Jordan- 12
Jordan was in the lounge of the District working on her homework, she was on her health homework. Recently she was learning about sex and it made her curious. She put her work away for a minute so she could ask about it, the twelve year old knew that would be an uncomfortable talk with her father so she'd ask Erin about it. A moment later Erin had walked in to get a cup of coffee.
"Hey Jordy, whatcha doin?" Erin asked pouring the coffee.
"Finishing up some homework. Can I ask you something?" Jordan replied.
"Sure sweetie what is it?" She sipped some of the hot coffee.
"What's sex?"
Erin choked on her coffee as she looked wide eyed at her sister, Jordan looked a bit confused as if she said something wrong.
"Are you ok?"
"I'm fine, sweetheart that's a conversation you should have with your dad not me".
"But having that kinda conversation with dad will seem weird and awkward".
"It's weird with any parent not just dads".
"Would you be there when I talk to him about it?"
"Of course I will".
After the work day was over Hank and Jordan headed home, the twelve year old was a bit nervous to speak to her father about this alone. She'd feel better once Erin would be with her, in her mind she'd hope it would be a lot less awkward if another girl was with her.
The father and daughter arrived home to see Justin just finishing dinner, the young girl knew it wouldn't be the right time to have this conversation. She wished at times like this she had her mother around so it wouldn't be very awkward but growing up with a strict overprotective father and brother, in an all male environment she felt nervous about discussing like this with either of them but she knew sooner or later she'd get the talk.
As the small family ate dinner Jordan still hadn't brought it up she wanted to wait till afterwards. After they ate Hank gathered up all the dishes and brought them to the kitchen to wash them and Jordan followed her father, just as he was setting the dishes into the sink he glanced to see his little girl standing there.
"What's up sweetheart?" Hank asked.
"Dad I was hoping I could talk to you about something". Jordan replied.
"What is it?"
"What's sex?"
Hank then looked straight forward and wide eyed when he heard that question come from his daughter. Closing his eyes and taking a deep breath he really wished times like this Anna was here to have this talk with Jordan. He couldn't believe that he had to give her the talk, it was a moment he'd be unready and unprepared for. Jordan had always been his little girl, his baby, his princess, giving her the talk was a sign she was growing up. Something he didn't like, he wanted his little girl to stay little forever but that couldn't happen.
"Sweetheart we'll have that conversation tomorrow for now go get ready for bed and I'll be up to check on you in a few minutes". Hank finally got his voice back.
"Ok".
The young girl then left the kitchen and went up to her room to get ready for bed, Justin got a confused look on his face as he entered the kitchen and looked to his father.
"What was that about Pop?" Justin asked.
"I think it's time we gave Jo the talk". Hank answered.
Justin then got wide eyed as a look of disbelief appeared on his face. "You don't mean". He couldn't even finish the sentence.
"Yup the talk".
"She's too young Pop".
To hear that his baby sister has to get the talk he didn't wanna believe that his little sister was growing up, it seemed only yesterday she'd run into his arms after school. Now she was growing up right before their eyes.
"I remember the day you're mother gave you the talk".
Justin chuckled remembering the day. "At first it was weird ya know you're learning something new about life but then it wasn't so weird or awkward because it's just facts about everyday life and sooner or later you're gonna have to learn it. But to hear that Jo Jo has to get the talk it's just hard to believe that she's 12 years old it seemed only yesterday she was born now this".
"I only wished that Anna was here to talk to her about it".
"It won't be that bad Pop, you're just stating facts about life".
"Isn't she supposed to be older before she gets this talk?"
"She's at the right age to learn about this, I got the talk when I was her age".
"Jo's growing up right before our eyes".
"It'll be alright Pop, I'll be right there when you have the talk. It won't be that bad".
"The day you have a kid and you have to give the talk then you'll understand".
"Nobody won't ever do anything with Jo and if they do anything I'll have to...talk with them".
Hank chuckled. "Just 'talking'?"
"Yeah talk, I'm sure you would do more than talk".
"You got that right".
Jordan was in her pajamas waiting for her father a couple of minutes later Hank had came into the room, he headed over to her and tucked the blanket around her. The twelve year old looked down with a nervous look on her face, Hank noticed the look on her face.
