The Interest of Love - How to Love
It's the weekend …. Sang Su looks over and can't believe that Soo Young is sleeping next him….. his smile is from ear to ear….. he immediately starts thinking
Sang Su : I've gotten disappointed before, but she's actually here, she didn't run away in the middle of the night
Soo Young still asleep rolls over puts her head on his chest and wraps her arms around him …. She has a smile on her face that he has rarely seen….. her face is relaxed…. Will this be how their married life will be every morning? He gives her a kiss and gently removes him self so that she can continue sleeping….
He hears a knock on the door… panic immediately takes hold of his face…..
Han Jeong Im lets herself Im: Sang Su… are you up yet? …. Did you go drinking again? … I'm worried about you
Sang Su enters and looks at his mother with a look his mother hasn't seen in a very long time
Han Jeong Im : There is something different about you today….. did you meet someone…. You look happy….. Tell me….. did you… Is she pretty? … I hope you have… these past four years have broken my heart
Soo Young hearing the conversation puts on one of Sang Su sweat shirts and listens
Sang Su: why are you so inquisitive…..
Han Jeong Im: Well, your now over 40 even Mi Kyung has moved on from you…. Mi Seon said that Mi Kyung has a boyfriend and they will be getting married
Sang Su: Mom ….. do you want to see me married?
Han Jeong Im: yes ….. as long as she is the right girl for you…. I don't want what you went through with that girl
Soo Young cringes hearing herself being referred to as that girl makes a noise in the bedroom
Han Jeong Im: Do you have a guest….. Is that why your so happy….. let me meet her, since I'm already here
Soo Young is now in panic mode
Han Jeong Im: who ever you are you can come out….. I won't bite you…. I need to meet the girl that's put a smile on my son's face.
Soo Young gingerly walks out… even though it's been four years Han Jong Im still remembers her from the day she saw her at the bank….. Soo Young bows her head.
Sang Su : Mom ….. this is Soo Young ….. your future daughter in law…. We decided last night to get married….. you no longer have to worry about your son….. she makes me very happy.
Han Jeong Im: you two are going to have to explain to me what is going on….. Soo Young… where have you been….. but more importantly do you love him ….. did you all of sudden come out of the blue?
Sang Su: Mom enough with the third degree…. We're working it out
Soo Young: Sang Su … it's alright….. your mom deserves an explanation… You asked if I love your son… yes with all my heart… I've loved him from the first moment I saw him 8 years ago… why we haven't been together… I was my fault , I thought I wasn't good enough for him and then Mi Kyung entered the picture , and I then knew that , my showing my love for him would hurt him….. so I started pushing him away…. I'm very sorry for all my actions…. If we didn't meet again I would've settled with all my regrets.
Han Jeong Im: Now that he's found you he's not letting you go….. that's where this marriage business comes from….. are you still with the bank
Soo Young: No … I own a little art cafe called Future Happiness…. If it wasn't for the loan I sought… Sang Su and I wouldn't have met up again, but now that we have I want to remain with him…. What we went through in our past …. Won't happen in our future now that we understand each other….. I know that you think of me as that woman… but I do love Sang Su …. He is the only man I've ever loved completely
Han Jeong Im : Sang Su you're being very quite…. Is she who you want?
Sang Su: You know that better than I do… Like I told her last night…. As long as she exists in this world, I can't love anyone else… yes she is the one I want
Han Jeong Im: So when is this wedding
Sang Su: Soon as possible
Han Jeong Im: you're not pregnant already
Soo Young: No , I'm not pregnant , but we do plan to have children ….. as far as the wedding ….. it will be very small just you and my mom and dad
Han Jeong Im: your such a change from Mi Kyung
Soo Young: Is that good or bad
Han Jeong Im smiles: It's good
Soo Young: Sang Su I've got to go open the cafe…. I'll get cleanup and take a cab… Mrs Han you can come anytime to the cafe
Han Jeong Im: I think you better start getting use to calling me mom…. I'll make some breakfast before you go….. I'm sure you two worked up an appetite
Sang Su: Mom ….. Your going to have to get use to her tongue….. you would never think she's my mother the way she talks to me
Han Jeong Im : Soo young I'll give you some pointers on how to deal with him….. go get cleaned up so you can eat before you go.
As Soo Young is cleaning up Sang Su and Han Jong Im continue the conversation.
Han Jeong Im: your absolutely sure….. she's not your desperation showing.
