Dear Ken and Eliza,
My boyfriend is horribly unromantic. What can I do to make him more romantic?
Thanks,
Bored Babe
Dear Bored,
You don't buy a cat thinking you're going to feed it salads.
-KM-
Dear Bored,
It never works to try to get someone to change for you, because had they wanted to change they already would have. If his lack of romance is something you can deal with, you may just have to accept it. If not, you may need to find a new Romeo
-EM-
PS: Remember change comes from within. This also a useful bit of advice if bums ask you for spare change.
-KM-
Dear Ken and Eliza,
I really like this guy, he's so amazing! But I don't know how to tell him. What should I do?
Sighing Sakura
Dear Sakura,
I think your cover's already blown.
-KM-
Dear Sakura,
I would have to agree.
-EM-
Dear Ken and Eliza,
I feel like my boyfriend takes me for granted. How can I make him stop?
Shafted
Dear Shafted,
Leave.
-KM-
Dear Shafted,
If you've discussed how you've felt with him already with no success, then it may just come down to you have to show him how serious you are. If you haven't talked to him about how you feel, I suggest you start there.
-EM-
PS: Nah, too much work. Just bounce.
-KM-
PPS: Always the pragmatist
-EM-
Dear Ken and Eliza,
My girlfriend gets really upset that I can't tell her I love her to her face. I mean, I don't think there's any doubt that I do, I'm crazy about her. I just don't get why I have to say it out loud all the time. What do I do?
Flustered in Flushing
Dear Flustered,
Tell her that it really upsets you that your actions apparently mean less to her than some words. Maybe she'd prefer it if you said it and didn't act like it. Personally, I doubt it but you could always try it as an experiment...
-KM-
Dear Flustered,
Sometimes hearing a man tell a girl that he loves her is not so much about the love bit as it is the promise that you're not going anywhere. Hearing you say the L word possibly gives her a feeling of security in your relationship. I do have to agree with Ken though. If you truly are crazy about her, then it's a bit problematic that she doesn't feel loved. The other possibility is that you really don't show her through your actions, in which case, it makes sense that she would ask.
-EM-