Chapter 9: All About the Bees
Cody was given an assignment to fly a ranger out to the back country and to assist them in collecting the honey from the beehives. Cody was in the chopper area getting his gear together and doing his final checks on the chopper as Lizzie walked into Jerry's office.
"Jerry, thanks for arranging the flight. It would take me forever to drive and hike out there," Lizzie said.
"No problem. I have the perfect pilot to take you out there. He is a bit new here, but he has learned the area very quickly." Jerry said.
"I am not going with Jordy this time?" Lizzie asked.
"No, he is on vacation this week," Jerry said. "Ranger Hawkes can take you."
"Ranger Hawkes?" Lizzie said.
"Yes, he should be right outside loading up the gear and doing his final checks on the chopper." Jerry said.
Lizzie walked out to where the chopper is located. Cody has his back turned to her. "Ranger Hawkes, thank you for taking the time today to fly me out to the bee hives and for helping me collect the honey," Cody turned around. "Your Ranger Hawkes?"
"Yes... Yes ma'am," Cody was surprised to see the ranger was Lizzie. "Is… Is there anything else you need to add, hmm… otherwise we are probably ready to go."
"Just this bag," Lizzie lifted the duffle bag she was carrying slightly. Cody took the bag from her and put it in the chopper.
"I am going to let Jerry know we are ready to go and then we can head out," Cody started to walk away.
Cody approached Jerry, "Here to thank me?"
Cody was a little overwhelmed. "Little heads up would have been nice. You remember, I told you, I made a total fool of myself the last time I saw her."
"Well, I heard she broke it off with Fred since then and he has left Yellowstone," Jerry said. "I know her, and I have gotten to know you. Just act like yourself, take a deep breath if you start feeling anxious, and whatever you do, don't act like some love sick crazy man, and you should be just fine. Don't try to date her, just be professional. It will go long way with her."
Cody took a deep breath, "See you in a few hours."
Cody started to walk away and headed back to the chopper, "You got this Cody."
Cody reached the chopper and climbed in. Lizzie was already in her seat. Cody put his seat belt on He handed Lizzie her head phones, "Ready to go?"
Lizzie nodded yes as she put the head phones on. Cody put his headphones on and started the chopper.
Cody spoke on the radio, "This is Alpha Mega Charlie 769, we are ready to take off."
Someone over the radio came back, "Alpha Mega Charlie 769 you are clear for take-off."
Cody lifts the chopper off the ground. Cody and Lizzie took off to the back country to attend to the bee hives. "So, you are a beekeeper?" Cody asked.
"Yes."
"As a bee keeper, do you get stung a lot?" Cody asked.
"Few times. But generally, don't have any issues. Have you ever seen a beehive before?"
"I have never purposely gone out to a beehive; I have only stumbled across them."
"Well…I have an extra suit that should fit you, if you like to come out with me to the hive."
Cody responded, "If you can teach me on what I should do."
"I can teach you on what to do," Lizzie said. "As long as you promise to listen to me."
"Yes Ma'am," Cody said.
The chopper approached the landing area. Cody brought the chopper down safely and the pair got out of the chopper.
"About how far do we have to walk before we reach the bee hives?" Cody asked.
"It is about a half mile from here."
They had a wagon that they could use to carry most of the equipment. Lizzie carried the duffle bag and Cody pulled the wagon.
Cody finally got the courage to talk to her. "I don't think we have been properly introduced. I am Cody Hawkes."
"I am Elizabeth Donavan, but everyone calls me Lizzie. It is nice to formally meet you, Cody." Lizzie said.
Cody gave a nervous smile; they walked a bit further before Cody dared to say another word. He had taken several deep breaths. "I am really sorry and want to apologize on how I acted a couple of weeks ago when I spoke to you."
"Apology accepted." Lizzie said. Cody smiled back but did not say another word. He was afraid he would stick his foot in his mouth again. He took several deep breaths.
When they got closer to the beehives they stopped, and Lizzie set her stuff up. Cody hung back and just watched her. When she asked for help, Cody would step in and do whatever she would say. When she had everything ready. "Ready to suit up?"
"Yes ma'am," Cody said.
'You can stop calling me ma'am. You can call me Lizzie." Lizzie said.