Sang Su: the few blind dates I've been on they rejected me out of the box cause they could see I couldn't be interested….. seeing her this morning was like a dream for me…. I'm absolutely sure.
Han Jeong Im: she seems like a nice girl ….. Like I told you before ….. just be happy …. If she makes you happy then I'm happy…. Go get cleanup yourself….. no hanky panky while I'm here
Sang Su: Mom !
The drive to Future Happiness Sang Su gets interrogated by Soo Young
Soo Young: I'm so embarrassed , that I met your mother the way I did….. does she hate me now….. especially since I'm that woman…. Did you hate me that much back then
Sang Su: I never hated you…. I was very disappointed back then … she always felt bad that I couldn't get over you
Soo Young: I won't ever disappoint you again ….. do you want to stay at my place tonight ….. we have a lot of catching up to do… I want your scent in my bed … I slept so comfortable last night
Sang Su: we're going to have to decide which place we will stay….. we can't keep both places
Soo Young: my place is small and your place is a little bigger, but if we decide to have a baby we may need a bigger space….. why don't we look after we're married…. When are we getting married?
Sang Su: I was thinking next week, do you think your mom and dad can make it
Soo Young : I'll call them today
Sang Su: Do you want to go on a honeymoon
Soo Young: If last night was any indicator everyday will be our honeymoon….. I can't leave the store….. this is one of the drawbacks in being a small business owner
Sang Su: Do you miss the bank…. I can try to pull some strings
Soo Young: My little cafe is perfect for me….. I don't have to listen to gossip, I can draw and paint everyday and I get to meet the nicest people since their interest is my interest…..You at the bank and me here that will be good for us… our nights will be something to look forward to… If I was at the bank we wouldn't get any work done… you would find some way of getting me to be alone with you
Sang Su: so it would be just me… you wouldn't want to be alone with me?
Soo Young: That's the problem… I would and the bank's gossip ring would all be about us…. I've work too hard to get the Cafe….. I'm not giving it up.
They arrive at the cafe Soo Young calls her parents
Soo Young: Dad is mom close to you ….. I have some news to share with you both….. You know how you thought I would remain alone… I'm no longer alone…. Sang Su and I have found each other again… he asked me to marry him and I said yes… Can you and Mom come to Seoul next week….. we're having a very small ceremony, but I would like you and mom to be there….. you can meet Sang Su 's mother
Ahn In Jae : Why such a rush to get married…..
Shim Kyung Sook hears the word marriage and grabs the phone: Soo Young who are you marrying
Soo Young: It's sang Su….. remember the one that brought you to the hospital … he's been the one that I've been longing for all these years….. fate has brought us back together and we both don't want to wait any longer… so can You and dad come next week
Shim Kyung Sook: we will be there just tell us the date you wants us there….. I'm so happy for you
Soo Young :I'll call on Monday after we get a confirmed date
Sang Su: Will they be able to come….. I need to finish some business ...will you be ok by yourself?
Soo Young smiles: You have always worried about me… Yes, I'm fine ….. I've been here by myself for sometime now… go do what you have to do
Sang Su: I'll bring lunch… bye….. I love you
Soo Young: I love you too
Sang Su leaves and Soo Young reflects on what has happened the last 24 hours…. Was it fate that made her go to the Hill of Oblivion… Listen to her heart instead of her mind changes everything….. she almost allowed herself to make the same mistakes as the past…. Not telling and showing Sang Su how she really felt was the biggest mistake back then…. Especially for someone that over thinks every situation….. Sang Su has always loved her , but was to scared to say it and when he mustered the courage to do so, her foolish pride got in the way…. Now that she has agreed to marry him….. will she become like her mother …. And hurt him again….. will her mind make up things and make excuses to ruin this beautiful love ?
Soo Young thoughts: Soo Young stop this nonsense going through your head…. Sang Su loves you… he even came back to you 4 years ago , but your stupidity made it impossible for him. Enjoy being loved and loving him … can you ever find a more perfect lover… your happiness is with Sang Su.
The smile returns to Soo Young's face and can't wait for Sang Su's return. Her normal customers even notice that Soo Young is happier today…. As she waits she begins to paint… painting has always been the means to keep her focused and directed … if only she could've maintained that focus before, but the past is the past. She decides to paint the future happiness plant that Sang Su bought her back then.
