and brought upon herself give them all hell

u/StarryBlueEyes - Not the asshole. If she was so in love with this one guy, why on earth, did she feel the need to go after your boyfriend?

u/Zveka - Don't speak to her and don't forgive ! Your parents are weird if their search was only for you and nothing for her !

My advice is go get this hottie he is a keeper !

u/MssL - aahhh a shout out! thanks u/SwanSong350, Definitely NTA. you're parents don't seem to really understand how fucked up it is that your sister was boning your bf. do you know how long that's been going on?

your sister and parents ATA, no question.

you should reach out the rebound guy, see what he's up to...

u/Eternally Addicted - u/swansong350- sounds like your parents are playing favorites. I agree with you. I wouldn't bulge either. And I hope those in the LegalAdvice subreddit laughed at her ridiculousness.

u/KDMCAM - u/SwanSong350-u are in no way the a-hole! I think another hookup with lots of posted pics, then u need to marry her OTL. She can be your maid of honor and see if she wants to be all forgiving. My point is you need some more revenge served before u can come close to looking past her slutty deed! A life of happiness with her OTL will for sure be the best revenge! ROADTRIP! GO GET YOUR MAN!

u/DMBSJB18 - Not the asshole! Nope nope. That would be your sister and EX boyfriend! Tell your parents to shove it where the Sun don't shine!

u/tattedmomma - Nta that would be your sister, ex boyfriend and parents it would seem

u/Sarai Masen - NTA.

Your parents and sister on the other hand are major assholes. She didn't respect the family bond first and she will not respect it again and again. Walk away now, maybe move the 300 miles where the dude lives, and start over, far away from the toxic family. Who knows, maybe you and the best sex ever might have a future together.

u/2old4fanfic - Mom and dad have a favorite and it ain't you it seems.

u/SwanSong350 - Just a brief update to this post. Left my parents place and am now staying with my best friend. I am tired of my parents telling me how much I hurt Tanya by sleeping with that guy and them glossing over the fact that she was sleeping with my actual boyfriend. Fuck being the scapegoat.

It didn't help matters that my parents invited him over to talk to me. The minute he showed up at the door, I kicked him in the balls, packed my shit, and left.

Notes: Man did you guys love Edward! He was the most reviewed chapter AND had the 30 reviews that I post the fastest.

Thanks for all the love!