Cody followed her instructions on how to put the suit on. She helped him a bit and made sure he had everything on correctly. She went and smoked the hive before she pulled the honey comb out and placed it in the boxes they brought. She replaced each honeycomb with a new one. She taught Cody how to do it and they did it together. Once they were done, they moved everything away from the beehives. Once they were at a safe distance, they took their suits off. Cody followed her lead.
As they walked back to the chopper. "That was amazing. I have never experienced anything like it. The bees were fascinating to watch. Thanks for letting me join you today." Cody said.
"You really enjoyed it?" Lizzie was a bit surprised by Cody's response.
"Yes, I did," Cody said. "Why do you find it so hard to believe."
"You seem to be such a city boy," Lizzie said.
Cody nearly choked, "City boy?"
"Are you not from San Francisco?" Lizzie asked.
"I did live in San Francisco for little over a year before going to college. But I grew up in the Sierra Mountains outside South Lake Tahoe. My dad and I pretty much lived off the grid, with no TV, car, or electricity. We had a generator, but we only ran it here and there. We lived off the land, fished, rode horses, camped. My dad and I lived in a cabin that he built."
"Hmm… I pictured you to be a rich city boy."
"No, I lived a very modest life, we did not have much, but I would not change it for anything. Someday I hope to move back to the mountains. Which is why I wanted to be a Park Ranger. I love being out in nature. We did not travel much, and this is my chance to see another part of the country. Where are you from?" Cody asked.
"I am from the San Diego area. When I was a kid, my family came to Yellowstone on vacation, and I loved it. I always wanted to come back. When I was in college I would work here in the summer. That is where I learned about the bees."
When they got back to the chopper, they loaded up the equipment and the honey. Cody and Lizzie climbed into the chopper. "Are you ready to go?" Cody asked.
"Yep," Cody started up the chopper and they went back to the base. Once they arrived. Jerry met them with some spoons. He helped Cody unload the chopper.
"How did it go?" Jerry asked.
"Jerry, it was amazing. I have not seen anything like it. Thanks for giving me the opportunity."
Lizzie walked around the chopper to Jerry and Cody. "And the best is yet to come." Lizzie held out her hand to Jerry. He handed her the spoons. Lizzie went over to the boxes with the honey and scooped them each a spoon full. She handed each of them a spoon. "Cheers to a productive good day." Each of them ate a spoon full of honey.
"Wow, this is good. Best honey I have ever had. Straight from the honeycomb." Cody said.
They loaded the stuff into Lizzie's truck.
"Do you need any help delivering the honey? If it is okay with Jerry that is?" Cody asked.
"That would be helpful." Lizzie said.
"Go on. I will see you on Monday," Jerry said.
"Thanks Boss, see you Monday." Cody said. "Lizzie, I will follow you with my truck."
"Okay," Lizzie said. She got into her truck and waited for Cody to start his engine. The two went to the Ranger office where Lizzie works to drop off the Honey. Cody helped her unload the stuff and got the honey draining.
"Cody thank you for all your help today. I have really appreciated it," Lizzie said.
Cody got a little nervous and he thought this was his chance. "I was wondering if I could take you out to dinner tonight. Not like a date or anything. I want to thank you for showing me and teaching me about bees and beehives. I would love to learn more. If you don't mind and you are not sick of me yet?"
"I am not sick of you at all. Dinner would be nice, either my treat or we go Dutch. I appreciate all the help today. You went above and beyond what you needed to do," Lizzie smiled.
"Deal, but then we will go Dutch," Cody said.
Cody and Lizzie sat down at the restaurant. "So how long have you been working with bees?"
"Started maybe four years ago while I was in college." Lizzie said.
"When did you graduate?" Cody asked.
"Two years ago, and you?" Lizzie asked.
"Same. I graduated from University of California." Cody answered.
"I graduated from University of Wyoming." Lizzie said. "You are roommates with Mark Jones?"
"Yes, we met at the Park Ranger Law Enforcement Academy. When he got a job here, he encouraged me to look here as well." Cody said.
"Where were you before?" Lizzie asked.
"I was a seasonal employee at Glacier National Park. I took chopper pilot lessons there, so I stayed a little longer to finish up and get my license."
"You seem to be very different man than I met few weeks ago." Lizzie said.
"I am sorry about that. Honestly, I was very nervous and did not know what I was saying. I have not been around many women and tend to stick my foot in my mouth when I am. I have not dated much either," Cody said.