She remembers Sang Su's reason for buying it: it was the most beautiful in the nursery, just like you
Sang Su enters with a bag with lunch….. Soo Young smiles and goes to him and gives him a hug and kiss: I missed you… did you finish what you had to
Sang Su: It took a while but I did….. let's eat….. I'm starved
Soo Young puts her" Out to Lunch" sign on the door as Sang Su places the lunch he bought on the table along with a special box for Soo Young
Seeing the little box… Soo Young knows now what Sang Su had to do
Soo Young: What's this ?
Sang Su: I couldn't wait any longer…. I want everyone to know that you are taken
Soo Young: Put it on me ….Her thoughts go back to the day that Jong Hyun tried to put the ring on her….. Good thing it didn't fit since that was again another stupid mistake of letting that friendship get that far
Sang Su slides the simple gold band onto her finger … Soo Young's eye's light up when she sees it fit perfectly
Soo Young: It fits
Sang Su: Did you think it wouldn't….. You always think the worst of things….. We fit each other we always have and always will
Soo Young: Let me put yours on… She slides his on and it fits just as well….. her thoughts go to where she wants to make love to him… tonight I will show him how much I love him…. For now she leans over and gives him a very passionate kiss
Sang Su: If you keep this up you'll be closed all afternoon… do you like it?
Soo Young : I do ….. from this moment on I'm your wife ….. you are my husband….. tonight will be our wedding night
Sang Su: We better eat before I try to start our wedding night early
The past 24 hours have brought Sang Su and Soo Young to form the love relationship that has eluded them for the past 8 years… They first learned to understand what Love is ….. now their journey becomes
How to Love
Part 1- Loving yourself
1- Appreciate you
Before loving anyone else, you have to love yourself. Learning to love yourself means accepting and appreciating the vulnerability within.[1] You have many qualities that are unique to you. Learn to appreciate who you are and what you can offer.
2- Care about Yourself
just as much as you care about others. This can be difficult if you find yourself as a natural caretaker or if you have children. Remember, your ability to take care of others increases if you are adequately taking care of yourself.
3- Give gratitude
Grateful people have health benefits and report higher levels of happiness.[4] Find ways to be grateful for things that surround you, and most importantly, for who you are.
4- Have a good attitude
Even if situations seem negative, find something positive, big or small. Having a positive outlook is linked with health and emotional benefits, such as lower rates of distress and having a longer lifespan.[5] When you start to have negative thoughts, especially about yourself, turn them into positive thoughts.
5-Engage in things that make you happy.
Being happy is part of showing love to yourself. Create a state of happiness by doing things that make you feel good. Do things that make your body, mind, emotions, and spirit feel good. Happiness largely depends on putting in the effort to make your life more positive.
6-Take some alone time.
An important part of self-care is to spend some time alone. It can be difficult if you share a room or have children but save some time for yourself. Solitude can help you unwind, work through problems, reboot your mind, and discover yourself. Don't feel guilty for wanting alone time. By spending time alone, you can improve your relationships by prioritizing your happiness and allowing yourself to reset
7- Accept that you don't need a partner to feel complete
Some people believe that happiness and love can only be experienced through a relationship, or that a bad relationship is still better than no relationship at all. Staying in a relationship that does not work does not respect you or your partner. Solitude is different than being lonely, and it is not worth succumbing to social pressure to fit in or feel complete.
After learning the truth about her parents and that it was her mother that betrayed her father … Soo Young faced another crisis in understanding Love…. From the point of her brothers death, she blamed her father, thus she formed a mistrust of all men. Now that she learned it was her mother … she now doesn't trust herself because now she sees herself as her mother and able to cheat on her father who was a good and honorable man… loving unconditionally. Her fear and anger towards herself in that she pushed away Sang Su because he was a little late… he didn't have the courage to confess… that he wanted her to admit to her feelings form him…. Seeing that she is the problem and not him forced her to take a good look at herself and to step away from Sang Su … was the reason four years ago.
Part 2 - Loving your partner
1 - Commit
Put forth effort into the relationship and work hard to make it work. Communicate openly with your partner about your goals for the relationship and where you see it going. If you're only interested in a short-term fling, be honest. If you've got an eye toward serious long-term love, be honest. There's nothing wrong with either kind of love, but you need to make sure that your partner is equally committed to the same version of love that you are.
2 - Be intimate
The word "intimacy" is often associated with sex, but being emotionally intimate is a huge part of a loving relationship. Emotional intimacy involves allowing yourself to feel and express vulnerability around your partner. Avoiding vulnerability can look like withdrawal, attack, or accusations. On the contrary, intimacy can look like sharing fears, discomfort, and disappointment with your partner. Feelings or situations that previously felt unsafe feel safer in an intimate relationship because of the vulnerability and trust that has been developed.
