r/AmItheAsshole

u/sisterruniedmylife247

WIBTA for going to my sister's Bridal Shower, even though I wasn't invited?

I (26F) have a younger sister (24F) Ella who was always jealous of me. We got into an argument last year over something really silly and she hasn't spoken to me since. Even our parents are upset with her that she won't speak with me. It's tearing our family apart.

I found out recently, from someone at the grocery store, that she's having a bridal shower. I was super upset because neither my mother nor I were invited. Hell, none of us even knew she was getting married.

I never did anything to her, even though she keeps telling people I did, and it's super upsetting. She even refused to listen to our parents when they demanded she forgive me for whatever it was she accused me of doing. My parents always believed me over her, and that's another reason why I think she's just jealous.

So I am wondering if I would be the asshole for showing up to her Bridal Shower.

Comments:

u/katinki - Of course you're YTA and a narcissist. Stop pretending like you didn't sleep with your sister's then BF. Respect your sister's boundaries.

u/mnnlisa - Weren't you the chick who slept with your sister's boyfriend? Or am I thinking of someone else...

u/NKubie - Yes, u/sisterruniedmylife247, you WBTA if you showed up to the bridal shower. This isn't like a block party. You don't just join in. I feel like there must be more behind this. I saw an earlier post from you and this definitely wasn't "something silly." You reap what you sow! Sounds like your parents may be playing favorites too. Guess now they're stuck with their favorite. Lots of karma going around, huh?

u/Annie Butts - I am at a complete loss for words at how batshit crazy you are. Your sister was smart for cutting you all off.

u/edwards-debussy - Um, pretty sure whatever you think was "pretty silly" must be more than that for your sister to cut off contact with her family. Grow up and get a clue—if you weren't invited, you are NOT wanted. You would DEFINITELY BTA if you crash her shower. Do the right thing for once.

u/rbsschess - Yes - you are the a**hole and given how you kept the "silly thing" vague I am guessing it is actually pretty serious. You and your mother need to own up to your sh**. Showing up anywhere uninvited makes you the a**hole and I hope she hands you both your ass should you show up. You aren't as anonymous as you think and shouldn't have screwed her boyfriend.

u/Mom23xx - Girl there is so much more to this story you aren't telling us…you wouldn't be cut out if it was simple and silly. Yes you'd BTA if you go.

u/Eternally Addicted - u/sisterruinedmylife247- not only would you be an ass, you'd be a selfish, jealous bitch for crashing the bridal shower. You need some serious therapy if you still haven't figured out what the hell you did wrong! Grow up! The world doesn't revolve around you!

u/Zveka - Not invités means not wanted there so get a clue !

u/astonmartin823 - Sister..( and I mean that loosely).. You slept with her boyfriend!... Stop spreading B.S. and come back to reality. She is happy. LEAVE her alone..

u/musicdaydreams - You are delusional, girl! You know what you did and why your sister is mad at you. Yes, you would be the asshole for showing up uninvited. She just wants to be happy and not have to deal with your drama. If you want to be a good sister, you should admit to your parents what you did. She has lost her whole family because of you. Fix it!

u/EriCastelo - Girl, you don't go where you are not wanted, if you have not been invited why go. If you really love her, look her up and talk to her in private. On the other hand, you should reflect on the facts, because what was foolish for you was not foolish for her.

u/HiraFrance - Lying bitch you have no face bwahaha Please do as you please and be humiliated once again!

u/starsmina - I love that you didn't put your sisters, whole name, Ella, a.k.a. Bella, in your post. Don't try to act like you're so innocent! Fucking her boyfriend, and then claiming that you're innocent girl please! Yeah, you would be the asshole for showing up and if you did, I hope all of her bridesmaids whoop your ass, just for starters.

u/kristysmom - Omg bitch you need some serious mental health help stop lying to people who know what you did why are you like this leave your sister alone

u/MssL - girl, do not show your face. what purpose would it serve? also, don't pretend her cutting you and your parents out of her life is unwarranted. you slept with bf of 2 years and your parents took your side on this massive betrayal. let her live. stop playing victim and own the consequences of your actions.

u/2old4fanfic - What's your name in RL? Dee Lusion? Yes, uWbta if you crashed a bridal shower, if you're not invited there's a reason— and in the depths of your black heart you know what it is

u/Sunshine1220 - Yeah, sis, you WBTA if you showed up uninvited. She don't want you there. Accept it and move on. With any luck, time will patch things up and maybe you'll be part of her life in the future, but there's obviously bad blood right now. Sit this one out. If you show up, you'll only make a scene and show your ass. It's not a good look.