"Sweetheart what is it?"
"Was I not suppose to ask what sex was?"
"Jo, it's a normal question to ask it's not a bad question I was just caught off guard. Now that you're getting older there's gonna be some things that you're gonna learn. You are gonna have questions and it's nothing bad, if you have questions you can come to me, Justin, Erin, any of us".
"I didn't know if I said something wrong or not".
"Baby you didn't say anything wrong you're growing up, you're learning new things everyday. We'll talk about this more tomorrow I promise".
"Can Justin and Erin be there too?"
"Yeah they can be there too".
Jordan leaned up and hugged her father. "Good night daddy".
"Sweet dreams baby".
He then kissed her head and tucked the blanket back around her and watched as she fell asleep. Quietly he left the room he stood at the door for a moment then went to his room and went to bed for the night.
By the next day Hank was getting more nervous, soon he was about to give Jordan the talk. It was the day he dreaded. He started a pot of coffee just as his children came down and there was a knock on the door, Justin opened the door to see Erin there.
"Hey". Erin said.
"Hey". Justin says hugging her, then kissing her cheek.
"Erin". Jordan ran to hug her sister.
"Hey Jordy". Erin hugged the young girl.
They all then went to the living room and sat down, Hank brought out a tray with cups of it 3 were filled with coffee, a glass was of juice for Jordan. Once that was on the table he then brought out the rest of the pot, he didn't know how long this conversation all he knew was that he'd need something for afterwards.
Justin and Erin took a cup of coffee and put some cream and sugar in it, Hank sat down then Jordan sat next to her father as she took a drink of her juice.
"Alright dad what is sex?" Jordan asked.
Erin and Justin bit their lips as they tried to hide their chuckles and laughter as Hank took a deep breath and began explaining.
"Well sex is when a man and a woman decide they want to do this, the man's penis goes inside the woman's vagina".
"Does it hurt?"
"All people are different for some people it could hurt, for others it may not hurt".
During the conversation Justin and Erin are still holding in their laughter and chuckles, Hank would glance over at them giving them a warning glare.
"Why do people do it?"
"I guess some people do it to express their love for each other".
"Why".
"Erin you wanna join in". Hank looked to his surrogate daughter.
"I think you got this Hank". Erin says, trying to hide her laughter.
"How about you Justin". Hank then looked to his son.
"You got this Pop". Justin said, trying to hide his own laughter.
"Well Jo I don't really know why people do that to show their love. In my opinion it should always be done between adults. Teenagers shouldn't do it".
"Why".
"It's a very complicated thing for everyone, teenagers shouldn't do it because it'll affect you for the rest of your life".
"Why".
"For some people it could mess with their emotions. Unplanned pregnancies is a huge factor".
"What's that?"
"An unplanned pregnancy is mistimed, unplanned or unwanted at the time of conception".
"What's a pregnancy?"
"Erin you wanna answer that?" Hank asked his surrogate daughter.
"You're on a roll you got this". Erin chuckled.
"What a pregnancy is where a woman carries a baby for 9 months".
"How does the baby get there?"
Justin and Erin bit their lips harder trying to control their laughter and it was getting harder and harder for the two. All Hank could do was glance over at the two giving them a warning glare.
"Well sweetheart, when a sperm comes out of the man's penis. Sometimes the sperm joins with one of the tiny eggs inside the woman's body, and that makes the egg begin growing into a baby. This happens in the special place women have called a uterus."
"Why is it a woman can carry a baby but a man can't?"
"A woman has the right reproductive parts whereas a man doesn't".
"It sounds very unpleasant and possibly painful".
"Now Jo what I'm about to tell you is very important".
"What is it?"
"You should never ever have sex if you feel pressured into it".
"Why".
"Most days kids are peer pressured into a lot of things, drinking, drugs, sex, to make it seem cool but in reality it's not. Some of them will end up doing it to fit in and be cool but they won't be cool because you will never know what could come from having sex. Other than getting pregnant there are other things involved with having sex".
"Like what?"
"You can catch many diseases or infections from having it".
"What if a guy wants to but I don't?"
"If a guy or anyone forces themselves on you and you say no it's called a sexual assault and if they do force you to do it against your will that's called rape".