3 - Accept that love is dynamic.
If you're concerned that the initial attraction and strong feelings of love are wearing off, realize that love can occur in waves. Sometimes you feel overwhelmingly in love with someone, and other times you experience less love to or from that person. Just because you hit a low point doesn't mean that the feelings will last forever. Life happens in cycles, and it's okay that love experiences highs and lows.
4 - Be open to receiving love. You don't have to be the one in control of the love in your relationship; let your partner express love toward you. Receiving love can feel vulnerable to some people because it requires letting go of control. Be open to receiving gifts, accepting compliments, and warm gestures toward you. You may feel like you now owe something back, but let that go and enjoy the experience of receiving. Love does not have debts but multiplies.
5 - Touch your partner.
Touching does not need to be sexual, but engaging in a long, supportive hug or reaching out for your partner's hand is a way to stay connected. Express your love for your partner by initiating and sustaining physical contact. Affection is one way to express care, appreciation, and other connecting, positive emotions.
6 - Express gratitude to your partner.
Sometimes the way we communicate with a partner can be lost in translation, but gratitude is always understood. Affirm your appreciation of your partner by expressing gratitude. Thank your partner for showing that you notice the effort put into the relationship. Show appreciation for the things your partner does, and also for the qualities that your loved one embodies.
7 - Be partners in life.
The whole point of going through life with people you love is so that you can tackle life's challenges together. Work together to find solutions, solve problems, and comfort each other when times get tough. We can't solve everything on our own, we can't know everything there is to know... but a whole bunch of people getting together out of love can solve just about any problem.
After the " What if Game" Sang Su and Soo Young both realized all their own mistakes in trying to make their love relationship work. Their own individual misunderstandings and expectations needed to be corrected in order to avoid or at least understand what the other needs and wants. If they were truthful and honest and had played the ' What if Game " four years ago… those years wouldn't have been waisted… however the need for each to know how much they need each other may have been the price of those 4 years.
Part 3 - Loving Despite Differences
1 - Don't expect perfection.
Don't expect perfection in the person you love or in yourself. This sets incredibly unrealistic expectations. Neither of you will be able to live up to these standards, and you both will end up hurt and disappointed. Take it easy on yourself and your partner, and expect mistakes to happen.
2 - Learn lessons and apply them to your relationships.
Yes, bad things will happen in your relationships. You'll say the wrong thing or your partner will hurt your feelings. It happens. The important part, when anything goes wrong (even if it's just problems in your life), is to learn your lessons and keep moving forward. Try to make the most of any negative situation, turning it into something positive by gaining and growing from the experience. Honestly try to see your significant other's point of view in any argument that gets fairly serious.
3 - Reconcile your differences.
It's hard to feel love toward someone when you're really mad or upset at your partner. Whether you and your partner become volatile or avoid fights, there's actually no systematic differences in couple happiness. The important part is finding happiness together after the fight.[14]
4 - Balance your negative and positive feelings toward each other.
Balance is important in creating a happy and loving relationship. Research shows that with stability over time, the magic ratio for positive and negative interactions in relationships is five to one, or five positive interactions for every one negative interaction. When you recognize a negative action toward your partner, do your best to provide positive interactions to restore a sense of balance.
Their new relationship dynamic begins to take hold… Sang Su is waiting for Soo Young to close the Cafe so they can have their second night together now that they are committed to each other.
Soo Young enters the car and gives him a kiss on the cheek: Have you waited long….. reconciling my little shop is so much easier than what I had to do at the bank.
Sang Su: this was really your calling….. you're your own boss ….. you don't have to answer to anyone
Soo Young: answering to myself is harder than any boss….. I have only myself to blame if a mistake is made
Sang Su: you don't make mistakes
Soo Young: what was the last 5 years… one huge mistake… after you left this afternoon , I got to do some painting since you left me in such a good mood…. I also got some time to browse the internet…. I printed it out…. You can read it when we get home
Sang Su: When we get home….. that sounds so good to me… What's it about
Soo Young: I've made so many mistakes when it comes to you… I did a google search on How to Love
Sang Su: We don't have a problem in that department
Soo Young: When it comes to making love….. no we don't ….. you're an amazing lover….. not that I have that much experience, but you satisfy me completely… our problem has always been communication… after you read it you can tell me what you think… Tonight, however, I'm making love to you….. I got so turned on after you put the ring on my finger… that's all I've been thinking about all afternoon.
