Disclaimer:Naruto isn't mine
Being a dad means watching other men with their kids. And deciding which dads you want to imitate.
Shikamaru hated Kiba's dad. He had never met the man, but he hated him. Tsume wasn't a symbol of femininity but leaving because you're scared of a woman doesn't justify anything. He married Tsume and had kids with her. If he did all those things, he must have known Tsume was a very outgoing person that liked her emotions to be expressed. You don't leave your kids no matter what.
As much as Shikamaru complained about his father, he was glad to have him. Shikaku was whipped for Yoshino and had no intentions of leaving her. He may be a lazy Nara but he was in love with his mom.
Ino and Chouji's dads loved their wives and treated them with the utmost respect. Ino was a Daddy's girl and Chouji did something with his dad every week. Shikamaru played with shogi with his dad on a daily basis.
When Kiba announced he was pregnant, Shikamaru would do anything in his power to not end up like Mr. Ex-Inuzuka.