"Why does it happen?"
"I hear many different reasons for it Jo. If you ever feel uncomfortable doing something that you don't wanna do just come to either me, Justin, Erin, somebody we'll help you".
"I will".
"Another important thing if the day ever happens first make sure you're protected and make sure who you're with is also protected".
"Justin wanna help me here". Hank looked to his son.
"You're doing great Pop". Justin says.
"Erin wanna help out sometime". Hank looked to Erin.
"You got this". She said after taking a drink of coffee.
"How do you protect yourself if you decide to have sex?" Jordan asked.
"Guys will wear a condom. Girls go on birth control".
"What's a condom?"
By this point Erin and Justin were now starting to laugh a bit harder they looked away so they wouldn't get in trouble but Hank just sent them both a warning glare the entire time.
"A condom is a thin rubber sheath worn on a man's penis during sexual intercourse as a contraceptive or as protection against infection. So if used right it could prevent pregnancies, STDs or HPV".
"What's birth control?"
"It's to help prevent pregnancy also it helps regulate your period".
"Going back a little you said condom could prevent against STDs or HPV".
"That's right".
"What's an STD?"
"An STD is a sexually transmitted diseases passed through having sex. There are many of them. You have Chlamydia, It is caused by bacteria called Chlamydia trachomatis. It can infect both men and women. Women can get chlamydia in the cervix, rectum, or throat. Men can get chlamydia in the urethra (inside the penis), rectum, or throat. Chlamydia doesn't usually cause any symptoms. So you may not realize that you have it. People with chlamydia who have no symptoms can still pass the disease to others. If you do have symptoms, they may not appear until several weeks after you have sex with an infected partner. .
Next is Genital herpes, a herpes simplex virus (HSV). It can cause sores on your genital or rectal area, buttocks, and thighs. You can get it from having vaginal, anal, or oral sex with someone who has it. The virus can spread even when sores are not present. Mothers can also infect their babies during childbirth. Symptoms of herpes are called outbreaks. You usually get sores near the area where the virus has entered the body. The sores are blisters which break and become painful, and then heal. Sometimes people do not know they have herpes because they have no symptoms or very mild symptoms. The virus can be more serious in newborn babies or in people with weak immune systems.
Next you have Gonorrhea, The bacteria that cause gonorrhea can infect the genital tract, mouth, or anus. You can get gonorrhea during vaginal, oral, or anal sex with an infected partner. A pregnant woman can pass it to her baby during childbirth. Gonorrhea does not always cause symptoms. In men, gonorrhea can cause pain when urinating and discharge from the penis. If untreated, it can cause problems with the prostate and testicles. In women, the early symptoms of gonorrhea often are mild. Later, it can cause bleeding between periods, pain when urinating, and increased discharge from the vagina. If untreated, it can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease, which causes problems with pregnancy and infertility.
This next one is very important, next you have HIV/AIDS, HIV stands for human immunodeficiency virus. It harms your immune system by destroying the white blood cells that fight infection. This puts you at risk for serious infections and certain cancers. AIDS stands for acquired immunodeficiency syndrome. It is the final stage of infection with HIV. Not everyone with HIV develops AIDS.
HIV most often spreads through unprotected sex with an infected person. It may also spread by sharing drug needles or through contact with the blood of an infected person. Women can give it to their babies during pregnancy or childbirth.
The first signs of HIV infection may be swollen glands and flu-like symptoms. These may come and go within two to four weeks. Severe symptoms may not appear until months or years later.
Next you have HPV the one I was talking about earlier, Human papillomaviruses (HPV) are a group of related viruses. They can cause warts on different parts of your body. There are more than 200 types. About 40 of those types affect the genitals. They are spread through sexual contact with an infected partner. Some of those can put you at risk for cancer. HPV infections are the most common sexually transmitted infections in the United States. Anyone who has ever been sexually active can get HPV, but you are more likely to get it if you have had many sex partners or have had sex with someone who has had many partners. Because it is so common, most people get HPV infections shortly after becoming sexually active for the first time.
