r/PregnancyProgession
u/SwanSong350
Terrified of giving birth. My husband and MIL will be with me in the room.
I am due to give birth in less than a month. I am terrified. It didn't help that when I went out with my friends Rose and Alice, Rose shared all about her 37-hour labor in which she pushed for five hours then they decided she needed a C-section.
My husband and mother-in-law will be with me, and they are an amazing support system, but I find myself still terrified. Anyway, I just wanted to get that off my chest. Is there anything I can do to make the labor go more smoothly? Anything to avoid?
Comments:
u/Zveka - It's normal to be afraid ….but in the end you will have your baby and you are not alone you have your hubby all along with you to share this unique moment
u/KDMCAM - u/swansong350-congrats on your soon to be baby in your arms! I was hoping not to have a c-section. I dialated 10cm and started to close up. I ended up having to have a c-section. I would choose a c-section everytime! No matter what happens it will all be worth it in the end!
u/Rebadams7 - New momma to story will be yours. All those women who told you their story are here to tell them. You will be fine. We have great care, better than before. If you don't trust and have confidence in your team, find one that does give you confidence and only invite those you truly want into your experience. Others can be in the wings to help afterwards. You will meet your baby soon and YOU are the mother. And you will be a great one!
u/banshee69 - Having a great support system in place makes the difference between having a good experience and a bad one.
u/Sara aka Nikki Black - u/swansong350 as scared as you are remember that you aren't the first or last woman to give birth. Everyone is scared and all births are different, but especial in their way because in the end you get to hold the beautiful child you've created. Know that you won't be alone, your husband and MIL will be there by your side. My first lasted 7 1/2 hours, it was back labour, constant pain in lower back. The only comfort I found was having my husband and student nurse massaging the area. I chose to do it without an epidural because I didn't want drugs. My second one, was less painful because I only had the contractions. Did it naturally again, it lasted 12 hours. It's part of motherhood. Enjoy every moment.
u/traceybuie - u/SwanSong350, you are supposed to not think about the future pain or remember it afterwards, because your little bundle is so adorable. ;) That voodoo works for after they are born, but it hella does NOT before or during childbirth. GET AN EPIDURAL! Remind everyone you see in the room, even tell the janitor and candy striper that you see. I'm not even joking.
u/princeselisa - I have no great words of wisdom for you. Sorry. Epidural is all I have left to say
u/edwards-debussy - Every birth experience is different - but the best piece of advice I can give is ask your husband and MIL to actively advocate for you. If something seems off they should speak up.
u/mnnlisa - Wish I could help. I only have dogs.
u/Annie Butts - You should definitely tune everyone out. Everyone has advice and everyone is different. So just relax and enjoy
u/AmandaCat - My friends scared me before I had my son, too! It's natural to be nervous. Make sure you have your bag for the hospital packed in advance and the car seat installed. It's great that you have such a supportive husband and MIL. Just remember, there is absolutely NO shame in asking for an epidural if you want one. NO shame! Best wishes and Congratulations on your sweet baby to be!
u/JentheBaker - It's so normal to be worried and uncertain. It's good that you have such a great support system. Just because your friend's labor was long and difficult doesn't mean yours will be. I was induced. May labor lasted just under 6 hours and I pushed for about 45 minutes. It'll all be worth it when you hold your precious child.
u/ChristyWIX - Everyone birth is different. What was awful for your friend Rose, may be the opposite for you. Unfortunately, you will not know until it happens. Don't be afraid to lean on your MIL and husband. It is what they are there for. I am wishing for your birth to go as smoothly as possible.
u/2old4fanfic - I had major fears of giving birth too. Sounds like you have a strong support system to help you get through, maybe share your fears with your MIL
u/mysticfighter111 - Don't let Rosalie's birthing-experience get to you, it's not the norm. Women choose to have more than one child despite the painful process, that should give you courage. I think you are more afraid of the unknown. Your MIL went through it and it gave her and you Edward. Think about the prize, meeting your baby.
u/NKubie - I'm not sure I have any good suggestions and any stories I tell may make it worse. Just keep your eye on the prize and remember why you're doing this. It's the best gift EVER!
u/SassYNoleS - u/SwanSong350 .. Every labour is different .. Just breathe through the pain and squat when your contractions hit .. that will help you dialte quicker. Take the pain relief if needed and rely on your husband and MIL .. You have an amazing support system!
u/EdwardsFirstKiss - When I was a Nurse, I worked a few months in L & D and I was terrified too! It will hurt like a bitch, but just get an epidural to take the edge off. In time, you won't remember the pain. You will have your child for the rest of your life. Totally worth it.
u/lillianolivia - I know you are going to be fine. You are strong willed and you can do this.
u/maniacalmuse - Aww, poor thing! I remember being so nervous about my first one too, but even MORE nervous about my second because now I knew just how bad it was going to be, LOL! Hope it all goes well for B, xo.
u/roxiegirl - I understand Bella!
u/biblepam - Terrified of giving birth? Hate to say this, but that's NORMAL. Remember to deep breathe and make your husband be a good birthing coach.
u/GorGirl - u/swansong350 - You're almost to the finish line! So glad your hubby and MIL will be with you. Did you take childbirth classes? Read the books? All 3 of my births were different. Sounds like you have good support. Maybe take a bouquet of your favorite flowers with you when you're in labor. It'll give you something beautiful to focus on when you're having those big contractions. Good luck!
u/lala43 - When I was pregnant with my first (of two), I went swimming … a lot. She was a summer baby and I had a lake 15 minutes away. I truly believe that's why my active labor was 20 minutes. BTW … woo~hoo to epidurals!
u/Eternally Addicted - u/SwanSong350- I get being scared. I was too the first time. And though Rose had a 37 hour labor, it doesn't mean you will. When someone I know was in labor and slowly progressing. They brought out this inflated oval shaped thing they called a peanut. She kept it between her knees which, opened space for the baby so to speak, allowed her to progress rather quickly after that. Just try to stay calm. I know it's not easy. Read stuff, ask your doc questions. And I promise once they put that baby in your arms it will all be worth it. Good luck!
u/EriCastelo - Relax, every experience is unique, what your friend went through will not necessarily be what happens to you. Lean on your husband and MIL and enjoy. A tip: have sex and walk ;-)
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Enough of my blathering! You guys are the best! Updating 45 mins early as we are going to Wonderland before going for lunch with my mom