u/dowlingnana - Are you for real u/sisterruinedmylife247? Can you spell narcissistic? Because that is what you are, and I believe it was inherited right from your parents as well. No invite means just that: no invite. Although I'd love to see what happened if you do decide to attend, bwahahaha.

u/Sara aka Nikki Black - u/Sisterruinedmylife247 are you really that clueless? How is it that you don't know what you did to your sister? If whatever you did wasn't a big deal then why didn't she invite you? It had to be big for her to cut you and mother out of her life. You are an asshole and you should NOT crash the party because you don't want to be humiliated in public. You are delusional and need to seek professional help immediately so you can move on.

u/LMBB - u/sisterruinemylife247 We all know what you did and yes you would be (and are) the glassbowl! I'm glad you and your mom aren't invited. Go find herpes poster boy and stew in misery together. You will always be TAH.

u/traceybuie - Sounds like your sister got wise and dropped your lying, cheating ass and the fools that believed you ... Go sister! BTW-YES, u r the asshole and would be an even bigger one if u crashed.

u/avagurl - I am sure your sister just dumped you for no reason. Sounds like you are a lying POS who now believes that crashing a bridal shower is an ok thing to do. I hate to tell you but if you do crash it, I hope your sister calls the cops. And if your mother goes along with you, I hope you end up in the same jail cell.

I suggest that you stop your lying, and beg your sister's forgiveness for your narcissistic entitled ways. Then I hope no forgiveness is given.

I hope there are pictures if you do decide to crash.

You deserve to be uninvited along with your enabling parents. Who needs your sorry asses? Not your little sister, for sure. That nothing you did must have been really something.

Happy that your parents believe your lying ass because noone else does.

You ATA. So is that guy you did nothing with. So are your parents for believing you.

u/LilCullen454 - Woman, we all know what you did to your younger sister! Please stop with the innocent act because it makes you look whacko! Stay the hell away from your sister! Also, you and your parents should be absolutely ashamed of yourselves!

u/mysticfighter111 - Get a life or go to rehab, troll.

u/GorGirl - u/Sisterruinedmylife247 - If you weren't invited to the shower, you shouldn't go to the shower. You sound like a sneaky brown-noser who was good at manipulating your parents. Just let her alone. If she's supposed to be in your life, she'll find a way back. Just think, now you get your parents all to yourself.

u/MidwesternAccent - u/sisterruinedmylife, I read your post and I have to say I'm baffled. You wanted your sister to apologize but you won't say what she needs to apologize for. Which makes me think that your sister NEEDS an apology FROM YOU.

The hard thing about forgiveness is that it's something you earn. Either through a sincere apology that acknowledges the hurt, or through actions. Showing up to her bridal shower is not the way to earn forgiveness. If she didn't tell you she's getting married that's a pretty big clue that whatever happened between you two is a BFD from her perspective. Maybe she's out of line, but since your post is light on details and heavy on blame, I don't think she is.

u/VryUnique - Why don't I believe you? Someone doesn't kick their sister out of their life unless she had done something really shitty. Maybe you should be the one to apologize? You sound pretty spoiled to me

and your parents sound like part of the problem. If you do go be prepared to have whatever you did be announced to all the guests. Do you know who she is marrying? LOL

u/lillianolivia - Yeah, you kinda would be an a$$hole for just showing up. You need to own what you did and apologize to her. Then maybe she will forgive you. She has moved on , and it's with your secret crush. So you need to get over it. Your mom is in the doghouse for believing your lies, so you need to come clean there, or your mom may never know her grandchildren.

u/AmandaCat - Girl, you were not invited for a reason. If you really want to celebrate her upcoming marriage, send a gift from her registry along with your best wishes. Don't crash her bridal shower and make it awkward for everyone. If you want to reconcile with her, I suggest you own up and apologize for what you did. I suspect it was a bigger deal than what you are wanting people to believe.

u/throwaway322 - Unless you forever want to be estranged from your sister you better come clean with what you did. I'm glad your parents weren't invited cause they are horrible for not believing your sister.

u/EdwardsFirstKiss - Yes, you would be the asshole. You don't think you did anything wrong to your sister? Girl, you are delusional. Why don't you visit the other asshole? You know, the one in the STD ad?

Notes: You guys really loved the propsal! I am so glad!

lillianolivia I had to change you name slightly because adding the dot and the colour afterwards completely whited out your name lol. I am so not tech savvy it took me forever to figure out that is why your name kept disappearing!

I'm sad cause I want a tattoo and I want it now and I can't find anywhere to go...so if any of you out there reading know any tattoo shops in the GTA lemme know!