After months of agonizing waiting, Ms. Kelsey finally could once again have a session with Deanna. She wished to speak to the half-Betazoid about quite a bit on her mind. It was nice to see the warm eyes of Deanna Tori once again. To know she'd finally found someone who actively listened to her. She'd gone months without anyone properly listening to what she had to say.
Deanna welcomed her warmly before asking her what was causing the intense negative emotions she was picking up. Ms. Kelsey explained that her family was again pushing her to forgive her twin sister. Ms. Kelsey had made it clear she didn't want a relationship with her toxic sister. Her mother, sister, and aunt refuse to understand that one action has consequences. You cannot abuse someone for years and expect them to forgive you. Or expect them to want to be around you.
Ms. Kelsey explained that she encountered several people who'd suffered some form of abuse by her twin. So it wasn't just herself who thought her twin sister was toxic. Several people did. It greatly upset her that her family couldn't accept that she had set a boundary for her well-being. That things were past the point of repairing their relationship. Again, you can't spend half your life doing every form of abuse and then suddenly expect someone to forgive or want to be around you.
Deanna admitted that while she believed Ms. Kelsey, she still couldn't give her full opinion on what had happened. Seeing as she wasn't there to witness it. However, she didn't believe Ms. Kelsey was telling falsehoods either. Deanna affirmed she wasn't invalidating Ms. Kelsey or telling her she was wrong to feel that way. That, yes, she was within her right to choose who she wanted to have a relationship with.
Also, just because someone is your family doesn't give them the right to hurt you. Or feel entitled to your forgiveness. Nor should you force someone into a relationship they didn't desire. Ms. Kelsey told Deanna about how much trauma she'd suffered due to her twin sister. Plus, how it was clear her mother never took her side in anything. Again, they were in their thirties, but it hadn't stopped her sister from throwing tantrums.
Ms. Kelsey pointed out the various times it had been proven that her mother favored her twin over her. Or would take everyone else side instead of hers. Yes, Ms. Kelsey understood all things were a matter of prescriptive. Still, they weren't respecting her by trying to force her to do something she didn't want to do. Nor was it right to say her little sister could not like her and not interact with her. But she wasn't afforded the same luxury because she had a twin sister.
They talked about some coping skills and what other areas upset her. Like how she was sick of her family getting on her case because of her weight. Or feeling again that people didn't listen to her at all. Ms. Kelsey informed Deanna again about why her family was dysfunctional and how it made her feel. How spending a vacation last year with her godmother had sent her an F you message.
Deanna could sympathize with Ms. Kelsey and agreed they discuss it more in two weeks as she was on leave next week. But told her they work extra hard to get back to a point where her recovery could continue. Thanking her for her time, Ms. Kelsey exited the office. She wanted to return to her quarters for lunch before heading to the indoor garden for some me time.