Soo Young gives Sang Su the pass code to the apartment…. As they enter Sang Su looks around similar but different from her last apartment… this has more painting…. The one that caught his eye was of the Ice Rink and a painting of him in his hockey uniform
Soo Young: Though I left you… you never left me….. I promise I will spend the rest of my life making that up to you…Tears fill her eyes
Sang Su: we're together now that all that is important… he wipes the tears from her face and gives her a hug and a kiss.
Soo Young: Everything has moved so fast, I only have Ramen ….. is that ok… tomorrow we can get what you like
Sang Su: I live on Ramen… that's fine… you want me to make it …while you change.
Soo Young : sure
Sang Su can't believe his eyes when Soo Young emerges from the bedroom…She wearing only his Hockey Jersey
Sang Su : How…. When….. no one told me
Soo Young: I bribed the trainer… I told him I was your girlfriend and I was planning a special surprise for you… I kinda winked at him and he got the message…. I never thought I'd be wearing this in front of you…. Do you like it?
Sang Su: playing hockey will never be the same now… dam are you sexy
Soo Young: Let's eat first
After Dinner they sit on the couch….. Soo Young snuggled up against him she then says: Do you want to watch a movie
Sang Su: I know you like to tease me just to see my reaction… Watch a movie really!
Soo Young snickers with her devilish smile: I won't tease you any more….. just lay back and I'll take over.
She pulls up his sweet shirt , unbuckles his pants and removes his shoes and pulls his pants off. She then pulls his underwear off leaving hard penis standing straight in the air. She then kneels between his legs and begins stroking his penis. She squeezes it, she twirls her hand around it she then messages it. Last night he gave the most incredible orgasm with his tongue that she still is feeling the after effects… if he can do it for her….. she needs to do it for him…. As his breathing gets heavier….. she begins jerking his penis with her hand at a faster pace. He begins to squirm since this feels so good to him. Now comes what he never expected she would do…. She squeezes the top portion of his penis so that all the blood flows to it… the head of his penis swells and turns dark blue…. His Pinal lubricating fluids are slowly coming out…. She lowers her head and lets the tip of her tongue lick the tip of his penis. She then lets her tongue roll around it ….. Sang Su has never had this done to him before….. seeing Soo young pouty lips hovering around his penis makes his heart pound even faster. Soo Young then puts her sexy lips complete around the head of his penis and let her tongue roll around it. She sucks it like it was her favorite popsicle. Sang Su is unable to hold back any long … he pulls her head back and his semen quickly is air born… he ejaculate three times in a row.
Soo Young then straddles him and begins twerking her ass and rocking and grinding so that she to can experience an orgasm of the same magnitude. It doesn't take long since this all she has been thinking about it all day. As her contraction and jerking begins she grabs Sang Su face and gives him a French Kiss he will never forget.
Sang Su: How did this come about…. Where did you learn this
Soo Young: I'm going to love you the way you love me… where did you learn what you did to me last night… If your thinking I did this to Jong Hyun….. I didn't and I didn't have sex with Kyung Pil….. if your still wondering about that . Did you do this with Mi Kyung… that's why she couldn't let you go
Sang Su: I see where this is going… this will be the last time we will talk about our exes….. wait let me clarify that…..I know you never did anything Kyung Pil… I was jealous after seeing Jong Hyun's stuff in your bathroom that night you were sick, but I also know you didn't love him. As far as Mi Kyung….. she forced herself to sleep in my bed ….. I couldn't wait till it was over… I pretended that it was you….. that made it even more frustrating.
Soo Young : since we're being honest with each other, the one time I let Jong Hyung touch me , yes I had pity sex with him….. I regretted it so much that the next night I lied to him and rented a room at the hotel… that's the night I lied to you also telling you that I was Jong Hyun when we met outside… I was in that hotel room pampering myself for making such a mistake… Truth be told while I was in that room and that bathtub I only thought of how it would've been if it was you… where you with Mi Kyung that night… sorry I really don't want to know… it will drive me crazy knowing…. I love you and you love me … that's all the really matters….. lets not bring up the past again… I wanted tonight to be so special
Sang Su: It was and it is… you are amazing…. I'm the luckiest guy in the world to have a wife like you… I made a mess on your floor didn't eye?
Soo Young: I love you….. let's try round two in the shower.