"You might need to change your approach a little. Might help. The man I met today, I would like to get to know better. The man I have seen around, I like to run from as fast as I can." Lizzie said.
"Really," Cody said a bit confused. "Hmm…. those things always seem to work in the books I used to read."
"You mean romance novels?" Lizzie laughed a bit.
"Really… girls don't like that stuff?" Cody asked.
"No, only in those books," Lizzie giggled more. "Just be yourself. The man I met today. I think you will have better luck with women."
"You just rattled my world for the second time today." Cody said.
"Is Mark still dating Roxie?" Lizzie asked.
"No, they broke up about a week ago," Cody said.
"That is good. Her and her friends Sophie and Debbie are nothing but trouble. They are the type of girls that would like that type of stuff or at least until they get what they want from you. And they always want something."
"Yeah, they were bit much for me," Cody said. "I hated that joke they played. The two of them came on to me so strong. Made me feel uncomfortable and a bit foolish. I would not date any of them."
"Unfortunately, that is how they get their kicks," Lizzie said. "I am glad it is not the type of women you are interested in."
Cody got a little red in the face and smiled at bit, "Yeah not at all. Guess I have always been a bit more serious. Not interested in the whole party scene. I am glad Mark and Roxie broke up too. I know he is hurt by it, but glad she will not be around anymore. I been bit uncomfortable every time she was at the apartment."
The waitress drops off the bill. Both Lizzie and Cody paid their bills.
Lizzie smiled back. "I probably should get going. I am working this weekend. If you are interested in learning more about bees. I am giving a talk about bee's at 10 am and 2 pm on both Saturday and Sunday at the nature center near Old Faithful."
"I will be there tomorrow. I love to learn more about them." Cody said. The two got up and left the restaurant. Before they parted ways. Cody reached out his hand to shake Lizzie's hand. "Ranger Donavan, it was good to get to know you better today and learning all about beekeeping."
Lizzie shook Cody's hand back, "It was my pleasure to get to know the real you as well, Ranger Hawkes. I will see you tomorrow."
With that they both got into their trucks and drove to their prospective apartments.
Cody arrived back at his apartment. Mark was there watching a baseball game. Still sulking a bit about Roxie. "Your back late." Mark said.
"I may have just had non-date, date." Cody said.
"Non-date date. What is that?" Mark asked.
"Well… I went out to dinner with a female ranger. We got to know each other better. But we both paid our own way and there was nothing physical about it. Not that I did not want the kissing and stuff. But it was also nice, I did not have to worry about if I should or should not kiss her. I just got to know her in a non-threatening way." Cody said.
"Who was the lucky or unlucky lady?" Mark asked.
"You remember that blonde I asked you about at the bar about a month ago, Lizzie. You said she was out of my league and dating guy named Fred?"
"Yeah, how? Really? Details man," Mark exclaimed. "What about Fred?"
"I think Jerry set us up. I had told him about my last encounter with her and how badly it went. She is a Beekeeper and she had to go out to some bee hives they established way out in the back country. It was time to collect the honey and she needed a ride out there. I flew her out on the chopper, and we had about half mile hike from where we landed to the hive. I helped her with the collection of the honey. She helped me get suited up, she taught me what to do and told me a bit about the process. I asked her to dinner to thank her for the day. Not a date, just dinner. She said we should go Dutch, and we did. She thought I was a rich kid from the city. I had to laugh as I am pretty much the total opposite. Right before we left, Jerry had told me to be myself. And she would like that side of me better. She does not like all that romance talk. She invited me to hear her speak tomorrow and Sunday to learn more about bees."
"Are you going?" Mark asked.
"Yes, I am going to go tomorrow for the 10 am and if it goes well, I will stick around for the 2 pm." Cody said.
"How about I meet you at the 2 pm session. It is over by the Old Faithful station, right?" Mark asked.
"Yes," Cody said.
"There is a group going to meet up about 3:30 to explore the area around there. Depending on when Lizzie is done with work. She may be able to join as well if she likes. It could be another non-date, date." Mark said.
