FF Readers- thanks for reading and reviewing! Please send me some ideas of how they should hand,e the parenting situation if you could, so I have different ideas and opinions than just my own! TIA!
The talk we had was anything but comfortable. In fact, it was so uncomfortable, I stormed off and locked my door. I knew they could both pick the lock, but I didn't give a damn. I needed to calm down, and I needed space to think.
"What do you think is going to happen when they're older and they start asking why mommy is sleeping in Daddy's bed one night, and the other guys the next?"
"You need to pick one of us or neither of us, but stop stringing us along."
"How do you plan to parent two kids with three people who are all biological parents?"
"You're going to be a mom, you need to start thinking like one. The way you're acting is incredibly selfish. Think about that. You're hurting four people now, by your convoluted thought processes, and you need to consider all the outcomes."
I didn't know what to do. I didn't want to give up either guy, but clearly that was "selfish" of me. I decided to try to be the adult they clearly didn't think I was capable of. I went back out and sat across from them on the couch. I slammed two pads of paper and some pens on the table in front of them.
"Write down why you want to be in a relationship with me, and at least two ideas of what we can do to resolve this insane parenting situation. I'll do the same for each of you in regards to the relationship."
I went back off to the bedroom and started my lists. It was easier than I thought, and I was done well before them. There were great things about both guys and it dawned on me why it had been so difficult to make a decision. Not only did I love them both, but they were equally great guys in different ways.
And they were right, I did need to make a decision. I did have someone else, two someone else's, to think about. It wasn't all about me anymore. It never really had been, I was just too oblivious to notice.