Some people develop genital warts from HPV infection, but others have no symptoms. Most high-risk HPV infections go away within 1 to 2 years and do not cause cancer. Some HPV infections, however, can persist for many years. Those infections can lead to cell changes that, if not treated, may become cancerous.
In women, Pap tests can detect changes in the cervix that might lead to cancer. Pap tests, along with HPV tests, are used in cervical cancer screening.
Correct usage of latex condoms greatly reduces, but does not completely eliminate, the risk of catching or spreading HPV. Vaccines can protect against several types of HPV, including some that can cause cancer.
Next is Syphilis, It infects the genital area, lips, mouth, or anus of both men and women. You usually get syphilis from sexual contact with someone who has it. It can also pass from mother to baby during pregnancy.
The early stage of syphilis usually causes a single, small, painless sore. Sometimes it causes swelling in nearby lymph nodes. If you do not treat it, syphilis usually causes a non-itchy skin rash, often on your hands and feet. Many people do not notice symptoms for years. Symptoms can go away and come back.
The sores caused by syphilis make it easier to get or give someone HIV during sex. If you are pregnant, syphilis can cause birth defects, or you could lose your baby. In rare cases, syphilis causes serious health problems and even death.
Syphilis is easy to cure with antibiotics if you catch it early. Correct usage of latex condoms greatly reduces, but does not completely eliminate, the risk of catching or spreading syphilis.
Finally you have Trichomoniasis, caused by a parasite. You get it through sexual intercourse with an infected partner. Many people do not have any symptoms. If you do get symptoms, they usually happen within 5 to 28 days after being infected.
It can cause vaginitis in women. Some of the symptoms are, yellow-green or gray discharge from the vagina, discomfort during sex, vaginal odor, painful urination, or Itching in or near the vagina
Most men do not have symptoms. If they do, they may have a whitish discharge from the penis and painful or difficult urination and ejaculation".
Jordan looked wide eyed at her father. "Just hearing all this makes me not wanna ever have sex".
"And that's your choice Jo, most people do it for many reasons sometimes I don't know. They'll do it in the moment and not think about the outcomes and from what I just told you there are a lot of outcomes of having it".
"I don't think I'll ever do it".
"If you do make sure it's with someone you love, someone you care about and someone you trust".
"Why".
"If you do it with some person that you don't have any feelings with it would be meaningless so to say. If you do it with a person you love and trust then it would be something meaningful".
"I understand".
"Any more questions, comments, concerns".
"Nope. Thanks for talking with me dad".
"Anytime sweetheart".
The twelve year old then took her juice and went up to her room, after she was out of sight and hearing Erin and Justin finally burst with laughter just as Hank glared at them.
"Is there a reason y'all couldn't help me?" Hank finally asked.
"It's a parent's job to do it Hank and well you're the parent". Erin laughed.
"She's right Pop". Justin agreed.
"So why were you here?"
"Support". Erin said.
"Same". Justin spoke.
"When the day comes and one of you have to give the talk don't come looking for my help". Hank says to the two.
"I dread the day Jo brings home a boy for the first time". Erin says.
"He'd get shown the door".
"He wouldn't make it past the door with me he'd be lucky if he makes it past the steps or out of his car". Justin spoke.
"Jo isn't dating, she will never date, she will never get married. End of story". Hank said.
"I can't wait till her first date, her prom, all of it". Erin spoke.
"Erin I'm chaperoning the prom, her dates, all of it. I was a teenage boy once I know what most of them want and they aren't getting anything from Jo. If they try then they'll end up with a broken arm, leg, whatever they'll know not to mess with my little sister ever again". Justin says shrugging his shoulders.
Erin then looked to her surrogate father. "Hank are you hearing this?"
"Yeah, I'd do the same thing if not more". Hank agreed with his son.
"You two are overprotective".
"It's part of my job description as a father".
After the two left Hank then thought about some of what he told Jordan, if anyone did anything to his little girl that way he'd make sure that person would never do it again. If a guy ever hurt her that way Hank would have a very long conversation with him and possibly cut off the guy's manhood.
He'd protect his baby girl any possible way he can from anything and anyone, especially boys. No matter how old his little girl was he'd make damn sure that all the boys stayed away from her at any given cost. No boy would ever be worth of his little princess.
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