Cody was so excited about his day with Lizzie that he did not sleep well that night. He knew from the moment he saw Lizzie that he was attracted to her, and he wanted to get to know her more. He had such feelings about other women and when he got to know them. Most of the time it did not work out. In college he dated Cassidy for almost a year before they broke it off. They were very serious, and Cody had lost his virginity to her. He loved that feeling of being in love and having that feeling of closeness with someone. He been with couple of other women since, but he learned that sex for him was not the same unless he truly loved the person. Still felt good for the moment, but it was just a moment. He wanted what he had with Cassidy again. It was still early, but he wanted to know more about Lizzie. He only knew her a little over twenty-four hours, but he was totally falling for her.
Next day Cody arrived at the Old Faithfull Nature center about an hour before Lizzie's bee show was to take place. He wanted to make sure that he was not late, and he could help her set-up. He dressed as nice as he could with the thought of hiking in the midafternoon. He did bring a change of clothes.
"Good morning, Cody," Lizzie said. "You came."
"Yes, I want to learn more. I was thinking about everything you told me last night. Thinking it might be nice to set up some hives near my dad's place up in the mountains if the altitude is not too high or near the ranger station if it were to be permitted. Maybe good way to subsidize some income in the future." Cody explained.
"It is my dream someday to have my own hives, process, and sell honey." Lizzie said. She got everything all set. "Cody why don't you take a seat over here. I may need to call on you for some assistance during the show."
"Okay," Cody said.
Visitors started to gather in the small theater. Some younger children would run up to her display that showed some of the honeycomb. Lizzie had some of the combs that her and Cody picked up the day before. The kids were amazed by everything they were looking at. Cody watched how she interacted with the kids and the adults. She was totally natural with them. As the show was about to begin.
"Ladies and Gentlemen, boys, and girls if you could take your seats. The show, "All About the Bee's, is going to start in two minutes." A few minutes passed and Lizzie walked up onto the small stage.
"Good morning, all. I am Ranger Donavan. I hail from San Diego, California. Do we have anyone else here from California?" A few people clapped and raised their hands. "Where is everyone else from?" Lizzie called on a few of the kids and they said, Wisconsin, Maine, Texas, New Mexico, etc. There were about 18 different states represented at the talk. "Today's talk will be slightly different than most. We are going to talk all about bees through the eyes of someone who experienced Beekeeping for the first time. Here at Yellowstone National Park, we have several beekeepers throughout the park. Here in the Mammoth Hot Springs and Old Faithfull area we have crew of two beekeepers year-round with another four keepers during the summer hours. I have worked with the bees here for the last four years. Two years as an intern and now I am on my second year as a full-time beekeeper. The example hives you see here were picked yesterday by Ranger Hawkes and me in the back country. This is the basis for our talk today. This particular hive is located in a place that cannot be reached by a motor vehicle. Only by a long hike, horse ride or chopper. We have found here at Yellowstone that horses and bees don't mix well. If you like to get thrown off your horse, that is the route to take. I prefer to stay on the horses when I ride them." The crowd laughed a bit. "So yesterday Ranger Hawkes and I did a combination of flying in a chopper with about a half mile hike to the hives. I would like to thank Ranger Hawkes, he is one of our newest chopper pilots here at Yellowstone, for giving me a ride out there. It saved me about a 12 hour round trip hike and carrying about 120 pounds of honey back with me. That would not have been possible." The crowd clapped and Cody nodded. "Yesterday was Ranger Hawkes first time experience with bees up close and personal. Since he decided to learn more about bees today, thought maybe you would like to hear from someone's first time experience. If Ranger Hawkes does not mind coming up here?" Cody nodded and he got up. The crowd clapped. "That is what happens when you show up hour before the show begins." The crowd laughed a bit. "No worries I did check with him earlier and he does not mind. Ranger Hawkes, can you tell us about yourself."
"I am Ranger Cody Hawkes; I hail from the Sierra Mountains outside of South Lake Tahoe in California. I grew up in the mountains in a cabin built by my father. I have been a National Park Officer for about 2 years. I just joined the staff here at Yellowstone National Park about 2 months ago. I previously worked at Glacier National Park before coming here."
"What kind of experience have you had previously with bees?" Lizzie asked.
"Before yesterday my only experience with a hive was when you accidentally stumble across a hive while out in the wilderness. I have experienced getting thrown off your horse in those situations and not something you want to experience for sure." The crowd laughed a bit.
