Guys, I'm so sorry, but I can't let it go. I got another anonymous review (I can't be sure if it's from the same person or not, given this anonymous nature) concerning my previous response, and I just have to answer it. I hate to bother the rational people with this, but, as I've said, I'm a talker by nature, and I've got to talk about this.
Here is the review:
"You do realize that Kurt started a new life in New York and had work to do. When you're at work you just can't pick up the phone to chat with someone. Also you forgot to say that Blaine did the same thing with Sebastin and I hardly belive those texts where family friendly from Sebastians side. Blaine never stoped it. I' m not saying it' s only Bla fault but he cheated after two weeks. I have boyfriend for 4 months now long distance reletionship we see each other every two weeks we never cheated."
One: I do realize this, thank you. I have a basic understanding of the way the world works. I'm not suggesting that Kurt should have taken time out of his work day to talk to Blaine, especially since one would imagine Blaine would be in school at the same time. However, we see Kurt after hours (though, admittedly, at a work function) purposefully dismissing one of Blaine's calls, and then Kurt completely ignoring Blaine during a Skype date at his apartment. Kurt is busy, of course, but as you demonstrated using your own relationship as an example, sacrifices and compromises must be made. You have to take time out of some part of your day to talk to your partner, otherwise the relationship won't work.
Again, I'm not blaming only Kurt for this. Blaine had a responsibility to speak up and say, "I'm feeling ignored. I'm feeling left behind. The current system we're using to communicate is not working." He's a big boy, he could have done that. I'm merely suggesting that Kurt could have been more proactive in his own time management to figure how when and how he and his boyfriend would communicate effectively.
Two: Comparing Kurt's texts with Chandler and Blaine's texts with Sebastian is purely fallacious. The most telling evidence of this is each's response. Kurt was quite happy to text Chandler, laughing out loud at some of the outrageously flirtatious texts, while Blaine was clearly uncomfortable in Sebastian's presence. With the exception (literally) the moment they met, I'd like you to name one time Sebastian and Blaine were around each other and Blaine didn't appear to be uneasy. (I'm referring, of course, to their time spent together before their make-up of sorts at Sectionals? Regionals? I can't keep the competitions straight.) And as for topics of conversation go, Chandler had one goal in mind: flirt with Kurt. We know that Blaine and Sebastian, on the other hand, discussed stain removal and glee club, relatively inane subjects. Of course, we don't know the full extent of their conversations, so your assumption that Sebastian's texts, at least, were not always "family friendly" is a reasonable one. But we have absolutely no reason to believe that Blaine flirted back or, indeed, appreciated the attention at all. We know from Blaine's interactions with virtually every other character that he is a friendly person who likes to make people feel important and welcome, and it is this personality trait that I believe prevented Blaine from cutting off communication completely with Sebastian. Simply put, I don't think Blaine had it in him to make someone feel ostracized or unwanted. (This belief, of course, stems from my many careful and repeated observations of Blaine's behavioral patterns and social interactions. I do not claim to be any sort of expert in behavioral psychology, but I've trained myself over the years to notice patterns in behavior, and this is one I've noticed in Blaine. You are welcome to disagree with me.) But this doesn't mean he flirted back, unlike Kurt.
I would also like to point out that when Kurt discovered that Blaine was in textual communication with Sebastian, he was upset, and Blaine looked abashed, while when Blaine found out about the texts with Chandler, Kurt only defended himself for the cheating. Just saying.
Three: We have no idea how long Kurt was in New York before Blaine cheated. As demonstrated by this past hiatus, time moves incongruously in the Glee 'verse. It could have been two weeks. It could have been days. It could have been months. That part is pretty irrelevant. What matters is that it was long enough for their communication to falter and for Blaine to feel like he could not go to Kurt for emotional comfort, leading him to believe that he had to go to someone to feel important, even if only temporarily.
Four: Your relationship is not Kurt and Blaine's, and any comparison made between the two must come with caveats. You say you visit your boyfriend every two weeks. That's fantastic. Blaine is a high school student and Kurt is an unpaid intern with rent in New York City. How exactly did you expect them to fly around a thousand miles to see each other every two weeks? Do you understand how expensive airfare is? Not to mention that they would have to get from an airport in Columbus or Dayton to Lima (or vice versa, if Blaine was flying to New York), a drive that would take hours. That is incredibly impractical. This is why they have other means of long-distance communication, like texting, phone calls, and Skype. But, as we've seen, Kurt won't pick up his phone and ignores Blaine while on Skype.
I'm really hoping I don't have to make one of these extra "chapters" again. If you or anyone else would like to discuss this matter, I would be more than happy to do so (I absolutely love engaging in thought-provoking, critical examinations of people and fiction), but please, please do not do so as an anonymous "Guest." If you would like to leave an anonymous review, by all means do so. But if you're going to engage in the conversation, either form an account, log into an existing one, or come to me on either of my Tumblrs (nothingbutgoneness or kqwriting), where I can respond to you intelligently and completely without bothering people who just don't give a shit.
Thank you and have a nice day.