Forced Errors
When the 37s invite her crew to stay, she allows each of them to decide. The ship can't fly with less than a hundred people, so if half accept, it'll damn them all.
When the Doctor falls in love, she lets him go. Losing the CMO will mean measurably more deaths, but she doesn't have the right to stand in his way.
But when B'Elanna refuses a treatment she'll die without, Kathryn overrides her medical wishes.
"Losing you was unacceptable," she says. But it's Tom who made the request and Tom she would have lost, and they both know it.