Lizzie continued with the presentation. "We started our morning out by loading up the chopper with the equipment, and boxes to store the honeycomb, some empty boxes and the all-important bee suits, boots, some handy tools, and smoker. Four key things you never go without." Lizzie was flipping through some pictures taken during a previous trip.
"So, Ranger Hawkes, what was your expectation of bee keeping before yesterday?" Lizzie asked.
"I did not expect there to be as much work as there is. I thought you just go out to the hives and take the honeycomb. But there is much more work to it."
"You are correct Ranger Hawkes. There is much more work involved when caring for beehives. The bees live in what they call a colony. The bees will know exactly which hive is theirs. The bees will go out and collect the pollen and bring it to the hives, where they will create combs, brood and will produce honey. How many queen bees do you think each hive has?" a bunch of kids raised their hands. Lizzie called on a cute little red-haired boy. "What your name?"
"Todd," the little boy said.
"How many queen bees are in each hive?"
"One queen" Todd said.
"That is correct. The beehives only have one queen per hive. Bees are a smart species. If there is an issue with their queen bee, the bees will sense it and they will build new queen cells. What they are doing is preparing to replace their queen. Beekeepers will then need to inspect their hives to determine if any of these queen cells have been developed. If the Beekeeper finds these cells, then they need to take a closer look at the hive. See if there are any other issues out there. The hive will not allow more than one queen bee. If there is a new queen bee in the hive, the bees will kill one of the queen bees. Her primary responsibility is to reproduce and increase the size of the hive. If the hive does not think she is laying enough eggs per the hive desire, they will replace her. So, what do you think we need in order to harvest the honey?"
Lizzie pointed to a little girl. "You need a box to put the honey in and spoon."
"What is the spoon for?" Lizzie asked.
"Well… you need a spoon if you want to eat the honey." The little girl said. The crowd laughed a bit.
"Ranger Hawkes did we have any spoons for sampling the honey?" Lizzie asked Cody.
"We did, it was the best honey I have ever tasted." Cody said.
"Well spoons are not necessary for the harvest process; it is a nice treat when harvesting the hives. Preparation for harvesting begins in some cases a few days to few weeks earlier. You must be constantly checking your hive to make sure they are filling them with brood and honey. When getting closer to harvesting you need to add an escape board. We only want to include the combs with just honey. Brood is the bee's layer, and they won't leave it. The escape board will allow any bees to leave the boxes or what is referred to as honey supers. But they can't get back in. What this does is allow the beekeepers to extract the honey without taking the bees with us. You can see from our samples. A few of the bees stayed with us. In this case, the bees were little upset with us for taking them on a half mile guided ranger tour and a free chopper ride over beautiful Yellowstone Park. I don't know why they would be; I had an enjoyable time and loved the scenic views. I know Ranger Hawkes appreciated not feeling the rath of unhappy visitors while flying the chopper." The crowd laughed. "Ranger Hawkes, do you mind sharing with us your feelings about your first experience with bee hives?"
"I first want to thank Ranger Donavan for allowing me to get hands on with the beehives yesterday. I hope in the future I will be able to assist her more and I would like to continue to learn more about beekeeping. I can see where it could be good hobby or business later in life. I was fascinated watching how the bees work well together. How they create the honey combs out of nothing. You have these little bees and the amount of noise they make when there are thousands of them together. I still heard them in my dreams last night." The crowd laughed.
"Ranger Hawkes, I am glad you had an enjoyable first experience with the beehives. Can anyone guess the number times Ranger Hawkes and I got stung yesterday?"
Lizzie pointed to each child before they answered Seven, fifteen, eleven, three, two, zero.
"Zero is correct. We are well protected with our bee suits and boots. Does anyone have any questions?"
Few people had questions and Lizzie was able to answer them. "Well, we are out of time for this session, I will be back again at 2 pm today and at 10 am and 2 pm tomorrow. If you still have some questions, please stop by the booth outside these doors. There are some rangers out there with some sample honey for you to try."
The crowd died down and Cody and Lizzie went and had lunch in the employee lunchroom.
"You did a wonderful job on that presentation. You brought a lot of energy and made it very interesting," Cody said.
"I love presenting to the visitors. The kids are the best part. You never know what you will get from them. Sorry I dragged you into it, but you were a good sport, and you did a good job. Are you up to doing it again at two?" Lizzie asked.
"Sure, at 3:30 there is a group that will be going hiking at tower falls. Would you be interested in joining the group?" Cody asked.
"I would be interested, I just need to change afterwork," Lizzie said.
"I have to change clothes as well, so I will wait for you," Cody said.
The two pm ranger show was just as successful as the first. If not even more. Cody and Lizzie were getting more and more comfortable together. Mark came to watch the two pm show and was impressed with his friend's job. Cody was never one for public speaking, but he looked so natural. Mark could see the chemistry growing between them.
The larger group took off on the hike before Cody and Lizzie met up with them. They took their time and caught up with them eventually. Cody and Lizzie did not care, and they were enjoying getting to know each other. Lizzie shared that she was one of three kids. She was the youngest with an older brother and sister. Her brother was five years older and was a lawyer and her sister was three years older and a nurse. Both live within an hour of their parents. She has a niece Bella and nephew Jordan. Both are her brother's kids. Her sister was married, but no kids yet. Her parents had been happily married for thirty-five years. Cody told her about his family. That he was raised by his dad in the mountains with little to no contact with his mom. His dad was now a bounty hunter in San Francisco. He does not see him much anymore either. And he bragged about Matt and that he was the commander of the High Mountain Rangers. He and his wife Robin were both rangers and were proud parents of his precious niece Kelly. Cody shared with her a picture he carried around of Kelly.
"She is so cute. Would you ever want to go back to Tahoe and be a High Mountain Ranger?" Lizzie asked.
"Long term I would like to go back. I would have started there if they had any openings, but I am glad they did not. I have learned so much more from being out on my own. Mark and I have become great friends, I have gotten to experience another part of the country, learned to fly choppers and now I have learned all about bees and hives. Most of all, I am glad I am getting to know you." Cody was not sure he should say the last part, but he could not help himself. He had only known her for a little over twenty-four hours and he was falling fast for her.
The hike came to an end. Mark was waiting for Cody for a ride back to their apartment.
"I am glad I have gotten to know you as well. When I first met you, I thought you were an arrogant jerk and womanizer. I am glad I was wrong about you. I have enjoyed getting to know you better as well. Are you able to come tomorrow?" Lizzie asked.
"I wish I could. I am going rock climbing with a group I have joined in the morning and in the afternoon, I try to catch up with my family." Cody said. "I am working next weekend. Are you free in two weeks to do something?"
"I am off in two weeks. Because of the honey harvesting I worked two weekends in a row." I have a longer weekend then. My family is coming up during the week and leaving early Sunday morning. Maybe we could do something then?"
"I would like that a lot," Cody said. "Maybe we can have dinner during the week sometime?"
"I would like that. Here is my number to my apartment, my desk number and email address. Not that I am in front of a computer much. I imagine you are not either."
"Couple times a day, that is about it. I am still getting used to email," Cody said.
"Same here. Sometimes my sister-in-law will attach some photos of my niece and nephew to the email." Lizzie said.
"My brother and sister-in-law will sometimes contact me through email but will mail me photos every time they get their film processed. Which is not often enough." Cody said.
"Yeah. That is the only downside of living out here. I wish I could be closer to my niece and nephew. I am so looking forward to them coming in a couple of weeks."
Over the next two weeks Cody and Lizzie got closer and closer. Cody shared his family photos of Kelly, Matt, Robin and the other rangers. He had a few pictures with his dad and mom. "You look a lot like your dad."
"That is what everyone says," Cody responded.
"Your brother looks a lot like your mom, but you are both enough of a mix that you can totally tell you are brothers." Lizzie said.
"I do miss them a lot. They are going to try to come in early November for a visit. I cannot wait," Cody said.
Lizzie's family came into town. So, Cody did not see or talk to Lizzie much then. He was missing her, but she called on Friday to invite him to join her family for Saturday evening dinner. Cody was casually dressed up for dinner. Cody was nervous, he had met previous girlfriends' family before, but he really wanted to make a good impression with Lizzie's family. It was still a new relationship, and he did not want to do anything that would cause Lizzie to break up with him.
Cody fears were quickly released. Lizzie's family loved Cody. Her mother could not stop singing Cody's praises. Lizzie's last boyfriend Fred, her family did not like him at all. They thought he was a bit controlling of Lizzie. Cody seemed to be more supportive and kind. Jesse had taught his son well on how to be respective of women and how to treat them with respect.